me and my boyfriend have been together for
a year now, and when we have sex he never
finishes. he has really only finished
during sex a small percent of the times we
have had sex. I feel like it is something
i am doing, or not doing. we do have
concerns with getting pregnant, we dont
want it. so he says its cuz we can't relax
because he is worried about that, but
sometimes it would be nice to finish. we
use condoms and birth control. and
sometimes he says he is about to cum so i
keep going(when on top) but he ends up
not. he says it is okay because he loves
the feeling of everything else,but it
makes me feel incomplete. it happens too
when i am giving him a handjob or oral. i
can never get him to finish, sometimes it
takes so long that all of my energy seems
to gone, and i he just finishes himself
off while watching me play with my self or
something. it is still very sensual
because it is like we are doing it
together but i want to be able to FINISH
HIM OFF!!
can anybody help?
|
Maddie34
Supporter
Joined: 06 Oct 2007 Posts: 1180 Location: ,
Thanks: 43
Thanked:12
Posted: 10-13-07 23:59pm
I have similar problems with my boyfriend,
and I feel stupid sometimes. He's the only
guy I've ever been with so I usually just
assume its something I'm doing(or not
doing) thats giving him problems. And I
know what you mean about it taking so long
that all your energy is gone. He tells me
I'm doing everything right but it just
takes him longer
|
young Girl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 10-14-07 00:02am
sorry girls i dont have this problem
can he masturbate and finish?
|
Maddie34
Supporter
Joined: 06 Oct 2007 Posts: 1180 Location: ,
Thanks: 43
Thanked:12
Posted: 10-14-07 00:13am
Yeah, eventually I can get him to finish
it just takes forever! I've never asked
him if its like this when he
masturbates... not really sure if I know
how to ask that question either without it
sounding bad
|
young Girl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 10-14-07 00:13am
lol just say
"how long does it take you to cum when you
whack it?!"
|
Georgia59
Moderator
Joined: 11 Apr 2007 Posts: 5323 Location: Along the Mississippi, USA
Thanks: 65
Thanked:28
Posted: 10-14-07 00:16am
lol girlfreind you are great.
|
Maddie34
Supporter
Joined: 06 Oct 2007 Posts: 1180 Location: ,
Thanks: 43
Thanked:12
Posted: 10-14-07 00:41am
lol I'll try that one then!
|
young Girl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 10-14-07 09:59am
hehe i asked travis that this morning and
he looked at me like im crazy
|
HealthySex
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Jan 2007 Posts: 414
Posted: 10-14-07 13:41pm
Ask him about his masturbation like
suggested, and also about his BC or pelvic
muscles (usually called PC, but BC is more
correct for males).
I can masturbate all day if I keep them
relaxed, but if I clench them I will
trigger ejaculation and orgasm in a short
amount of time. Clenching early without
strong stimulation may tire them out
though and make it harder to do when it's
needed though. If he doesn't know how his
work, suggest strong and fast stimulation
(if that's his thing) and after a bit of
that, clenching the muscles and seeing if
it leads to orgasm.
That and have him show you a few tricks. I
really enjoy hand jobs, but without having
a penis some women just don't know how to
do it very well. Plus men are different,
some may want lube, loose grip, tight
grip, full stroke, tip massage, etc.
|
Georgia59
Moderator
Joined: 11 Apr 2007 Posts: 5323 Location: Along the Mississippi, USA
Thanks: 65
Thanked:28
Posted: 10-14-07 14:16pm
thanks healthysex, that was great.
|
hornyjay
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Oct 2007 Posts: 10
Posted: 10-18-07 18:10pm
Main thing, AceCandy, is don't let it go
to your head...
I have the same problem with my wife, and
I know it affects her when I can finish
with my hand but not inside of her.
With the proliferation of porn on the
internet today, there's a good chance that
many men "are less ready to pop their
rocks" because of their minds getting used
to seeing SO MANY attractive females while
masturbating. And as "the GirlFriend"
said, he probably ejaculates much quicker
when on the internet looking at porn. Or
perhaps we guys just get used to our
hands. There are SO many possible
explanations...but I bet he tells you all
the time that it is NOT your fault.
So go with the flow. Maybe introduce
something extra erotic for him? You'll
have to find out what works for him...my
wife dons boots or slinky undies that are
pulled down but not removed. Or she might
finger her anus for me, and these things
always help me. And don't be in
competition with the porn...talk to him
about it...men only use it to relieve
sexual pressure, sometimes when we feel
neglected by our women, but it NEVER
compares to the real YOU.
The site is not a replacement for professional medical opinion, examination, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of your medical doctor or other qualified health professional before starting any new treatment or making any changes to existing treatment. Do not delay seeking or disregard medical advice based on information written by any author on this site. No health questions and information on eHealth Forum is regulated or evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration and therefore the information should not be used to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease without the supervision of a medical doctor. Posts made to these forums express the views and opinions of the author, and not the administrators, moderators, or editorial staff and hence eHealth Forum and its principals will accept no liabilities or responsibilities for the statements made.
Schizophreniahealth
This page was last updated on June 11, 2008
