Joined: 09 Oct 2007 Posts: 32 Location: Portland, Oregon
For Thoes Who Have Quit Posted: 10-09-07 20:17pm
Just a quick question for thoes people who
have overcome there adiction to cutting
themselves. Since it is easy to tell
people "You should stop" But very hard to
stop. What are some of the ways you have
stoped cutting? How did you do it and what
did it take to overcome your addiction?
Also, the scars that are left, do you see
them as something to hide and be ashamed
of? Or do you not care? Or think of them
as a memento, something to remind you of
what you overcame in your life?
Personally, I wanted to stop for a while
before I actually did, I would go months
without cutting, then one day for no real
reason make a few more marks. The one
thing that helped me stop was my love for
my wonderful girlfriend, I didnt want to
see her hurt from what I was doing. I
realized that it hurt her much more then
it did me. She gave me the strength to
stop. for good. And I personally am not
ashamed of my scars, if someone asks, I
tell them what they are from. I look at
them as something that I have overcome in
my life, And I do not hide them.
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hannah17
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Oct 2007 Posts: 1 Location: ,
Posted: 10-10-07 00:34am
Hi SilentBear, congratulations that you
finally overcoming your self cutting
addiction with the help of your
girlfriend. Also my cousin seemed totally
overcome the addiction, one major
treatment is an antidepressant or
anti-anxiety medication which reduced the
initial impulsive response to stress, plus
the family therapy while also other coping
strategies are somewhat developed in the
program. Hope you will totally overcome it
too, good luck!
I went through a long period of time where
harming myself was the only way I could
relieve any stress. My life was pretty bad
from around 15-18 and everyone took their
problems out on me. Every time I expressed
my feelings back people would go into
depression or start talking down on
themselves and saying how they were
horrible people and horrible whatever
their relationship was to me was. So
instead of trying to express my feelings
at all I would just take it out on myself,
whether it be by blood or injuries from
doing things I knew I shouldn't do. It
made me a hateful pessimistic person on
the inside, but I never let it show on the
outside.
Once I started college I just decided that
I was going to stop all of it and be
optimistic to a fault. Sure it wasn't
healthy to do that either, seeing no bad
at all and living blindly...but it was
healthier than harming myself. I had a few
relapses since I was 18 but it wasn't too
bad. The last time was the day before new
years. Instead of ruining the evening I
kept it to myself and sobbingly showed my
new at the time, girlfriend what I had
done. That night I saw her cry for the
first time and just thinking about the
tears running down her face is making me
tear up. I saw how much it hurt her and
right then I promised I would never do it
again...and I haven't. She has no idea how
much that night changed me and how she
made me the happy person I am. I am happy
to say our 1 year is coming up in November
and we are still very much happy and in
love.
haha I do though, still make jokes about
doing stupid things...but not because I
want to get hurt...because well I'm male
and male do stupid :-p but it's all in
fun.
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young Girl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 10-10-07 09:12am
long story short
i started to get involved with the WRONG
people
i started doing heavy drugs
was ebing abused
running away from home
one of my best friends died in a car
wreck... so i got more depressed and
started cutting. me and my friends would
do it together when we got messed up.
a few months later one of my good buddies
whom actually started to do drugs with us
was sent to rehab. he escaped from rehab
and commited suicide on rail road tracks.
he layed down and rest his head on the
railing and let the train just kill him.
after this i realized that could be me
what made me quit?
life
life is worth it
life is worth living and breathing and
laughing and yes even the huting part
ive been clean from coke for over 2 years
now. and i havent cut since either
its just not worth it
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rosejackson
Supporter
Joined: 23 Dec 2005 Posts: 4326 Location: hertfordshire, england
Thanks: 3
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Posted: 10-10-07 09:25am
thanks suzy for sharing. i know its
difficult, but you're right it's not worth
it.
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silentbear777
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Oct 2007 Posts: 32 Location: Portland, Oregon
Posted: 10-10-07 12:47pm
Whaturmuva
wrote:
My story...
I went through a long period of time where
harming myself was the only way I could
relieve any stress. My life was pretty bad
from around 15-18 and everyone took their
problems out on me. Every time I expressed
my feelings back people would go into
depression or start talking down on
themselves and saying how they were
horrible people and horrible whatever
their relationship was to me was. So
instead of trying to express my feelings
at all I would just take it out on myself,
whether it be by blood or injuries from
doing things I knew I shouldn't do. It
made me a hateful pessimistic person on
the inside, but I never let it show on the
outside.
Once I started college I just decided that
I was going to stop all of it and be
optimistic to a fault. Sure it wasn't
healthy to do that either, seeing no bad
at all and living blindly...but it was
healthier than harming myself. I had a few
relapses since I was 18 but it wasn't too
bad. The last time was the day before new
years. Instead of ruining the evening I
kept it to myself and sobbingly showed my
new at the time, girlfriend what I had
done. That night I saw her cry for the
first time and just thinking about the
tears running down her face is making me
tear up. I saw how much it hurt her and
right then I promised I would never do it
again...and I haven't. She has no idea how
much that night changed me and how she
made me the happy person I am. I am happy
to say our 1 year is coming up in November
and we are still very much happy and in
love.
haha I do though, still make jokes about
doing stupid things...but not because I
want to get hurt...because well I'm male
and male do stupid :-p but it's all in
fun.
Your right, seeing the person you love cry
over something that you did is extreamly
painful... And a very powerful support
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aquachickola
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Mar 2008 Posts: 15 Location: , FL USA
Posted: 03-08-08 23:06pm
hey bear,
I stopped more out my own stubbornness
than actual health descisions... It is
definately NOT as easy as just quitting. I
still have incredibly strong urges
("sober") for 2 years now), and at times
wonder why i quit in the first place.
As far as the scars: i never really tended
to do mine obvious "cutter" places, and
many of them were shallow (althought there
were a lot of htem), so they have faded.
Iv'e considered getting the deeper ones
surgically repaired, but they are a part
of what has made me who i am- not really a
part i'm proud of, but a part nonetheless.
I dont make an effort hide them or to tell
ppl, and when they ask I tell them i can't
really remember what they are from,
because it's true- yes they are from
cutting, but i dont remeber why/ what that
specific one was for.
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