when i started having sex and learned
about birth control, to me it sounded as
if you were killing an innocent life who
hasnt even come into the world yet.
i always thought, if you dont want kids,
dont have sex.
i've never been on birth control ever, and
my boyfriend and i are
careful.
Most birth control prevents ovulation, it
isn't killing anything. If yuo're not
using condoms 100% f the time then you're
not being careful
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krystineM
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Posted: 10-14-07 12:11pm
sick_mama17
wrote:
I agree with suzy
(the_girlfreind) you are being incredibly
selfish. Your boyfriend is not ready to
have a child, you just want one for
yourself. You should be thinking about
what you can offer a child, not what a
child will offer you - a reason to live or
make your life worthwhile, great reason -
not! If thats your reason I agree with
whoever said you should see a therapist.
your right. the way i should have worded
this wpoic from the beginning should have
been" I cant wait to experience having a
child of my own when the time is right.
What kind of job do you have? Does it pay
well enough to support you and a baby
if
you 2 break up in the future? I know you
think you will be together forever, but
most relationships at your age dont last
forever, so you should have a plan for
just incase you end up a single mom. Can
you afford rent on your own money?
Groceries? Diapers? Formula? Clothes?
Toys? Electricity bill? Phone bill? Health
insurance? Daycare?
i have a job that pays 10$ an hour
the only reason why im saying my boyfriend
i will most likely be together, is because
of the things we've been through. YES i do
know that ANYTHING can happen, and i can't
predict the future.
Just we've always been able to sort out
our fights and any problems.
all im gonna say
If you stay together do you plan on
returning to work once the baby is born?
If so, who is going to care for the baby
during the day? Can you two afford daycare
when you cant even afford your own home?
yes i would return back to work. but if i
couldnt find a care-taker for the baby
while im at work, then i would leave work
and we'd have to organize ourselves to
adjust to one pay check, putting babies
needs first.
No living in an apartment doesnt make you
a bad parent, but if you have a house
instead its way better in lots of ways.
For one thing your child will have a
garden to play in and they love being
outside. You wont have any neighbours on
floor levels above or below you (like in
an apartment you do), so less chance of
noisy neighbours waking your child etc.
You'll have more space, more privacy.
Do you have a driving license and a car?
Why dont you want to go to college? You'll
end up with a better payed job if you have
some qualifications, instead of stuck in
some dead end crappy one you
hate.
i dont have money for college, and right
now i need the money for other things
rather than school. Like things for our
apartnent, rent, food clothes. After being
kicked out and live practically on my own
with my boyfriends parents (temporarily
till we get our place) i knew i wouldnt
have money for college, i needed the money
for other things that i needed.
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 10-14-07 13:13pm
Sounds like you won't have money for a
baby then, either.
If you refuse to use protection, stop
having sex. You can't provide the kind of
life your baby deserves to have.
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krystineM
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Posted: 10-14-07 19:09pm
AyaMiyaki
wrote:
Sounds like you won't have
money for a baby then, either.
If you refuse to use protection, stop
having sex. You can't provide the kind of
life your baby deserves to
have.
at the time, no.
but like i've said a million times,
when we're stable financially,
have money for a baby saved up
then we will try having one.
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krystineM
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Posted: 10-14-07 19:10pm
Proudmommy13601
wrote:
I think that when you and
your boyfriend want to have a baby then go
for it but it has to be something you both
want! If it is really something you guys
want then you will be able to do it. Now
don't worry about what girlfriend says i
don't know if you followed her threads she
is 16 and 31 weeks pregnant , ad she wants
to tell you to get on some birth control,
she is prob some promiscuous woman who
slept around too much and now she needs a
cover up, maybe someone with so much crap
to talk about everyone else shouldn't have
a baby cause she her self is a little
immature, if she loved that baby at all
she would put it up for adoption to a
family with some brains not a keep it. I
do wish you best of luck in what ever you
decide!!!
thank you
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Bridget
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Posted: 10-14-07 19:45pm
krystineM
wrote:
AyaMiyaki
wrote:
Sounds like you won't have
money for a baby then, either.
If you refuse to use protection, stop
having sex. You can't provide the kind of
life your baby deserves to
have.
at the time, no.
but like i've said a million times,
when we're stable financially,
have money for a baby saved up
then we will try having
one.
but by using the pull out (non)method,
you're not preventing.
you're very confusing.
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krystineM
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Posted: 10-14-07 20:46pm
ok i know its not a method.
im sorry if im confusing.
im sorry my partner and i dont use condoms
all the time.
im sorry i dont use birth control.
i haven't used birth control once
since i started having sex at 15. I used
condoms with the partners i had sex with.
im 18 and still dont have a child.
but if it'll make you all happy and stop
being so rude in some of YOUR comments, my
partner and i will use condoms.
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Maddie34
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Posted: 10-14-07 20:51pm
Thank you!
Thats all everyone was trying to say.
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krystineM
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Posted: 10-14-07 20:53pm
whatever.
my choice turned out to be a forced
decision.
but whatever.
i understand what you all are saying im
contradicting myself blah blah blah...but
look at all the other women who have used
birth control, and still gotten pregnant,
were they ready? no and now they have a
kid.
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fairytale007
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Posted: 10-14-07 21:00pm
You're 18 and still don't have a child?? I
didn't think that is something to brag
about. That just makes it sound like
you're playing with luck..if that makes
any sense.
We don't know your personal life, other
than what you've told us, so we can't make
a decision for you. Use condoms or don't
use them, it doesn't matter to us. What
you have to think about is yourself and
your boyfriend, not what people on a forum
tell you to do. We're just here to offer
advice, in hopes that people will make the
best possible decision for themselves and
their future children. I hope that you'll
put a lot of thought into when you want to
bring a child into this world before you
do.
And one more thing, I don't think people
were trying to be rude to you, they were
just offering their opinions. Anyway,
that's all I have to say. If you ever have
any questions, you can pm me.
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Maddie34
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Posted: 10-14-07 21:02pm
Well thats true, but they did what they
could to prevent it and that all anyone
can really ask right? I'm sorry you feel
like you're being forced-- I'm sure that
wasn't anyone's intention.
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jessamyn
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Posted: 10-14-07 21:03pm
youre basically saying just because you
havent gotten pregnant in 3 yrs ur okay
not to use BC
I had sex with my highschool boyfriend for
3 years un protected occasionally on BC,
we split up and I got pregnant in like 2
months wit my sons bio dad
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jessamyn
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Posted: 10-14-07 21:03pm
and that was using protection
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*star*
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Posted: 10-14-07 21:19pm
And you want to have a baby even though
you are currently smoking weed, taking
acid, Extacy, mushrooms and any other drug
that you can get a hold of?????
You REALLY need to think about stopping
the drugs before you even start to think
about bringing a child into this world.
I guess that is why you don't have any
money????
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krystineM
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Posted: 10-14-07 21:20pm
well we'll try using protection more often
than we usually do.
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jessamyn
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Posted: 10-14-07 21:26pm
you can get birth control for free and
thats easy as pie to take and not have to
strap on everytime a hormone hits
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Maddie34
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Posted: 10-14-07 21:42pm
*star*
wrote:
And you want to have a baby
even though you are currently smoking
week, taking acid, Extacy, mushrooms and
any other drug that you can get a hold
of?????
You REALLY need to think about stopping
the drugs before you even start to think
about bringing a child into this world.
I guess that is why you don't have any
money????
I was wondering when someone was going to
bring that up.
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young Girl
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Posted: 10-14-07 21:50pm
ahhh im done with this girl guys
she doesnt know what shes talking about
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fairytale007
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Posted: 10-14-07 21:57pm
*star*
wrote:
And you want to have a baby
even though you are currently smoking
week, taking acid, Extacy, mushrooms and
any other drug that you can get a hold
of?????
You REALLY need to think about stopping
the drugs before you even start to think
about bringing a child into this world.
I guess that is why you don't have any
money????
WOW! I guess I never read that post. If I
had known that, I wouldn't have posted
what I did. If any of that's true, I sure
hope you don't bring a child into that
kind of lifestyle!!
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young Girl
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Posted: 10-14-07 21:58pm
fairytale007
wrote:
*star*
wrote:
And you want to have a baby
even though you are currently smoking
week, taking acid, Extacy, mushrooms and
any other drug that you can get a hold
of?????
You REALLY need to think about stopping
the drugs before you even start to think
about bringing a child into this world.
I guess that is why you don't have any
money????
WOW! I guess I never read that post. If I
had known that, I wouldn't have posted
what I did. If any of that's true, I sure
hope you don't bring a child into that
kind of lifestyle!!
oh yeah she posted that a few days ago
scary scary scary
these are the kind of people whom give
young mothers a bad rep
