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young Girl
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a Question For All the Mommies!
Posted: 10-22-07 18:34pm
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im not sure if this should be here or in
baby talk and parenting so if it needs to
be moved sorry guys i wasnt sure where to
post it
anyways fixing to become a mother and all
is comming up pretty fast
only about 7 weeks left until im going to
be a mom 
its wierd and scary and exiting at the
same time.
but i was wanting to ask all of you
something:
what is the BEST piece of advice that you
can give someone whos about to have a
child? being expierienced parents id like
to know the best advice that you guys
could give me that will help me after
kristen is born. i want to know what its
like,the best way to handle things...since
ive never done this before lol.
any comments would be appretiated
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Ingi
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Posted: 10-22-07 18:41pm
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Get your sleep when the baby sleeps. Let
people HELP you, don't be a hero and think
you can do it all yourself. Do what works
for you!
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 10-22-07 18:42pm
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Let's see here.
Before she's born: cherish your last days!
At the end of your pregnancy you're going
to be so impatient for this to be over and
to meet your little girl, so you'll
probably forget what I'm about to say to
you. But seriously, get as much sleep as
you can. Take nice long baths and showers.
Take advantage of your alone time with
Travis. Most of this will be gone when
Kristin is born. You'll be exhausted, you
won't want to leave her long enough to
take a long shower, you'll rush through
your meals (if you have time to eat at
all), and you and Travis will be so
overwhelmed with taking care of a brand
new little person. It might take a toll on
your relationship. Definitely cherish
these last weeks.
After she's born: take every situation as
it comes. You will not break her, so try
not to freak out if she spits up or if she
starts crying. Don't be afraid to ask for
help. If you start to feel overwhelmed and
feel like you can't handle any more, hand
her to someone and leave the room for a
few minutes until you feel better. You
won't be a bad mommy if you can't get her
to stop crying.
There's no perfect solution out there.
Just do the best that you can, don't be
afraid to rely on others to help you with
her, and listen to your instincts. And as
always, ask us! That's what we're here
for.
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~Carly~
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Posted: 10-22-07 18:44pm
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i couldn't have put it better myself!!!
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young Girl
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Posted: 10-22-07 18:46pm
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im scared guys
i mean its seriously smacking me in the
face when i walk into her nursery and see
her crib and all of her stuff
im scared to hold her. or hurt her neck
im scared to pick her up
ive never picked up a newborn before
im not really scared about the labor part.
at first i was but now i think im ok with
the fact that im going to be in pain no
matter what lol
i dont want things to change between me
and travis but i know they will
we are going to be parents and thats
freaking scary to think about.
ugh i dunno maybe im just being paranoid
but thanks for all the help and advice!!!
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 10-22-07 18:50pm
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Trust me, it'll come to you. They'll put
her in your arms when she's born and at
first you'll feel scared and awkward...
and after that, it'll feel natural.
Support her head/neck and she'll be just
fine. The nurses will help you. Ask them
as many quetions as you like - that's what
they're there for!
When you're in labor, try to stay as calm
as possible and listen to your body. It
knows what to do. Think of each
contraction as a wave. You'll go up one
side and down the other. Each wave will
bring you closer to the shore, and Kristin
will be waiting for you there. Something
that helped me during my contractions was
watching the monitor. It literally looked
like /\, so I knew when my contractions
were about to be over. It helped a lot.
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Mommy35
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Posted: 10-22-07 18:50pm
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Great advice from the other mothers.
You are going to have everyone telling you
what is best and what they did. These
aunts, grandmothers, friends, etc all
think they know best. Just remember that
Kristen is your baby. If someone tells
you to do something that you are not
comfortable with don't do it. Listen to
what they have to say, nod, and thank them
with your best fake smile and do what you
want.
She's your baby. You are going to make
mistakes, but the best parents make
mistakes and learn from them.
Babies need a lot of things, but they need
love most of all
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Ingi
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Posted: 10-22-07 18:50pm
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This is just the start of the rest of your
life as a mom. Pregnancy is the 'easy'
part.  It is normal to be
frightened. This is the biggest thing in
your life!
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 10-22-07 18:53pm
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I just realized I spelled Kristen's name
wrong - twice sorry!
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jenniek
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Posted: 10-22-07 19:14pm
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Well since you're having a girl my advice
doesn't apply but buy a peepee teepee!
But really I think the other ladies stated
everything really well!
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Posted: 10-22-07 19:18pm
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i think everything has been covered!
| jenniek
wrote: | | Well since you're having a
girl my advice doesn't apply but buy a
peepee teepee!
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finn must be a freak, he has never once
peed without a diaper on.
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young Girl
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Posted: 10-22-07 19:25pm
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thanks girls!!!!!!!
as for me and travis we are going to try
and have a weekend every other week where
we can go out by ourselves and leave
kristen with either my mom or his mom for
a few hours so we can spend time together.
i know its important for us to still have
a life and spend time with each other as
well so we wont go crazy
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Ingi
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Posted: 10-22-07 19:27pm
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| the_girlfreind
wrote: | thanks girls!!!!!!!
as for me and travis we are going to try
and have a weekend every other week where
we can go out by ourselves and leave
kristen with either my mom or his mom for
a few hours so we can spend time together.
i know its important for us to still have
a life and spend time with each other as
well so we wont go
crazy |
Ahh, leaving her will be hard at first -
but it will be fine. Those are the poeple
that raised you and Travis. I'm sure
they'll be fine with Kristen.
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 10-22-07 19:29pm
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Bridget: Aaron was changing his cousin's
diaper once (this was years ago), and the
baby peed straight over his own head!
After a few seconds he lost pressure and
ended up hitting himself in the eye with
the stream Aaron didn't know
what to do! Garrett was screaming and
Aaron started calling for people to come
help. That was his excuse for a long time
while I was pregnant on why he wasn't
going to change diapers. 
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Posted: 10-22-07 19:31pm
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be prepared to miss her when you go
out..its not even fun for me anymore
because I miss Bree so much and all I do
is talk about her.
Make sure you have heavy duty maxi pads
for after you have her.. lots of them,
youll need them and for labor my advise is
EPIDERAL!
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Posted: 10-22-07 19:32pm
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I think everyone pretty much covered just
about everything I would tell you. Once
Kristen is born, it will all come natural.
Believe me I didn't have a clue what I was
doing & when Kaylee was born, it felt
like I had been a mother for YEARS. That's
how natural it all came to me. Don't be
stubborn like I was & never ask for
help, you will need it. As much as you
might hate the thought of someone else
caring for your baby while you nap for a
little while, you'll need the rest!
Newborns are exhausting. (What am I
talking about -- Kaylee is 1 & she's
STILL exhausting lol) .. Like Laura said,
enjoy these last several weeks with Travis
alone. I wish someone would have given me
that advice when I was pregnant!! It is
hard in the beginning to try balancing the
boyfriend & the baby but you will get
it. The biggest thing I've had a problem
with is my family & Shane's trying to
make me feel like I know absolutely
nothing about being a Mommy. Don't let
people like that get you down. You're
Kristen's mother, you'll know what's best
for her. Yeah some people might get angry
with you if you don't follow every little
thing they say ..(("You should be doing
this" & "Do this like that" ..etc...
)) But at the end of the day, you're
Kristen's mom!
I might be able to think up some good
advice a little later!
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young Girl
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Posted: 10-22-07 19:46pm
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| vanessalouanne
wrote: | be prepared to miss her when
you go out..its not even fun for me
anymore because I miss Bree so much and
all I do is talk about her.
Make sure you have heavy duty maxi pads
for after you have her.. lots of them,
youll need them and for labor my advise is
EPIDERAL! |
lol im going natural if i can
i will definately keep an open mind and
all but as of right now its no epi for me
oh and thats another question i had! how
long do you bleed after you have the baby?
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 10-22-07 19:50pm
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I bled for about 6 weeks.
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Posted: 10-22-07 19:53pm
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I honestly can't remember how long I bled.
I know it wasn't very long at all though,
I'm thinking it was only 2-3 weeks but I'm
not sure if it's different since I had a
c-section? I have no idea!
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Ingi
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Posted: 10-22-07 19:55pm
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On and off for about 7 weeks. Even though
I was breast feeding, I 'started' again by
12 weeks. So I got a 5 week break in the
middle. UGH!
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