Sex Doesn't Really Feel Too Great Posted: 10-17-07 10:53am
I am only 17, I know that could have some
to do with it...and just recently about 2
months ago lost my virginity. And so far,
I like the experience of sex and being
with that person and sharing that, but..to
me it really doesnt feel that great...I
can feel the friction...but thats about
it. I don't get much pleasure out of it. I
have masturbated for several years with
clitoral stimulation only..and even then
the only thing that feels good is cumming
which only last like 3 seconds....the
rubbing doesnt really do anything for
me...i jus get to a certain point and cum.
Same with being fingered...it really
doesnt feel that great..I feel the
pressure..but its not really
pleasurable...and i never even come close
to cumming with that or normal
penetration...Idk what to do..I dont think
this is normal and was jus wondering what
I could do....
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Georgia59
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Posted: 10-22-07 10:20am
For me, if I'm not really into it and we
haven't had much foreplay, and he inserts
his penis, I'm not really amazed. I have
to be wanting it before it does anything
for me.
Play around and take the pressure off. You
can find out ways to orgasm during regular
intercourse through masturbation or
finding ways to integrate clitoral
stimulation.
And keep trying!!
Are you seeing a gyno?? Now that you're
having sex, you need yearly check ups.
They're fun.
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goldenagestar
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Posted: 10-24-07 19:35pm
I'm a virgin, and I just want to say I
know EXACTLY what you mean.. even though I
never experienced sex, I can say that when
I do masterbate, I don't get any pleasure
when doing certain things (fingering,
rubbing, etc.) I get to a certain point
where you get that 3 seconds of feel good
(which is the best 3 seconds of my day)
But yeah, other then that, nothing..
so when I do have sex, I can't imagine how
it's going to feel good.
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young Girl
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Posted: 10-24-07 19:36pm
goldenagestar
wrote:
I'm a virgin, and I just
want to say I know EXACTLY what you mean..
even though I never experienced sex, I can
say that when I do masterbate, I don't get
any pleasure when doing certain things
(fingering, rubbing, etc.) I get to a
certain point where you get that 3 seconds
of feel good (which is the best 3 seconds
of my day) But yeah, other then that,
nothing..
so when I do have sex, I can't imagine how
it's going to feel good.
because most orgasms dont last a long
time1 they happen then thats it!
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fiona05
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Posted: 10-25-07 04:53am
i sort of know what you mean about the
masturbation thing. if you just rub then
it will get you to orgasm in the end, but
only orgasm feels good, the journey that
got you there does not! i think it is
probably just down to the wrong technique.
i dont find fingers feel good either. at
all! but you know it feels a whole lot
better if you lubricate your fingers up
really really well and circle and caress
your clitoris very gently and slowly. that
feels good. you know what else feels good?
when you aim the shower head at your
clitoric while you are showering or
bathing. it's a cliched one but if you
havent tried it, do!! vibrators feel
great too. and oral sex. these are all
things that make the journey to orgasm
fantastic. so don't give up just start trying
different things and different techniques.
i sort of know what you mean about the
masturbation thing. if you just rub then
it will get you to orgasm in the end, but
only orgasm feels good, the journey that
got you there does not!
rubbing it feels really good. that's my
favorite part
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Tylanas
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Posted: 10-25-07 20:23pm
I love the intense tingling that leads up
to orgasm; I'll try to make that last as
long as possible by getting close, then
moving my fingers away a little and
indirectly stimulate until I'm almost not
touching my pubic area at all and I just
go over by pure feeling alone.
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Anichole
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Posted: 10-25-07 23:47pm
I know how you feel! For me, it's come to
the point where I rarely even get wet
unless there's a lot of foreplay and I'm
really anticipating it! I'm also a hard
person to please, it feels good to me for
the duration, but I hardly ever have an
orgasm and when it's over, I'm usually
wanting more. It's normal, it's just about
your body and what your body prefers.
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Sunshine333
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Posted: 10-26-07 10:39am
Hi Kittles.
I know what you mean. I have been having
sex for only about a year now and the
first many times I had intercourse with my
bf I felt NOTHING. It felt good.... but
no real orgasm. I thought I may be having
tiny ones, but really I wasn't. I could
masturbate by using my fingers to stroke
(best feeling ever) and rubbing my
clitoris really fast and have an intense
orgasm, but never during sex. Finally
though after a while of having sex I had
an orgasm and WOW... it was amazing and
now can't get enough You and your
partner need to just figure out what it is
that makes each other feel good...even
though it might take a while since you
just starting having sex... and yes lots
of foreplay definitely helps!
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AmandaRae123
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Joined: 13 Sep 2007 Posts: 46
Posted: 10-27-07 14:19pm
how can you feel nothing and have it feel
good at the same time?
also, generally when you have sex you
don't feel anything until you have an
orgasm??
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just start trying
different things and different techniques.
You and your
partner need to just figure out what it is
that makes each other feel good...even
though it might take a while since you
just starting having sex... and yes lots
of foreplay definitely helps!