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HNG
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I Dont Know What to Do
Posted: 10-21-07 14:44pm
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Ive Messed up really bad through out the
past months and now i am stuck in some
really bad places
I belive i anywhere from 7 to 8 month
preg.
but the only my b/f knows about it. I have
been so scared to tell my parents, so i
have kepted it from them for so long but
now its getting to the point where i cant.
I have tryed finding as much info about
adoption as i can but im having a hard
time. i know i have to tell my mom.. i
have put myself in a horrible posion from
waiting so long but i guess theres nothing
i can do about it now. I want to try to
have as much info as possible when i tell
my mom becuase this is my mistake not
hers.
Im willing to say i have messed up beyond
belif, and have not been smart about it.
So will please some try to help me, i
guess theres only so much one person can
do by them self
Thank YOu
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 10-21-07 15:11pm
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Wow, you've managed to keep it a secret
all this time?
If you are deadset on adoption then when
you tell your mum outline this. Explain
why you were too scared or worried to tell
her. It is harder the longer you leave it
and at this stage there's probably only a
matter of weeks left before you really do
have to tell them. Ummm i don't know what
to say really because i've never heard of
anyone being able to keep it to themselves
for this long. Find out about adoption
agencies in your area and explain your
plan to adopt to your parents perhaps? But
most of all don't let them pressure you
into keeping the baby if you don't want to
or if you change your mind don't let them
pressure you into adoption.
how does your boyfriend feel about this?
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jessamyn
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Posted: 10-21-07 16:27pm
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How old are you?
if you are 7/8 months pregnant now and
have hid it from your parents have you
atleast been going to the
doctors/clinics?
If you are set on adoption, maybe when you
explain it to your parents they will be
relieved.
You cant hid it any much longer... you
cant just turn around and have a baby next
month and no one know.
You are only creating more trouble for
yourself by hiding it. Mean or not yelling
or not disapointed or not. You are now in
a situation you cant just take back and
your parents, scary to face or not: do
love you unconditionally. and are most
likely willing to help you in your time of
need.
I would love to help you honestly making
phone calls and everything with adoption.
I am very good at research and contacting
the correct people.
What is your boyfriends views on
everything?
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kaiteo
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Posted: 10-22-07 11:55am
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If she doesn't know what month she's in,
it's more than likely she hasn't been to
the doctor.
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Ingi
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Posted: 10-22-07 11:58am
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You need to be seen by a doctor
immediately. It is not ok to deliver this
baby without medical help - especially
since you haven't been having your
pregnancy monitored.
Go, right now, to a doctor. Or the
emergency room and tell them you are
pregnant, how far along you suspect
yourself to be and that you have not told
your parents or seen a doctor until this
point. You are going to need some serious
intervention on your part to fix this.
Good luck!
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HNG
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Posted: 11-01-07 16:31pm
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I live in Northwest IN, if someone could
help look up info on adpotion and places
for adoptions
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HNG
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Posted: 11-01-07 16:34pm
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also
my b/f hasnt run out on me or anything, he
wants to help he just dosnt know how
really
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Ingi
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Posted: 11-01-07 16:48pm
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| HNG
wrote: | also
my b/f hasnt run out on me or anything, he
wants to help he just dosnt know how
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So did you see a doctor?
And why can't you look up information on
adoption?
Go to planned parenthood or a crisis
pregnancy center near you - they will have
all the information you could possibly
need regarding who to get in touch with
about adoption and what your adoption
options are at this point.
FIRST SEE A DOCTOR. You have no idea if
you and this baby are healthy.
Can you feel/see it moving?
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HNG
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Posted: 11-05-07 18:38pm
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| Ingi
wrote: | | HNG
wrote: | also
my b/f hasnt run out on me or anything, he
wants to help he just dosnt know how
really |
So did you see a doctor?
And why can't you look up information on
adoption?
Go to planned parenthood or a crisis
pregnancy center near you - they will have
all the information you could possibly
need regarding who to get in touch with
about adoption and what your adoption
options are at this point.
FIRST SEE A DOCTOR. You have no idea if
you and this baby are healthy.
Can you feel/see it
moving? |
Sorry i was in a hurry before when i was
on here last
I have seen a doctor the baby is healthy
luckly
I have found and gotten information on
adoption, but it helps when having someone
else look because they may be able to find
someone that i couldnt because really i am
not good at looking up things. Im tryn to
find adoption agencies, that help with
expensies, because that is a big problum
right now. BUt im just tryn to learn as
much as i can at this point.
and i did notice people were asking how i
manged to hide it so long from my mom,
well i really dont stay at home much,
because of alot problums, and because of
'some'problums my mom just pay atension
all that much.
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Verizon-y
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Posted: 11-05-07 18:44pm
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How old are you?
I think kids underestimate how much their
parents love them sometimes. Your mom
will be relieved when you tell her what's
wrong. She's probably been worried sick
about you anyway.
Since you are giving the baby up for
adoption your mom has no reason to be mad
at you. You are not placing any type of
burden on her, like expecting her to take
care of another kid or anything.
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Ingi
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Posted: 11-05-07 19:26pm
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There are crisis pregnancy centers all
over the US. Look in your phone book. They
would be more than happy to help you.
Also... adoption is generally one of those
things where your medical expenses get
paid. Sometimes living expenses, but not
always. That would be a private adoption
thing.
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Posted: 11-05-07 20:03pm
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Grab a phone book and look up adoption in
the yellow pages. I am sure the people
who answer the phone are used to talking
to very frightened young girls, so they
will be very nice.
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Verizon-y
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Re: I Dont Know What to Do
Posted: 11-05-07 20:06pm
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wrote: | Ive Messed up really bad
through out the past months and now i am
stuck in some really bad places
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Almost half of all girls get pregnant
before they turn 20. You are not alone.
Over forty percent of adolescents will
become pregnant before reaching age
twenty(41 percent of whites and 63 percent
of nonwhites). By age 18, one in four
young women(24 percent) will have a
pregnancy. [3]
http://www.teenshelter.org/d
ata.htm
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jessamyn
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Posted: 11-06-07 11:20am
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Has she been back? anyone talk to her
anymore than these posts?
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PenguinsRus
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Re: I Dont Know What to Do
Posted: 11-06-07 11:32am
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wrote: | | HNG
wrote: | Ive Messed up really bad
through out the past months and now i am
stuck in some really bad places
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Almost half of all girls get pregnant
before they turn 20. You are not alone.
Over forty percent of adolescents will
become pregnant before reaching age
twenty(41 percent of whites and 63 percent
of nonwhites). By age 18, one in four
young women(24 percent) will have a
pregnancy. [3]
http://www.teenshelter.org/d
ata.htm |
I was shocked to hear this; I never knew
that young pregnancies were that common!
That is very comforting for those who are
pregnant to know that they are definitely
not alone.
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Verizon-y
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Posted: 11-07-07 14:47pm
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I was shocked to find that out, too. I
find it to be tragic, though. The other
statistics that go along with that aren't
very good, like how many teens are poor
because of it, have to go on welfare, how
many have their children taken away and
put into foster care, how many teens never
finish school, on and on and on.
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HNG
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Posted: 11-07-07 17:32pm
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i dont get online much just to let
everyone know so if it takes me awhile to
reply to something
Thanks For the Help, i will try that (
phone book ) honestlyi never thought about
doing that before
but i am only 16, i relized i never
answered that.. school is imporent to me
and that one of my biggest worries right
now too... i hope i can work my best out
with that tho... untop of everything else
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Verizon-y
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Posted: 11-07-07 18:30pm
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Well amazingly enough you are almost all
done with being pregnant!
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HNG
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Posted: 11-09-07 18:42pm
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Yeah which to me the worst is really yet
to come not just having the baby but it
will work out
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Verizon-y
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Posted: 11-09-07 22:09pm
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I though you were putting it up for
adoption? Did you look in the phone book
under adoption yet, and call one of them?
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