Joined: 09 Oct 2007 Posts: 32 Location: Portland, Oregon
Advice For Our First Time Please!? Posted: 10-09-07 02:09am
I figured it would be best to post this in
the womens section, as it is a personal
opinion men don't really care about the
passion and specialness of makeing love...
or give much GOOD advice...
So I have been dating my girlfriend for
the last 10 months, we see each other many
every month... and have never gotten time
alone. Sex has never really been very
important to either of us, and when it
happens it happens. But in a few weeks
she will be spending the weekend with me
(a first) And we decided that we wanted it
to be our first time... a quick history,
she has had sex once, more then a year
ago, and it definitely wasn't enjoyable
for her. I wanted to get some tips on
making it really special for her...
something she will never forget. She is
also the girl I hope to marry someday. I
love her to death and will do anything for
her. I just figured you could give me
advice of things guys did for you that
felt really special! Thank you!
I will email you as well but I am offended
about the comment that men don't really
care. Making love is always special to me
and I've always put her needs first.
First if she's only had sex once and it
was more than a year ago then it will
probably be kind of painful.
If you want it to go smoothly make sure
she is very turned on, make her orgasm
once beforehand so that the muscles are
loosened and she is very wet.
Use water based lubricant as well because
the first time can be very tight and the
last thing you want to do is hurt her.
Show her you care, talk to her and make
sure she is ok while you are going through
with it. If she says it hurts then let her
know it is ok to stop.
Be very gentle and go slowly, don't bang
her like a drum.
Let her take control at the beginning and
get her body used to your manhood being
inside of her.
And more than anything make sure she is
comfortable because if she isn't, her body
wont be as receptive and the chance of
hurting her physically and emotionally
increases. You don't want her to regret
doing it. The pain will probably be there
and some women feel pain for the first few
moments of sex every single time, just be
gentle, go slow, let her know you love her
and you care about her.
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Georgia59
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Joined: 11 Apr 2007 Posts: 5321 Location: Along the Mississippi, USA
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Posted: 10-09-07 12:34pm
Sex shouldn't be painful. Not the first
time, not ever. If it hurts, there is
something wrong- she isn't lubricated
enough or she isn't turned on, or she
isn't comfortable.
But sex shouldn't hurt!!!
I do agree though, both of you are
examples that men DO care about sex. Thanks!
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beepbeep176
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Jul 2006 Posts: 249 Location: Port Charlotte, FL USA
Posted: 10-09-07 12:41pm
Well I don't agree that you should make
her orgasm once before you have sex.
Personally after I orgasm I tighten up and
the sex is much less enjoyable afterwards.
Maybe get her close, but I wouldn't
suggest you actually make her orgasm. But
that's just one point of view.
A tip for not hurting her. Foreplay, even
romantic foreplay with lots of kisses and
soft touches should turn her on. That way
you won't need lube (it can really kill a
mood) As long as she's relaxed I think she
should be fine. Oh and once you're in make
sure you take it slow at first so she can
get use to it. Have fun!
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Georgia59
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Joined: 11 Apr 2007 Posts: 5321 Location: Along the Mississippi, USA
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Posted: 10-09-07 15:47pm
Lol- I need lube every time. No joke.
Every time. We go through tons of it.
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nightangel73
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Posted: 10-09-07 17:41pm
beepbeep176
wrote:
A tip for not hurting her. Foreplay, even
romantic foreplay with lots of kisses and
soft touches should turn her on. That way
you won't need lube (it can really kill a
mood) As long as she's relaxed I think she
should be fine.
Yeah that's what I don't like to use
lube.. I don't like to stop a romantic
kissing session to put that thing..
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silentbear777
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Oct 2007 Posts: 32 Location: Portland, Oregon
Posted: 10-09-07 19:28pm
beepbeep176
wrote:
Well I don't agree that you
should make her orgasm once before you
have sex. Personally after I orgasm I
tighten up and the sex is much less
enjoyable afterwards. Maybe get her close,
but I wouldn't suggest you actually make
her orgasm. But that's just one point of
view.
A tip for not hurting her. Foreplay, even
romantic foreplay with lots of kisses and
soft touches should turn her on. That way
you won't need lube (it can really kill a
mood) As long as she's relaxed I think she
should be fine. Oh and once you're in make
sure you take it slow at first so she can
get use to it. Have
fun!
well I already had most of it planed out,
though shes mad I'm not telling her
anything, and yes, I will be going slow
and a lot lot of foreplay. Thank you
though
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