I Am Dating a Bipolar Girl ( Rapid Cycler) Advise? Posted: 10-16-07 15:47pm
hello all, I have been reading all i find
here, and gosh it scares the hell out of
me ! I have been dating her about 2
months. I can say i have never been loved
so intensely in all my life! but there is
a roller coaster ride kinda feel
sometimes. She always forgets her meds !
ask me to make sure she takes them. I
can't seem to get her on a schedule of any
sort. I'm not sure when or how i should
help or step back sometimes. oh and please
advise me on drinking, she told me
drinking is bad for a bipolar person, but
she loves to drink on occasion.
I was out of town a few days , long
weekend, and she went very manic. i was
amazed at how much she accompished in a
couple of days ! then she slept for i
think two days.
now back on meds a couple of days,
restless, and her mood toward me is just
kinda blah. confuses me. told me she is
sick, that she would be better by the
weekend and that she loves me and all will
be ok. also told me i needed to google her
illness, and learn more about it and her.
please advise , and offer websites and
forums. I really would like to hear some
positive things, all i have read makes me
want to run. I have really fallen in love
with this girl, i would like to hear some
positive support if any. thanks for
listening
Im in kinda the same boat...Dating a very
wonderful bipolar woman, who also happens
to be a physicians assistant and is very
in tune with the medical world...You can't
make her take her med's you cant make her
do anything...She needs to choose to take
them and take them regularly...I have
noticed that after every high there is an
enivitable low(wich is usually bad) Not
taking meds then taking them or taking to
much(at least I think) can cause the blah
feeling...Lithium is kinda like that
imho...I am not expert but I wouldn't
change anything about my GF Bipolar
included...
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Virgoguy
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Thanks Jeaston77 Posted: 10-17-07 13:43pm
THANKS,
I am learning , things returning to
normal, but wow what a couple of days it
has been, she didn't want to leave bedroom
or bed for a couple of days, but all seems
to be getting better. i don't want to make
her do anything, just want to be there to
help the best way that i can.
thanks again
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CarolDiane
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This Is Where Love Take Over Posted: 10-18-07 02:25am
You have got alot on your plate and if you
really love each other, you are going to
have to be able to be strong and
supportive of her. There will be some
rough roads ahead. But understanding the
illness is the first start to a good
relationship. You are going to get her
through those "Hills and Valley" and you
will do it together. There has to be
unconditionable love on your part to do
this. It is not an easy road to travel.
I wish you both the best and know that as
long as you fully understand what she is
feeling, you will do just fine.
Carrie
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MartyGQ
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Married a Bi-polar Girl (maniac) Posted: 11-12-07 20:51pm
Great in Bed! Very HOT. What a maniac....
there is no trust whatsoever. If she says
she's in the kitchen, she really is in the
bathroom. Super manipulator! She almost
put me in jail! Until, my lawyer got her
to admit that she was baker-acted in a
mental institution! She had the whole
court fooled that she was the victim. I
found all the guys she dated and they all
told me the same thing. Now were all
friends (all the guys). She calls me
every now and then to meet up, but I would
NEVER. She would probably get laid and
say it was rape and put me away!!!!!!!
Glad I got out in 3 yrs! I have a
wonderful girl now without any ups and
downs!
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puzzld
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Posted: 11-20-07 00:57am
martyGq - i hope when you are truly down,
like myself and so many other kind,
beautiful and smart women, that you are
shown the love that you were unable to
give. my husband is my hero.... or so i
thought. he still is but who can blame him
for the disappointment and constant
battle. that's what i call a man. big boy
pants are on. bipolar isn't a choice. in
my case it came to full fruition just a
month after the honeymoon!!! about 2
months ago. glad your girl doesn't have to
suffer, or at least not in the way you
think.
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puzzld
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Virgoguy Posted: 11-20-07 19:06pm
so sorry you have to go through this. you
sound very sincere in wanting to do the
right thing for her, as is my husband.
the things i yearn for..... hugs, kisses,
laughing, holding me when i'm breaking
down, et. simply put i just need him to
listen and support me emotionally. i'm in
a viscous cycle with my husband right now.
he is extremely frustrated with me. i do
understand his and your frustration, it's
VALID. really it's a compliment if you
think about it. in a sick twisted way she
is comfortable enough to let you in that
deep.
with that being said, i must inform you
that pushing or complaining makes me want
to pack a bag and run run run. it makes my
mood worse or i allow it to, pick your
vice... no matter.
