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ameee

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Wet Dream.. Does It Mean Anything??
Posted: 10-13-07 11:23am

Am pregnant and happily married. .
the other night my husband wanted sex n i said i wasnt feeling too good.. you know being pregnant and all.. he said its fine cos we both want this baby so much.
the next day he told something he found so funny.. he said he had a wet dream and i asked if he knew the grl he had sex with in the dream.(just out of the blue) and he laughed and said you wudnt belive it but ''''''' he said my best freinds name. he could tell i wasnt too happy to hear that. n then sat me down and told me it was just hormones. and that hes never ever had feelings for her so i shudnt worry as he apparantly found it weird to have dreamt her aswell.
since then i'v been so worried. do u think maybe he does have something for her..? or was it just that when guys have such dreams they need an image n it just happened to be her that night. i know my freinds is beautiful. much much more than me. n thast what worried me. should i be worried. or trust him when he tells me he loves me??? Confused
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Posted: 10-13-07 11:41am

As I replied to your PM, dreams mean nothing! Trust your husband! He married YOU.
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Posted: 10-13-07 20:41pm

You are getting something deeper beyond anything anybody on earth can really tell you. Eiri is partially correct, or partially wrong, nobody really can say what dreams are. They could mean anything, everything or nothing, psychologists and scientists still do not know and quite likely never find out. There are a whole bunch of theories, ranging from Freud's theory about dreams representing psychological desires/ hidden urges that we unconsciously/consciously wish for, to arguments that dreams are physiological and considered just a re-run of random events (not necessarily past, but just made up) pieced together by the brain for who know what darn reason. Others say it means nothing at all, the debates... are endless. Well I'm surmising that telling you Freud's theory may be of some alarm for you, but it is just a theory, particularly one coming from a guy who also created the theory of Penis Envy (that all women really desire a penis), and theory called the Oedipus/Electra Complex (where he [Freud] theorized that all men really hate/are jealous of their fathers and love their mothers in a sexual way, and all women are jealous of their mothers and desire their fathers in a sexual way. Up to you if you want to believe him, some of his theories are plausible, others are just plain weird. Brb and will edit with more, going home right now
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Georgia59

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Posted: 10-13-07 22:09pm

I'm a psych student. Freud knew nothing. Smile

And dreams don't mean anything either. I've dreamt of having sex with lots of people, including relatives 8O! Doesn't mean I actually want to.

He was just horny and she popped into his head for some reason. No problem. Well I can admit I would probably be alarmed just like you would, there is no need. Smile
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Georgia59

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Posted: 10-13-07 22:10pm

Sorry Mikolas if that seemed like I was trying to blow off your post, I wasn't. I'm sure all will find it quite interesting. Smile
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Posted: 10-14-07 06:15am

Eh? Oh no miss, it certainly didn't seem that way, I was just listing a range of possibilities to show the ambiguity of dreams based on what researchers said, I don't know what dreams are myself so I didn't really have a point or chose sides.

Haha, yea I wondered that myself... I considered his little Oedipus complex and I just wondered how anybody can come up with that without having thought of doing his own mama...

Psychology courses were fun, people told me to go for it, but mehhhh.

I peeked in the women's chat and read about your interest in philosophy and mentioned Descartes. I'm taking my first philosophy course right now and just went over his views of Skepticism regarding the external world. But I must say, I'm pretty disappointed in philosophy. Everybody swore I'd do awesome in that class, I've been known to get high grades in essays even if I had procrastinated the very last moment vs some hard working people, and he gives me a 78 on the first essay. I feel like my prof has so far limited thinking, his essay questions were strictly Q and A even though he expected it to be a smooth essay. I'm not too intuned on views of the most renown philosophers, I'm definitely not "scholarly" on that level, but I think a lot and made up my own which turns out those famous dudes have already thought it up, boo.

But finishing on to what I was saying, sorry I fell asleep at 10 and woke up at 7 right now cuz spent last last night clubbing and was getting manhoed around -_- But I learned the cha-cha! But I don't like it, I'll stick with my salsa, bachata, merengue for now.

I meant to finish off saying that its pretty ironic how people work really, how we look at one thing that somehow pertains to us and our fears and its suddenly a big deal, but when it doesn't, we don't notice it quite so much. Like if he dreamed that he killed hundreds of people and woke up covered in sweat, I'd imagine their counterparts going "its ok, calm down ::hug kiss:: its only a dream", but when its "I dreamed that I killed you and the family, or I cheated on you a dozen times" then suddenly its not just a dream. Just a thought =)
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Posted: 10-15-07 19:57pm

I really don't think you should worry. I'd be very hurt over it as well, it's normal to feel that way, but you can't control dreams and if he tells you he never even liked her, believe him. You are MARRIED and pregnant with his child. And don't talk about yourself that way, like your friend is so much more good looking than you, I'm sure your husband thinks you are the most beautiful woman on Earth, since you are his wife. Smile
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ameee

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Posted: 10-16-07 17:21pm

thank you, this really does put my mind at ease..
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Posted: 10-19-07 10:36am

i have sex dreams about people all the time! people towards whom i have never had any attraction whatsoever. some of them are even my female friends lol. i wake up feeling a little disturbed sometimes! but i know for sure it doesn't mean i fancy the person i dream about. i am happily settled with my boyfriend. it shouldn't be of any concern to you that your husband had a sex dream about another woman. it really doesnt mean anything! i do find it strange that he told you about it though! well at least he's honest! Smile
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