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Posted: 10-12-07 17:31pm
i am not being selfish!!!
girlfriend- if you read a previous
resopnse to a comment i had said i
UNDERSTAND that babysitting and having a
baby of your own are two DIFFERENT things
hun. you dont have to spell it out for
me.
SECOND
if your going to be rude to me, theres no
way in hell that im gonna sit back and
take it. i posted a feeling on here in a
category related to how i feel. thats all.
if you dont like what i have to say, dont
read it, move on, and comment on someone
elses posts!
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 10-12-07 18:49pm
good lord, grow up ..your just making
yourself look immature in every thread you
post.
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young Girl
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Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 10-12-07 19:13pm
the helath drama
im leaving this topic because this girl is
pathetic
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Moo
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Posted: 10-13-07 15:04pm
krystineM
wrote:
yes i do work.
right now,
he thinks we're not ready to have a
baby because we are not settled. He
isn't saying that he doesnt want to have
one all together.
He just wants to make sure we have
everything we need together first like a
place to live finance and blah blah blah.
not that he doesnt want to have
one
Then keep having protected sex, it sounds
as though he's made it pretty clear that
now isn't the time for you guys to have a
baby and both people need to agree before
TTCing
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krystineM
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Posted: 10-13-07 16:30pm
thank you i realize that.
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ladylee70
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Posted: 10-13-07 17:20pm
krystineM
wrote:
i am 18 and i know its a
young age to say i want a baby, but its
really what i want.
i've thought it through, i feel like a
child is the only thinkg that would make
my life worth living for, because instead
of thinking of myself, i now have a child
to care for and love and give the world
to. My mother always judged everything i
did and brainwashed me to think that you
have to be a certain way for people to
accept you, and it drove me crazy, and we
fought all the time; fought so much that
she kicked me out and i now live with my
boyfriend. I always said, if i had a kid i
would respect what he or she wanted to do
and love them no matter what.
im out of school, working, moving in to an
apartment with my boyfriend, this is what
i want, a baby to bring into the world.
Even though i am young, i wish i am
pregnant, i wish this isnt just a
feeling.
Honestly, I really don't know you but
based on what you have said on here I
strongly recommend that you really live as
an adult on your own first before having a
child. There are many issues you really
need to sort through first. A lot of us
have had difficulties when we were growing
up and had to sort through them. Heck, it
took me years. It is a common reaction for
teenagers and young adults to want a child
to "care for and love and give the world
to," based on what they experienced within
their family.
Do you live in Seattle? I am from there. I
moved because the cost of living is just
so expensive. My husband and I are both
college grads and have good career fields
but moved because it would have been
difficult for us to make it even on two
incomes. Apts in that area are even
expensive. You would probably need the
government to help you...are you depending
on that?
You do seem like you have a lot of love to
give, I would just find other ways to fill
that void right not until both you and
your significant other are truly ready -
not just feel ready - ready emotionally
and financially. I strongly recommend you
start volunteering. The Children's
Hospital in Seattle is a great place to
volunteer. There are a lot of great places
to volunteer in the Seattle area.
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krystineM
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Posted: 10-14-07 00:05am
i live in mississauga, and most of the
houses and apartments are pretty pricy,
cuz its a nice neighbour hood.
out of mississauga the prices get lower,
my boyfriend and i are looking into moving
a little out of where we are now so its
not so expensive.
i know its a good idea to wait and have a
baby -and that IS what my boyfriend and i
are going to do-
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young Girl
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Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 10-14-07 00:15am
good!
have you decided if youre going to get on
birth control or anything? what kind you
are going to look into etc.
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krystineM
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Posted: 10-14-07 00:19am
the_girlfreind
wrote:
good!
have you decided if youre going to get on
birth control or anything? what kind you
are going to look into
etc.
well i dont really believe in using birth
control.
Before you critisize, please, hear me
out,
I know that birth control would be a good
thing to look in to,
but my theory ever since i started having
sex has been, if you're not ready to have
a kid, don't have sex. And yeah i know im
not ready to have a kid, which is why my
boyfriend and i use the pull-out method,
and i know that i could get pregnant grom
pre-ejaculation, but im 18 and still
haven't had a child yet.
Not being on birth control is my personal
reason.
Everyone is different, some choose to use
it, i preferr not to.
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Maddie34
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Posted: 10-14-07 00:36am
Wait, so you don't even use a condom? I'm
not critizing so don't get cranky. Can I
ask why you don't believe in birth
control?
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krystineM
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Posted: 10-14-07 00:55am
we use condoms sometimes, not all the
times.
when i started having sex and learned
about birth control, to me it sounded as
if you were killing an innocent life who
hasnt even come into the world yet.
i always thought, if you dont want kids,
dont have sex.
i've never been on birth control ever, and
my boyfriend and i are careful.
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Maddie34
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Posted: 10-14-07 01:09am
I know I got a B in philosophy but when
you say "If you're not ready for a kid,
don't have sex" and then say "I'm not
ready for a kid" then I think not having
sex would follow. But i can uderstand why
that won't do. How about "if you're not
ready for a kid, don't have unprotected
sex"
Is there any reason for not using condoms
on a regular basis?
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krystineM
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Posted: 10-14-07 01:14am
theres no reason as to why we dont use
condoms all the time,
and its not like he finishes in me. i know
theres always a chance, but we are careful
even though we dont use protection
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Maddie34
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Posted: 10-14-07 01:24am
Well, just by what you have said with your
theories and such i would think that you
would want to reduce your chances no
matter what. Pull out method isn't exactly
a method. I've seen that posted here a LOT
and I'm new, so you've probably seen it
too.
If you're not ready for a baby then reduce
your chances so you're not biting your
nails every month waiting for your period.
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sick_mama17
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Jun 2007 Posts: 960 Location: , England
Posted: 10-14-07 06:37am
I agree with suzy (the_girlfreind) you are
being incredibly selfish. Your boyfriend
is not ready to have a child, you just
want one for yourself. You should be
thinking about what you can offer a child,
not what a child will offer you - a reason
to live or make your life worthwhile,
great reason - not! If thats your reason I
agree with whoever said you should see a
therapist.
What kind of job do you have? Does it pay
well enough to support you and a baby
if
you 2 break up in the future? I know you
think you will be together forever, but
most relationships at your age dont last
forever, so you should have a plan for
just incase you end up a single mom. Can
you afford rent on your own money?
Groceries? Diapers? Formula? Clothes?
Toys? Electricity bill? Phone bill? Health
insurance? Daycare?
If you stay together do you plan on
returning to work once the baby is born?
If so, who is going to care for the baby
during the day? Can you two afford daycare
when you cant even afford your own home?
No living in an apartment doesnt make you
a bad parent, but if you have a house
instead its way better in lots of ways.
For one thing your child will have a
garden to play in and they love being
outside. You wont have any neighbours on
floor levels above or below you (like in
an apartment you do), so less chance of
noisy neighbours waking your child etc.
You'll have more space, more privacy.
Do you have a driving license and a car?
Why dont you want to go to college? You'll
end up with a better payed job if you have
some qualifications, instead of stuck in
some dead end crappy one you hate.
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Proudmommy13601
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Jun 2007 Posts: 85 Location: Fort Drum NY
Posted: 10-14-07 07:34am
I think that when you and your boyfriend
want to have a baby then go for it but it
has to be something you both want! If it
is really something you guys want then you
will be able to do it. Now don't worry
about what girlfriend says i don't know if
you followed her threads she is 16 and 31
weeks pregnant , ad she wants to tell you
to get on some birth control, she is prob
some promiscuous person who slept around
too much and now she needs a cover up,
maybe someone with so much crap to talk
about everyone else shouldn't have a baby
cause she her self is a little immature,
if she loved that baby at all she would
put it up for adoption to a family with
some brains not a keep it. I do wish you
best of luck in what ever you decide!!!
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 10-14-07 07:47am
you do not kill an embryo with birth
control, you prevent its existence. In
other words, you can't kill a life that
isn't there.
A condom is a form of birth control.
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Posted: 10-14-07 08:03am
Like Vanessa said, you are not killing an
embryo with birth control if it is never
there in the first place. Birth control
makes you NOT ovulate, hence there can
never be a meeting between the egg and the
sperm.
So you are NOT killing anything since
NOTHING is there in the first place
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fairytale007
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Joined: 09 Jul 2007 Posts: 1379 Location: Denver, CO USA
Posted: 10-14-07 09:28am
I agree, birthcontrol isn't killing
anything. There would have to be something
there in the first place to kill it. But
like you said, that's what you believe.
But I would like to say, if you're going
to rely on the pull-out method only as
your birthcontrol, be prepared to get
pregnant. It worked for the longest time
for me but, Dante will be born next month
as a result of that method.
I hope that you and you're boyfriend get
stable with a nice place and all the
things you want before you two make the
commitment to have a child. Boy, do I wish
I did those things first...
Anyway, I hope everything works out for
you and him when the time comes.
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young Girl
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Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 10-14-07 09:57am
lol
im sorry krystine but ive tried and tried
to reread this all and understand where
you are comming from. it seems like youre
a bit nieve and immature. birth control
doesnt kill a life lol. its like saying
everytime yu have your period then youre
killing a life too right?
or everytime he masturabates then hes
killing a life too?
see how much sence those things make? they
dont at all.
and "pulling out"/not haveing him findih
in you is no way of being careful at
allo.
what amazes me is how you post thinking
your preg
then all of a sudden you start haveing all
of these symptoms which you read off posts
from here
then all of a sudden you post a topics
saying you WANT a baby
but then you say youre not ready yet?
which is it?
