Too Soon to Believe I Love Him? Posted: 10-22-07 22:38pm
I've been with my boyfriend for a bit more
than 7 months. He also happens to be the
only bf I've ever had. I love him with all
my heart and I know he feels the same, as
he makes to tell me this everyday. I
remember when we first started going out
we were all "I LOVE YOU" all the time and
alot of people were like YUCK...one of my
friends even told me I souldnt be going
around announcing my love to the world
because chances were I probably didn't
even know what love was. He said I didn't
know that I loved him after about two
weeks of being with him. The thing is,
I've felt that way about him since the day
he asked me to be his girlfriend. And I
still feel absolute love for him. Several
people have asked me if I thought I'd
marry him, and I said yes. Everyone is
saying that it's foolish of me to say
that. They say I probably won't even end
up with him, as most first relationships
dont last. I know this isn't true. My
sister never had a boyfriend until she was
in college and she ended up marrying the
guy. they've been married many years and
have three beautiful children. So is it
too soon to believe that I love him, and
to assume I'll be with him the rest of my
life?
I don't think you are doing anything wrong
by thinking you will be together forever.
You are optimistic and optimistic people
are usually happy people.
And in no way is it too early to be in
love, I fell in love with my girlfriend in
no time at all and we have a wonderful
relationship.
Just go and be happy, ignore the nay
sayers and just enjoy what you have. Sure
anything could happen and bad things can
always be waiting around the corner, but
if you sit around worried about what might
happen, you don't spend as much time
enjoying the good things that are
happening.
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Maddie34
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Posted: 10-23-07 13:12pm
Too soon to be thinking ahead? Nope not at
all. Not too soon to say you love him
either. Marriage though? I dunno, I guess
i always thought that those kind of things
just kind of come up on their on and only
to be discussed wiith your guy or close
friends.
You don't want to talk about marriage too
much and too early, because sometimes it
can freak your partner out. At the first 7
months of my relationship if my boyfriend
would have started talking about marriage
I probably would have soiled myself right
then and there.
It puts pressure on a relationship. And
most people have a hard enough time with
the present than to set high standards for
the future. If marriage comes, it comes.
Until then just take baby steps and talk
about thoes.
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yogahoneybunny
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Posted: 10-25-07 08:23am
No way-it's never too soon to believe you
love someone. Love deepens over time and
through hardship. And that initial
head-over-heels feeling will wear off.
That's the thrill of love! What's it
like?
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Maji
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Posted: 10-25-07 23:26pm
well the head over heels feeling sure
hasnt worn off for either of us. we're
still crazy for eachother =]
as for those that say you would hate to
talk of marriage so soon...neither of us
seem to have a problem with it.
he was actually the first one to bring it
up he said jokingly
"you're last name sucks, i hate it. i'll
get you a new one"
that was the first time it was brought up,
and i didnt feel pressured at all.
i just felt like "wow he loves me".
it's not like we're setting a date or
anything.
but he did say
"it's gonna happen...i know it".
he makes me feel sooo loved <3
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Run With It Girl Posted: 10-25-07 23:54pm
If it is love and you both fell this way,
who is to judge you ......only God. Run
iwht this feeling and enjo it for every
moment it last. I do hope this will be
'the one' for you. I ahve an Aunt who met
her Husband in frist grade
together......thery are still
together................................so
love is a gamble....toss the dice and take
a chance....what do you have to loose?
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Maddie34
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Posted: 10-26-07 01:15am
My apologies
I guess I was thinking of it very
negatively. That’s just how my older
sister and I always thought of it and we
are both still dating our boyfriends from
high school so I'll stand by my opinion,
however accept that its different for
everyone. I live my life one day at a
time, so looking so far ahead would make
me a bit nervous! But I can see that’s
not the case for you.
