angelinhiseyes2007
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Pregnant And Stress - Why am I not Showing ?
Posted: 10-23-07 19:13pm
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i am 24 almost 25 weeks and i am still not
showing unless i am laying down on my
back... the baby is gaining wait but not
me.. what is going on? i am trying to
figure out why i can not put on weight and
why i am not showing? if you have any
advice please help...
i have another problem as well. my dh and
i are living with his mom and his 4 nieces
and nephew and i am so stressed out and it
only gets worse. we are still going to be
here when the baby comes in February and i
dont think that i can deal with it.. i
dunno what to do...
PLEASEE HELP S
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Ingi
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Posted: 10-23-07 19:17pm
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A lot of women don't show until late in
their pregnancy. If your doctor isn't
worried about your weight/growth, you
shouldn't be either. You are probably a
late bloomer.
That is a lot of people in one house. I
feel for you.
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angelinhiseyes2007
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Posted: 10-23-07 19:25pm
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there are eight actually liveing here but
there are at least 10-12 here staying
almost every night and the bad thing is
though it that i am the one that normally
the one that takes care of these 5 kids
and they are 98654 and i dont think i can
handle haveing a new born in the sam house
as thesee kids they are loud mean fight
and they also are very whinny and
inconsiderate. i dunno what to do..
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Ingi
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Posted: 10-23-07 19:26pm
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What can you do? You know your options.
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angelinhiseyes2007
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Posted: 10-23-07 19:32pm
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well see the only thing is , my mother in
law has custody of the kids and she works
12 hours a day to pay the bills and do
everything elsa around here.. my dh feels
that it is his place to help her and stay
here with the kids.. and the days that he
can work i am the one that is here for
them when the kids are in school... i just
wish i could get them to understand that
they can't be acting like this when the
baby gets here and that they need to get
in the new habit now... but it wont work..
i dunno what to do..
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Ingi
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Posted: 10-24-07 09:03am
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Why won't it work? You can't give up. I
think you are talking about the kids here
- but part of parenting (and
psuedo-parenting your brother's neices and
nephews) is going to be the consistency.
Make the rules and STICK TO THEM. This is
not an area to waffle on.
Like, after school, everyone has a snack
and does homework or watches tv. If that
is your rule, then that is your
rule. Make them stick to it. When it is
quiet time, it is quiet time.
If this isn't an arrangement (babysitting)
that you feel comfortable with, speak up
now! Let your boyfriend and his mom know
so they can find other people to help
them.
Good luck!
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 10-24-07 11:45am
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I didn't have a proper bump until i was
around 24-26 weeks i think
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jessamyn
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Posted: 10-24-07 14:05pm
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have you discussed weight gain with your
doctor, do they show any concern? I have
known woman to be 38-39 weeks and look
maybe 15 weeks
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young Girl
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Posted: 10-24-07 14:20pm
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if your octor isnt concerned with the
weight gain then your okay
however if youd like talk to them about it
so you can ease your mind!
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angelinhiseyes2007
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Posted: 10-24-07 15:09pm
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ok its like this i have to try to explain
it like this. the kids have never really
had anyone to discipline them. their
mother is never here and their grandmother
will not punish them.. whipping them and
time out doesnt even work as they calm
down from a whipping or get out of the
corner from time out they are right back
at getting in trouble again..
as far as the weight thing. my nutritonest
doesnt seem conserened but i am still a
little conserned because every time i go
to the doctor i am either 1 or 2 lbs over
or under the weight i was when i first
went to the doctor.. i am so convesed and
stressed and man oh man does my head ever
hurt..
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Ingi
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Posted: 10-24-07 15:20pm
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They continue to do it precisely because
they have no discipline and no consistency
in the boundaries that are set up. If you
have boundaries when they are with you and
you are stern about them, they will learn
to respect them. This does not happen all
at once, it is learned over time.
Good luck. It does sound stressful.
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Posted: 10-25-07 09:27am
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It took me ages and ages to start showing.
I'm 33 weeks but still not huge for how
far along I am. I didn't start showing
until maybe 28 weeks and even then it was
just a little. As for not gaining weight,
some women are slower to gain or if you
started out overweight or even at the high
end of normal for your height, you may not
gain much weight with pregnancy. If your
doc isn't concerned, you shouldn't be
either.
Showing will come, trust me.
Just to make you feel better, here I am at
28 weeks (just barely starting to show, it
was much, much less obvious before then,
trust me):
And here's 33 weeks:
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young Girl
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Posted: 10-25-07 11:59am
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you will pop
atfirst i lost weight in pregnancy too
i didnt gain ANYTHING for a very long
time
i only wiegh 116 right now and im almost
33 weeks pregnant
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Posted: 10-25-07 17:00pm
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First off, Id tell my husband his
responsibility is to his child, not his
nieces. Rude, maybe, but that's how I
feel about it.
Secondly, like Ingi said, you need to
stick with it. Change doesn't come
overnight and it may be hard but if you
are consistent they will listen.
Think of it as practice for your child.
Also, if you say your going to punish them
for whatever they have done, punish them.
Do not use empty threats. Just remember
your the adult and they are the children.
It is for there own good.
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angelinhiseyes2007
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Posted: 10-26-07 16:32pm
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well he understands that and he is here
for us but see he feels that since his mom
has helped him so much with the trouble he
was in in the past that he owns her and
thats how he is doing it is by helping
with the kids. i have been trying with
them since may and they keep getting
worse.. i always follow through with what
i say i am going to do..well see they
think since im not grandma or mama to them
that what i say is not relevent.. they
tell me that since i am not mama or
grandma that they dont have to listen to
me even though i am the one that is here
all the time... they have no respect...
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kgrono
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Posted: 10-26-07 23:36pm
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Your baby is the most important thing
right now. If you're stressed out the baby
picks picks up on that, and if you're calm
& happy the baby will be more calm and
happy. Tell your boyfriend that moving out
is the best thing for your own health and
his baby's health, and it doesn't mean you
will be deserting the people you live with
now you just won't be around them 24/7.
Family is family and it's great to help
them out but you need your own life (&
your sanity!) too.
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Posted: 10-29-07 12:06pm
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i know kids like that, that think since
your not their parent they don't have to
listen to you. they always tell me "your
not my boss i don't have to listen to
you!" and these girls are 6 and 8 years
old.... i love kids but those 2 little
girl they make me just want to slap the
hell outta them lol.. i'm hoping it's
something they grow out of because if not
it'll drive me crazy lol
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Posted: 10-29-07 13:37pm
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Yeah, because it's normal to want to "slap
the hell" out of little girls.
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Little Miss Oops
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Posted: 10-30-07 14:03pm
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That makes me sick. I'm sorry to hear
that.
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