A lot of women don't show until late in their pregnancy. If your doctor isn't worried about your weight/growth, you shouldn't be either. You are probably a late bloomer.

That is a lot of people in one house. I feel for you.

there are eight actually liveing here but there are at least 10-12 here staying almost every night and the bad thing is though it that i am the one that normally the one that takes care of these 5 kids and they are 98654 and i dont think i can handle haveing a new born in the sam house as thesee kids they are loud mean fight and they also are very whinny and inconsiderate. i dunno what to do..

What can you do? You know your options.

well see the only thing is , my mother in law has custody of the kids and she works 12 hours a day to pay the bills and do everything elsa around here.. my dh feels that it is his place to help her and stay here with the kids.. and the days that he can work i am the one that is here for them when the kids are in school... i just wish i could get them to understand that they can't be acting like this when the baby gets here and that they need to get in the new habit now... but it wont work.. i dunno what to do..

Why won't it work? You can't give up. I think you are talking about the kids here - but part of parenting (and psuedo-parenting your brother's neices and nephews) is going to be the consistency. Make the rules and STICK TO THEM. This is not an area to waffle on.

Like, after school, everyone has a snack and does homework or watches tv. If that is your rule, then that is your rule. Make them stick to it. When it is quiet time, it is quiet time.

If this isn't an arrangement (babysitting) that you feel comfortable with, speak up now! Let your boyfriend and his mom know so they can find other people to help them.

Good luck!

I didn't have a proper bump until i was around 24-26 weeks i think

have you discussed weight gain with your doctor, do they show any concern? I have known woman to be 38-39 weeks and look maybe 15 weeks

if your octor isnt concerned with the weight gain then your okay
however if youd like talk to them about it so you can ease your mind!

ok its like this i have to try to explain it like this. the kids have never really had anyone to discipline them. their mother is never here and their grandmother will not punish them.. whipping them and time out doesnt even work as they calm down from a whipping or get out of the corner from time out they are right back at getting in trouble again..


as far as the weight thing. my nutritonest doesnt seem conserened but i am still a little conserned because every time i go to the doctor i am either 1 or 2 lbs over or under the weight i was when i first went to the doctor.. i am so convesed and stressed and man oh man does my head ever hurt..

They continue to do it precisely because they have no discipline and no consistency in the boundaries that are set up. If you have boundaries when they are with you and you are stern about them, they will learn to respect them. This does not happen all at once, it is learned over time.

Good luck. It does sound stressful.

It took me ages and ages to start showing. I'm 33 weeks but still not huge for how far along I am. I didn't start showing until maybe 28 weeks and even then it was just a little. As for not gaining weight, some women are slower to gain or if you started out overweight or even at the high end of normal for your height, you may not gain much weight with pregnancy. If your doc isn't concerned, you shouldn't be either.

Showing will come, trust me.

Just to make you feel better, here I am at 28 weeks (just barely starting to show, it was much, much less obvious before then, trust me):



And here's 33 weeks:

you will pop
atfirst i lost weight in pregnancy too
i didnt gain ANYTHING for a very long time
i only wiegh 116 right now and im almost 33 weeks pregnant

First off, Id tell my husband his responsibility is to his child, not his nieces. Rude, maybe, but that's how I feel about it.
Secondly, like Ingi said, you need to stick with it. Change doesn't come overnight and it may be hard but if you are consistent they will listen.
Think of it as practice for your child.
Also, if you say your going to punish them for whatever they have done, punish them. Do not use empty threats. Just remember your the adult and they are the children. It is for there own good.

well he understands that and he is here for us but see he feels that since his mom has helped him so much with the trouble he was in in the past that he owns her and thats how he is doing it is by helping with the kids. i have been trying with them since may and they keep getting worse.. i always follow through with what i say i am going to do..well see they think since im not grandma or mama to them that what i say is not relevent.. they tell me that since i am not mama or grandma that they dont have to listen to me even though i am the one that is here all the time... they have no respect...

Your baby is the most important thing right now. If you're stressed out the baby picks picks up on that, and if you're calm & happy the baby will be more calm and happy. Tell your boyfriend that moving out is the best thing for your own health and his baby's health, and it doesn't mean you will be deserting the people you live with now you just won't be around them 24/7. Family is family and it's great to help them out but you need your own life (& your sanity!) too.

i know kids like that, that think since your not their parent they don't have to listen to you. they always tell me "your not my boss i don't have to listen to you!" and these girls are 6 and 8 years old.... i love kids but those 2 little girl they make me just want to slap the hell outta them lol.. i'm hoping it's something they grow out of because if not it'll drive me crazy lol

Yeah, because it's normal to want to "slap the hell" out of little girls.

lol not for me

That makes me sick. I'm sorry to hear that.