IN an unhappy relationship thinking about Ex Posted: 10-19-07 03:03am
Im going to admit that prior to my current
relationship i had the perfect
relationship the girl loved me i was her
first everything was going smooth until i
decided to mess everything up by cheating
on her. it wasnt intentional it just kind
of happend. well i broke up with her for
this girl and its ben hell ever since a
year and a half of hell the only positive
thing about the relationship is that i
have my 1 month old daughter. I really
dont want to be dating this girl but she
controlled me so much that i went from
driving a jaguar s type to driving a beat
up conversion van i went from working at
a bank to working at a restaurant. she got
so out of hand that she cost me so many
jobs by making scenes and flipping out and
has kicked me out numerous times. I had an
apt before i met her and had it up until a
bout 2 months ago because she got me
evicted by breaking in threw a window and
destroying property that didnt belong to
me while she was 8 months pregnant. on
top of that basically used me for
everything she could have i take care of
her 3 year old son because the father isnt
around and she drained me financially. I
live with her unfortunalty but am very un
happy and dont have the finances to move
out. i guess what im trying to get at is
the past couple months ive been thinking
about my ex who i broke up with for the
current girl. and ive noticed alot more
things that remind me of her and all the
fun we had together. I know i messed it
all up by what i did but honestly she
was the only girl i ever loved and im just
finding that out more and more as time
goes on. are these thoughts wrong? should
i try and talk to her again? i really miss
her and my life i had with her. what
should i do im so unhappy and in sucha
predicament where i honestly dont know
what to do anymore
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Confused_Stressed
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Aug 2007 Posts: 62 Location: Spokane, wa USA
Posted: 10-19-07 04:09am
Well i was in a long relationship myself
and i just wasnt happy. You should really
get out of the one you have. even if u
have to go live with friends or parents
till your on your own two feet again.
She is running your life and its not
straight into the ground, shes now
stepping on it and burying your life. You
need to get out while YOUR still ok. good
luck
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worrywart001
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 May 2007 Posts: 200
Posted: 10-19-07 07:09am
honestly, I dont know that your ex would
ever take you back...you did something
HUGE and its really really hard to take it
back...cheating is sometimes
unforgiveable...in doing that you loose
all trust..and no matter how much she may
she care about you and love you..if theres
no trust there...it will tear the
relationship apart...believe me..i'm going
through it right now...I'm so in love with
my current boyfriend..but some of the
things happening lately have made me loose
faith in him...if a guy cheats on me...the
first thing that I think is that he
doesn't love me..if he loved me, why would
he do this to me, he should have thought
about me..and my feelings...I love my
boyfriend SO much..I couldnt even think
about touching another guy...and I feel
like I deserve that kind of love in
return...i really hate to say this...but
karmas a health forum
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GrumpyBear2006
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Sep 2007 Posts: 18 Location: ,
Posted: 10-27-07 22:43pm
I think the first thing you need to do is
get out of the relationship that you're in
now. You can't get any where with your
first girlfriend if you are still with the
crazy woman now. After you've ended that
relationship begin to think about what you
had with the first woman.
But yeah, you can't move on if you're
stuck in park with your daughter's mother.
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GrumpyBear2006
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Sep 2007 Posts: 18 Location: ,
Posted: 10-27-07 22:46pm
Oh, and to answer your question about "are
these thoughts wrong?"
No, they're not. It's taken you awhile,
but you've finally realized what a huge
mistake you made in gettin' with the girl
you cheated with.
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w0esurrt
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Sep 2007 Posts: 22
Posted: 11-07-07 15:06pm
aww :[
first things first,
UNIVERSAL DATING RULE#1: NEVER Cheat!
and Rule #2: never cheat and break up with
girlfriend for girl you cheated on her
with!
the reason why you dont want to do that is
because karma will always (and mark my
words) ALWAYS, kick your a** in the end.
like it did to you unfortunately.
but in the meantime, try to build your
life back up. don't let her be your boss
anymore. go back to your closet, and put
on those daddy pants that once got you
that jag and that bank job and then try to
get your way out. It wont be hard but you
can do it. once do you, then you can hit
up that ex and holla. but don't do it
while you have this crazy girl on your
sh**. (no one likes baggage.)
but i am all for getting the ex back!
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Inferior_Decorator
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Nov 2007 Posts: 12
Posted: 11-22-07 14:18pm
You screwed up big time.....we all have,
no worries. I think though, that your Ex
is on your mind only because of how
miserable you are...kinda like looking for
an escape. Trust me dude, do NOT try to
get back with the Ex, she'll probably kick
your ass, or worse, if she does take you
back you've just ended up with a girl that
has no moral backbone. If she was that
wonderful in the first place, you'd have
never left her for your current lady. Get
your life back in order....job, place and
get the hell out of there asap! Be sure
to take responsibility to your daughter
with support payments and staying in her
life....but you owe the mother nothing
more at this point. Move on....not
backwards.
