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tish-625
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Miss My Baby
Posted: 10-23-07 16:08pm
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I cant have any more kids.
Had a hysterectomy 11 years ago after my
son was born,we have two kids 14,11
years.
need some opinions
my cousin is bipolar and has depression.
she left her son with my mom when he was 3
months.
then she left her daughter with my husband
an I when she was three months and only
saw her 3 times during that time. she
didnt bring us milk or clothes but about
one time. her mother wont help her with
the kids. my cousin caused some problems
with my mother.and we didnt want any part
of those problems so we decided to give
the baby back to her. I dont know if that
was the right decision. we dont think that
she is doing right by those kid. child
protective services came out but she lied
and nothing was done. I miss the baby
terribly but i dont want to get caught in
that agian. what do you think that i
should do?
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pogo
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Posted: 10-23-07 21:11pm
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Go try and see your cousin and the baby to
see how they are doing.Ask if you can
spend sometime with the baby.Good Luck
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Tylanas
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Posted: 10-23-07 21:15pm
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I'd call child services again, or ask your
cousin if you could watch the baby
yourselves again. Getting caught up may
suck, but of you care for this child's
life and you think it's important, then I
think you should get involved.
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Sandbox Party
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Posted: 10-23-07 22:13pm
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petition the court for custody if u have
proof that shes a bad mom.
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tish-625
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Posted: 10-24-07 09:21am
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what if my husband is so mad a her because
of the dumb things that she does and says.
how do you think that i should talk to him
about this.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 10-24-07 09:24am
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I think your husband sounds like he is on
your side and I think he'd definitely want
to get the child out of that bad
situation. Just simply tell him what you
want to do.
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tish-625
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Posted: 10-24-07 10:15am
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but we have been the spot where we do all
the work by taking the baby to the dr. and
get coght up on the shots and cloth and
feed her. but we get no credit. she comes
to get her for the holidays and acts like
she has been the on to take care the baby
all this time. I know that sounds bad like
i want someone to pat me on the back but
that is not it. i just want her to stop
lying when it comes to the baby.and where
is the best place for the baby.
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 10-24-07 10:18am
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Obviously not with her.
If she's an unfit mother, you could easily
petition for guardianship. My sister did
so with her little brother-in-law.
And you can get a court order for child
support
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tish-625
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Posted: 10-24-07 10:40am
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my aunt would fight all the way even
though she wont help. at on time cps gave
the kids to her because my cousin had to
be put in a mental hospital for a couple
of days a as soon a she got out she sent
them right back to her.even though my
cousin said she couldnt handle all the
kids. I just dont know the best way to
handle this.
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 10-24-07 10:42am
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You could easily bring that up in
court...about how the aunt is giving her
the kids back...
If the kids are in danger, you should
act.
That's what you do when you love someone.
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tish-625
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Posted: 10-24-07 11:16am
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there is no dought that she loves the kids
and that they are not in any life or death
danger for the most part. but with her you
never know if she is lieing or not in some
of the things she tells us, even if she
looks stupid. but I dont think that she
thinks she is doing anything wrong. and if
she would want to leave the baby with me
then her mom would have a fit. Do you
think I am making a bigger deal out of
this than need be? I dont know. all I know
that i miss the baby and I don't know what
is best for everyone.
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 10-24-07 11:32am
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Ask her if you can visit the baby. Then,
if you notice something still isn't right,
call child protection. They can't just
rely on what she says
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tish-625
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Posted: 10-24-07 11:39am
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thanks, I never thought about it that way.
I am going to talk to my husband about
maybee going to get her sometime. Do you
think everyother weekend would be good.
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 10-24-07 11:42am
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At first, I would try to visit at her
house. This way, you can personally take a
look at what kind of conditions the baby
lives in. You could even snap a few
pictures if it's a total wreck to further
prove your point in court (possibly one
day).
You need to have proof if you ever want to
have guardianship.
After visiting her house a couple of
times, ask if you could possible "give her
a break and take the baby overnight." You
have to put it in terms that won't
threaten her.
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tish-625
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Posted: 10-24-07 11:48am
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I dont think it would threaten her at all.
at first she told me to take the baby and
she would give me her birth certificate
because she cant handle all the kids. i
said ok what about the father she said i
don't care what he says.(he is in jail
now).
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 10-24-07 11:51am
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What changed? She wouldn't be willing to
do that still?
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tish-625
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Posted: 10-24-07 12:00pm
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I got tired of being used, well thats what
it felt like. we did all of the hard work
dr.s milk, clothes, waking up nights and
then she came on thanksgiving and
christmas and took her out of town with
her parents and acted as if she was the
one taking care of the baby and it didnt
matter what we had planed.
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 10-24-07 12:02pm
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Well, some people are just selfish like
that.
Try visiting her at her home a few times.
Like I said, take pictures if necessary.
Then offer to take her overnight...
It's kind of a snowball effect.
If you are worried, you need to take some
kind of action.
If you just miss her, go see her 
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tish-625
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 10-24-07 12:10pm
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No problem! I hope everything works out
for the sake of the baby-not just you!
Keep us updated
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