High School Guy-girl Dilemnas Posted: 10-11-07 14:34pm
I really want some serious replies
preferably from people who have dealt with
a situation similar to this.
There is this girl, Kayla, we are seniors
and have been going to school together for
4 years, but never really had
classes/never really talked. Our lockers
are next to each other but I never noticed
how beautiful she was, and is also a
"cool" girl. She is pretty quite, more of
the sexy/gorgeous type than the "hot" type
if you know what I mean.
This year we have 3/8 classes
together. Her locker is next to mine and
she has started a few conversations. I
often catch her glancing at me, while I
was doing the same. Problem is there is
this kid that she was just friends with
forever but now they are dating. How can I
tell if she likes me and what can I do? If
they waited 4 years to date and/or were on
and off will her current relationship
likely last?
I haven't really seriously
dated in high school, but not many of my
friends (jocks not nerds;)-no offense)
haven't either because basically my class
is pretty ugly. I get nervous and kinda
defensive when she ever talked to me. Last
year she said small things to me, nice
stuff, in a class a few times but we never
really talked. She does not talk to other
guys without them starting the
conversation, she is pretty shy I guess
until you know her a lot better. A few
kids try to hit on her and what not (more
flirting I guess) but she seems like she
doesn't care. We are actually very much
alike in our demeanor when it comes to the
opposite sex. How do I know if she likes
me though? Does her glancing over at me
and us making eye contact mean anything if
it happens pretty often? (Like a few times
a day, yea I keep track). She laughs at
everything I say really, agrees with me on
other things, etc. This kid she is dating
though they get along from what I've seen
but her boyfriend basically followed her
everywhere and just now are they dating.
Again, it may have been off and on, not
sure. How can I start talking to her?
Should I wait till she breaks up with
him?
These past few weeks I
have been thinking about her 24/7 but she
doen't have the slightest clue, for all I
know she may not even like me like that!
But if she starts talking to me, it's
gotta count for something. For example she
was asking me about what I want to do (Pro
Poker Player, laugh if you like) after we
discussed careers in english class
(everyone.) It went like this...
Here locker is HERE Mine is HERE (to
her right)
She took a look over like she was going to
say something I wasnt looking at her but
knew she was gonna say something, like the
pansy I am I looked away, but when I
looked back she said "So you wanna be a
poker player?" I said "Yea, not want
though, I am gonna be one." She kinda
chuckled and I said "What's wrong with
that" (not in a mean way) and she said
"Nothing, I just think it's a bit of a
stretch." We smiled and I walked away.
DOES SOMETHING LIKE THAT MEAN SOMETHING??
Thanks for ALL advice...
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paul995
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Apr 2007 Posts: 140 Location: ,
Posted: 10-14-07 20:25pm
i like the way you told the story, sounds
interesting.
anyway, your problem really is how to
approach this girl... hmm...?????
i have always told this in some posts on
people who are too eager to have a
relationship with someone. I always tell
them to befriend the girl first. So i tell
you now, be friends with her!
Don't rush things. Try to be a friend to
her, talk to her like you do now . . . but
not just in passing, i mean a real
conversation. She was asking if you wanted
to be a poker players, then expound on
your reason, then ask her what she would
like to become, then the conversation
would become interesting. And the next
thing you know, you're getting closer and
closer and closer. Don't worry about her
boyfriend. Don't worry about anything that
deals with hooking up with her . . . yet!
Be sincere with her. Be a true friend, and
we'll see where it will lead you. Wish you
luck!
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alleybabe_16
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Oct 2007 Posts: 14 Location: , US
Posted: 10-14-07 20:35pm
omg! i have like the same situation and
idk if he likes me. it bugs me so bad cuz
i think sometimes that maybe he does(i
also catch him so called "staring" at me).
i think there is a high chance that she
does like u but she maybe doesn't kno how
u'd react or something. and yes, be
friends with her talk 2 her more about
random stuff it helps trust me;) i'm a
girl i would kno lol, i kno i probly
wasn't much help but anyway...good luck!
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MMAFighter
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Sep 2007 Posts: 368 Location: WA, USA
Invincible Wolf Posted: 10-14-07 20:39pm
Lol, I dunno what to say, I've never had a
girlfriend before and I've never really
had the confidence to talk to the
"gorgeous/beautiful" girls, I even have
trouble getting over how the "hot/sexy"
girls don't like me. Lol, maybe talk to
the school counsellor?
