I am a senior in high school, and have not
had sex yet. It isn't because I can't get
any, because i have had many many
opportunities with some very attractive
women. Many girls have offered themselves
to me in fact. I am a christian and am
planning to save myself for marriage. I
feel like i am missing out, because
everybody else i know is having sex, and
hooking up and parties and all. I've been
in many situations where im fingering the
girl til orgasm, and all that, and i do
everyhing but stick my dick in her
puddin.. IDK, but i feel like im missing
out on this "youth" sex thing.. Is it
worth it to save myself for marriage and
the right one? I feel like God will bless
me with a really nice girl that has saved
herself too, but it seems like everyone
else is having sex, and i may be the only
one left
My second question, is that one time when
i got really high, i sort of put my pinky
up my anal hole.. I felt really awkward
after doing this, but at the same time it
felt kind of good. I feel really weird
that i did this to myself and it makes me
want to think that i am gay or something
(i am not watsoever gay, but its just this
weird masculinity thing..) I have
"fingered" my anal hole like 4 times now
in the past month.. Is this normal? I feel
weird that i am doing this and im going to
stop it.. its just too weird after i cumm,
i feel like an fool for doing what i did.
Thoughts? anyone else do either of the 2
thigns i mentioned??
thanks for ur time
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HealthySex
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Joined: 09 Jan 2007 Posts: 414
Posted: 10-23-07 18:02pm
I can't answer the first question for you
as it sounds religious and something you
have to decide for yourself.
As for anal play, that's completely
normal. Not sure how far you go, but the
prostate is the male g-spot so many men
masturbate by stimulating it. Nothing gay
about it.
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dave01
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Posted: 10-23-07 19:30pm
As for the first question, I am also a
Christian and you will have more than
enough opportunity after marriage for sex.
You should be grateful that you are not
getting the STD's that most of your
sexually active friends will get, if they
have not already. As a Christian you
should not be fingering women or engaged
in any sort of sexual activity until
marriage.
As for the anal question, I agree with
HealthySex that it certainly is not a gay
thing at all. It is simply a biological
reality that stimulating the prostrate
gland in this manner has this result. It
is true, whether you stimulate it with a
finger, a dildo, or another guy's dick
(which is definitely a gay activity).
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KornJL33
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Posted: 10-23-07 20:48pm
dave01
wrote:
As for the first question, I
am also a Christian and you will have more
than enough opportunity after marriage for
sex. You should be grateful that you are
not getting the STD's that most of your
sexually active friends will get, if they
have not already. As a Christian you
should not be fingering women or engaged
in any sort of sexual activity until
marriage.
As for the anal question, I agree with
HealthySex that it certainly is not a gay
thing at all. It is simply a biological
reality that stimulating the prostrate
gland in this manner has this result. It
is true, whether you stimulate it with a
finger, a dildo, or another guy's dick
(which is definitely a gay
activity).
lol, well i dont think ill be using a
dildo or another guy's dick.. thats just
sick man, and i wanna throw up thikin
about that sinful gay caca..
Also, theres no way i can make it to
marriage without at least fingering some
girls lol. I hookup with random girls all
the time that let me finger them lol. I
know how it says in the bible that if u
think a sin, then its like u actually
commit it. So does this mean that if i
masterbate (which is a sin), is it just
the same thing as having sex with a girl,
which means i should just go have sex with
a girl if its the same thing?? IDK what to
do... theres so many opportunities i miss
out on
Also, i went to a christian middle school.
All of the kids basically went to a public
highschool after that because the
christian school ended at 8th grade. I
would say that almost all of the 40 kids
that graduated have already had sex
multiple times, and a couple girls i know
have 3-somes and all with other girls and
guys... I am like one of the few that is
still a virgin..
Even in that show 7th heaven that kid
simon talked about having sex with his
girlfriend in the show (forget her name),
and his das was the pastor of the
church..
All of my cousins have had sex before
marriage, except for one, who is about to
get married to this girl, and they have
both saved themselves for marriage, but he
has had like oral sex and all before.
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Tylanas
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Re: Anal Question/sex Posted: 10-23-07 21:22pm
KornJL33
wrote:
I am a senior in high
school, and have not had sex yet. It isn't
because I can't get any, because i have
had many many opportunities with some very
attractive women. Many girls have offered
themselves to me in fact. I am a christian
and am planning to save myself for
marriage. I feel like i am missing out,
because everybody else i know is having
sex, and hooking up and parties and all.
I'm not christian, but I didn't have sex
in higschool either, so I know how it
feels. But I felt proud of myself at the
same time, because I knew I had better
things to do than endanger my health and
my body. I wanted to save myself for
someone I truly loved, and that didn't
happen until I was 20 years old.
Quote:
I've been in many
situations where im fingering the girl til
orgasm, and all that, and i do everyhing
but stick my dick in her puddin.. IDK, but
i feel like im missing out on this "youth"
sex thing.. Is it worth it to save myself
for marriage and the right one?
I don't think "youth" sex is good at all -
not that I had any, as I said! I simply
feel that most teens aren't mature enough
emotionally to handle sex. I don't think
most teens can truly appreciate the
connection one gets during sex.
Quote:
I feel like God
will bless me with a really nice girl that
has saved herself too, but it seems like
everyone else is having sex, and i may be
the only one left
Like I said: You definitely aren't! Trust
me, there are plenty of guys and girls who
are still virgins
Quote:
My second
question, is that one time when i got
really high, i sort of put my pinky up my
anal hole.. I felt really awkward after
doing this, but at the same time it felt
kind of good.
Well of course it did. The anus has a lot
of nerve endings on it, so it can be very
pleasurable to stimulate it. Inside of the
rectum you can stimulate the prostate
gland, which can cause an intense orgasm.
Quote:
I feel really
weird that i did this to myself and it
makes me want to think that i am gay or
something (i am not watsoever gay, but its
just this weird masculinity thing..) I
have "fingered" my anal hole like 4 times
now in the past month.. Is this normal? I
feel weird that i am doing this and im
going to stop it.. its just too weird
after i cumm, i feel like an fool for
doing what i
did.
Yes. It is 100% normal. Enjoying anal sex
has nothing to do with being homosexual:
many straight men enjoy it as well (either
through their female partner fingering
them or through a strap-on).
Don't feel weird or foolish! Again, its
completely normal and it's supposed to
feel good because of all the nerves down
there. Don't stop if you enjoy it!
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KornJL33
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Joined: 23 Oct 2007 Posts: 43
Posted: 10-23-07 21:26pm
idk, i dont wanna have silent farts the
rest of my life... lol.
thanks for all the advice.
oh, and say i meet someone special and end
up having sex b4 marriage, will i like
bust like as i enter her? i mean, i dont
think i could last 3 thrusts without
cumming in a real situation..
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Tylanas
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Posted: 10-23-07 21:34pm
KornJL33
wrote:
idk, i dont wanna have
silent farts the rest of my life... lol.
thanks for all the advice.
oh, and say i meet someone special and end
up having sex b4 marriage, will i like
bust like as i enter her? i mean, i dont
think i could last 3 thrusts without
cumming in a real
situation..
I have no idea what you mean about silent
farts... O.o
As for ejculation, you can practice on
your own to make yourself last longer.
Just masturbate more slowly!
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KornJL33
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Posted: 10-23-07 21:38pm
lol, ur joking about the silent fart
thingy right?
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Tylanas
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Posted: 10-23-07 21:58pm
No, I'm not. What are you talking about?
Is this some strange reference to anal sex
somehow weakening and permanently damaging
the sphincter? That only happens if you
like shoving large objects up there; not
fingers.
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inkaquest
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So/ Posted: 10-24-07 09:16am
Having sex or not is up to you.
But I dont think is quite honest to
yourself to say your christian, to say you
want to save for marriage but at the same
time enjoy fingering a woman.
Do things all the way. Choose.
It doesnt surprise me, how anyone that is
religious and tries to tell something
about their believes, the most often, not
to say almost always, use the "fear"
factor. eg: "be happy for not having sex
because your missing out on the STD all
your friends must have".
I have 28, didnt had sex till 20 with no
fingering before it, because I choose to.
Enjoying anal stimulation is completly
normal, human.
That doesnt define that you'r gay.
Your comment about farting just show quite
easily you judge without knowing.
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dave01
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Joined: 04 Jul 2007 Posts: 61 Location: Iowa
Posted: 10-24-07 09:47am
Go a Google on boys under attack and you
should be able to pull up a website
written for Christian guys just like you.
It should answer all of your questions.
By the way, masturbation is not a sin. It
is never mentioned in the Bible at all, so
it I don't see why people think it's a
sin, whereas fingering isn't. In any
event, despite what all your friends are
doing (even if they say they are
Christian) you are not alone.
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KornJL33
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Oct 2007 Posts: 43
Posted: 10-24-07 21:36pm
ok, about the silent fart thingy, u guys
need to chill the [edit] out.. i was not
referring to anal sex at all.. damn... i
stuck my pinky up my ass and the next day
i had some farts that were more "silent"
than normal.. [edit] this, i am not
fingering my anus again.. its just too
weird..
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Tylanas
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Posted: 10-24-07 23:14pm
Korn, I edited your post for trying to
cheat the word filter. It's not necessary
to say that kind of thing.
Secondly, I had no clue whether or not it
was a gay-bashing reference or not,
someone else said that. So relax.
If you are weirded out by it then no,
don't do it anymore. But you'll be missing
out.
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KornJL33
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Joined: 23 Oct 2007 Posts: 43
Posted: 10-25-07 11:45am
Eiri
wrote:
Korn, I edited your post for
trying to cheat the word filter. It's not
necessary to say that kind of thing.
Secondly, I had no clue whether or not it
was a gay-bashing reference or not,
someone else said that. So relax.
If you are weirded out by it then no,
don't do it anymore. But you'll be missing
out.
lmao! i was wondering why i had so many
edits!! lol that was funny. ya i tried to
cheat the filter..
i wasnt bashing gays or anything, but
while we're on the subject, i do not
support gays at all. God had a whole city
destroyed in the Bible because of all the
homosexuals they had.
Being Gay is a choice!!! i've read so many
posts where people say thers no cure for
being Gay, or that u were born Gay. IT"S
NOT TRUE!
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inkaquest
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Gay Posted: 10-25-07 11:53am
How do you know that to be gay is a
choice? Facts pls...
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Tylanas
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Posted: 10-25-07 12:00pm
I'm not going to comment, Korn. I'll just
say I'm the moderator of the GLBT forum,
and I am extremely pro-gay-rights.
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Georgia59
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Posted: 10-25-07 14:50pm
This isn't the place to debate
homosexuality. Do it on the debate forums
if you want to. In here, please don't
refer to anything as "sinful gay (bad
word)" ok?
On the sexual health forums here, we
encourage any and all kinds of sex
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marvel
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Posted: 10-25-07 15:44pm
But God is ok with randomly fingering
women?
I'm seriously just curious.
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KornJL33
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Posted: 10-25-07 18:09pm
thats different man.. totally different.
there are gray areas, but homosexuality is
below the belt. fingering women b4
marriage is not really a bad thing. at
least its not sex.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 10-25-07 20:06pm
If it's sexual, that means you're lusting,
which is a sin. Just so you know. I think
it's all poop but you're allowed your own
beliefs; just don't be hypocritical about
them. Either abstain or don't. You can
catch an STD or transmit one "just"
fingering. You can give one too, if you've
caught one.
