i have been going out with this boy for 8
months now. and we use to be so happy
together he gave me a promise ring for my
birthday and all but. now things are just
falling apart. almost every dayy i am in a
bad mood and when he asks me a question i
flip out on him and i yell at him. i dont
mean it. i just get irritated by him. i
think he is getting tooo attatched. but i
dont know how to explain that to him
without him getting mad. and i just got my
license and he wants me to drive him
everywhere. i am so mad, i work but he
dosent he wants me to buy him stuff, and
he wants to go out everywhere. every time
i complain about the gas he gets mad, hes
like well u work you know. i just wish he
would get a job. he is always all over
me. ever just have a day when your not in
the mood, and then you have some body
hanging all over you asking you whats
wrong like every 2 mins. I JUST CANT TAKE
THAT. thats when i yell at him and tell
him to go away. and then he gets mad at
me. its like all he ever wants to do is
hang out with me. me me me me me. i just
need some days to be alone. just me time.
i never have that. it makes me so upset.
im not happy anymore. can somebody please
help me. advice please.
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Fairy Godmother
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Joined: 11 Oct 2003 Posts: 1492 Location: , Georgia USA
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Hi Posted: 10-23-07 14:14pm
You are being smothered
alive................I feel he's taking
advantage of you and if you allow it to
continue, it will. You need space, you
need breathing room. HE also needs to get
his own license and a JOB......You need to
talk to him and tell him that you can't
live like this anymore, changes are at
hand or you both need to go your own
separate way...........He's probably gonna
raise hell, but he's gotten use to you
Mothering him and hauling him around and
buying him stuff......Sounds like he needs
to get a life with some other friends as
well.............. Just my opinion!
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Georgia59
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Joined: 11 Apr 2007 Posts: 5557 Location: Along the Mississippi, USA
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Posted: 10-24-07 12:04pm
How old are ya, 16? You don't need to
stick with this guy. Move on, find someone
else, or just be single for a while. It
can be fun!
I would suggest talking to your school
psychologist or counselor, they can help
you with your unhappiness and let you know
if you need to see another doctor about
it.
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Sunshine333
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Oct 2007 Posts: 35
Same Issue Posted: 10-24-07 13:03pm
I had the same issue. I hate being
smothered and my boyfriend wanted to spend
time with me 24/7.. that's just what
people do nowadays. He was comparing our
relationship - how often we saw each other
- to other people.
I am busy all the time with work and
extracurricular stuff and almost every
chance I got I would spend with him. I
told him that sometimes I just want to be
alone - it's not that I don't want to see
him, it's just I need some "me" time!
He still gets angry every once in a while
cause we're not together ALL the time, but
he understands my needs.
If your boyfriend doesn't understand what
you need / want he isn't worth staying
with at all!
