I Am Depressed And I Cut... Posted: 10-19-07 20:43pm
i m a sophomore now, but when i started
9th grade my friend and her twin sister
were so close. 8th grade was great because
it was like just the three of us. now
since last year my friend had started
doing pot mainly and some drinking and
adhd type drugs. she became close with a
new group of friends that i have been
fairly close with too but havent really
excepted me or what ever. i have basicly
been alone most of freshman year and it
sucked. i miss the days when i was able to
just han gout with my friends. its not
that i dont like to drink. but i am never
invited anywhere anymore. so i get mad at
myself and sometimes cut or think about
suicide. i have talked to many councelours
and therapist but not realllly about this.
i dont mind drinking its not like i am
peerpressured. but no one relaly seems to
like meee anymore. i know its good that i
dont drink as often as they do and look
how much better i am.... and my grades are
okay and what not. but even when they dont
care about life and school they still get
great grades and it isnt fair. its not
fair that they can get both ways. i dont
know what to do. all i want is friends
that i dont have to compete with in soccer
especially or school and that care about
me and show it. i am so lonely and have
been through so much of this clique stuff
and i dont know if i can handle it
anymore. i wish i could just go to
boarding school... but i feel like it is
the same everywhere. what will happen in l
ife. it seems like i will be stuck in this
situation for ever.
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Winged_shadow_girl
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Posted: 10-20-07 18:35pm
Hi. I may not be of much help, but here
goes nothing...
First, I would suggest you find new
friends and fast. I know this doesn't
sound easy, but just take some time to
meet someone new. If there's anyone who
sits alone at lunch or something, go sit
with them and talk to them. I've been
there, I truly know what you're feeling.
And other than that, I have a quote that
may help you. It's what truly helped me
and still means the world to me this day.
it says:
"As you get older, you'll gain a bit more
control over everything. Don't let
anyone, even your parents, break you.
Find good people who care about you and
surround yourself with just them. If you
can't find them at first, find good music
and fall into it; let it hold you until
they come."
I truly hope everything gets better for
you
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CarolDiane
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Cutting Is Bad Enough But Posted: 10-22-07 16:19pm
Suicidal thoughts are not good. I had
written a very straight forward post to
you which was right to the point and very
agrresive. Suicide and I do not get along
well at all. I decided to delete the
original post. Not that I don't fell that
way, I just did not feel you were ready to
hear what I had to say.
Let me ask you something? Why did you come
to this forum. Is it a cry for help? Or is
it just to see what answers you will get?
If it is a cry for help, then you are in
the right place.
But, there are certain criteria you should
follow if you really want help. And that
is to listen to the members here "Supports
and Moderators" and other members that are
able to help you through this.
First of all you have to be honest with
your parents and your counslors. Of course
you parents are going to show anger. That
is normal and the first feeling to come
out. They somehow feel responsible for you
actions. Once anger is over, then the
unconditional love shows through. The only
way you are going to get better is to be
honest and open with your problems. And I
mean all of them. That means not just
telling one and hiding another. It can't
be fixed if it is not known. If you truly
want to be helped you will not be stuck
with situation forever.
Carrie
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eOns of gREy
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Joined: 04 Nov 2007 Posts: 35 Location: , United States
Posted: 11-05-07 19:23pm
MsSky I don't want to sound mean but not
all parents get angry then show
unconditional love. Some get angry then
tell you they'll get a couenslor twice and
never do. I'd suggest you just go tell a
counselor at school or something if you
need help.
I just don't want to because one ofthem
hate sme.
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CarolDiane
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You Don't Sound Mean At All Posted: 11-05-07 22:14pm
At most you are very right. But, you have
to remember that it this person does
indeed tell someone at school (counselor)
by law of responsiblility they have to
tell the parents anyway. You might want to
read my post in this forum called "Statues
of SI" in the sticky section.
It is my humble opinion that if a parents
stays angry, that would not show
unconditional love. If a parent loves
their children, it should be without
conditions period.
Carrie
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eOns of gREy
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Joined: 04 Nov 2007 Posts: 35 Location: , United States
Posted: 11-05-07 22:19pm
I think I misunderstood because it doesn't
say you have to in there. It just says
people WILL call your family and the
services place.
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CarolDiane
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Posted: 11-05-07 22:34pm
Let's put it this way. It is a moral
obligation for the welfare of the child
that the person (like a doctor or school
emplyee) call the parents and children and
family services. Cutting is considered a
threat of suicide however you look at it.
Consistant cutting can lead to deeper and
more dangerous things if the person is
that depressed.
And yes, if you read my first paragraph it
does say exactly that. Like I said, it is
a moral obligation for the person you have
told. If you go to the doctor with a cold,
and he see's all these bruses on you, you
can bet he will call Childrean and family
serivces to come and investagate.
Let me tell you a true story. My son was
only 5 years old at the time. I had a
fight with one of my neighbors a couple
days before. All of a sudden a knock comes
at my door and there stands a man in a
suit from Children and Family services
stating that someone called ans said they
saw my child outside playing with bruses
all over him. That man made me strip down
my son to nothing. I way humilatated. I
was a wonderful mother and still am. After
he was down looking, he said "Well, I can
see this was a false call. Have you had
any fights with any of you friends or
neighbors lately. Not remembering that I
did. I said "Not that I know of". By then
I was histerical in tears. I called my
husband home from work right away. At that
time I could have called and found out who
it was, but then I remembered the fight,
so I left it at that. I kew who called
them! True story!
Carrie
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eOns of gREy
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Joined: 04 Nov 2007 Posts: 35 Location: , United States
Posted: 11-05-07 22:54pm
If it's the person you fought with, you
shoulda gone back and kicked their @$$.
And for the other thing, I guess I'm just
retarded, or looked in the wrong topic.
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CarolDiane
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Posted: 11-05-07 23:00pm
LOL, your to funny. Believe me, I wanted
to kick her backside. Because I knew it
was her. She got mad at me, cause I yelled
at her son to stop pushing my son off his
tricycle. Can you beat that one. I wanted
to ring her neck. But, now you can see why
it is so important they proffesionals of
any kind really have to report these
things. Or the parents get away with it
and you wind up with a dead child or
injured for life. Physical abuse is with
you for life anyway. Ya can't win for
trying.
