Love_Like_Winter
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Posted: 08-24-07 07:32am
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There is nothing wrong with watching porn
at all, its not like your man is out
cheating. Its harmless. And there is
certainly nothing wrong with
masturbation!!!
Like benc152 said, try watching it
together, and not all the women are like
Barbie dolls... after all, porn is aimed
at peoples sexual tastes and fantasies and
not everyone likes blondes and big boobs!
So just try and enjoy it with your
partner... I cant see how else to get past
feeling the way you do...
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victoria16
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Posted: 08-24-07 10:48am
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Thank you for all who agrea with me.  Its nice to
hear thats its not just me hating this.
I guess I kinda understand about the whole
moderation thing but I still cant stand
it. 
I dont want my fiance to look at other
woman with clothes on or without clothes
on, etc.
Yu know Im all up for expiramenting but
watching porn with him I just dont know If
could do it.
...An dont get me wrong, I do not want to
sound cocky or full of my self.
But Im a model, n he has me he shouldnt
want to look at other woman.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 08-24-07 12:12pm
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I'm sorry, but it's pretty natural for
guys to look at other women. It's going to
happen! My boyfriend was nearly a eunuch,
and HE looked at porn!!
Maybe you just need to find a type of porn
YOU like. For me personally, I like
artistic photos of vaginas, gay porn, or
Yaoi, which is drawn or animated gay porn
in the anime style. Yes, I'm odd, I know.
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victoria16
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Posted: 08-24-07 12:26pm
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| Eiri
wrote: | I'm sorry, but it's pretty
natural for guys to look at other women.
It's going to happen! My boyfriend was
nearly a eunuch, and HE looked at porn!!
Maybe you just need to find a type of porn
YOU like. For me personally, I like
artistic photos of vaginas, gay porn, or
Yaoi, which is drawn or animated gay porn
in the anime style. Yes, I'm odd, I
know. |
Hey,
No you are not odd, to each its own. I guess I
should try to be more open to it, but
thiers just something about it...I dont
know its hard for me to accept. ...what
about making yur own, I wouldnt mind him
jacking off to us or just me.
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Jude-Love
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Posted: 08-24-07 12:43pm
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To me, it really sounds like what he's
doing is making you insecure and you need
to work that out on your own. Watching
porn is a normal thing to do and so is
masturbating. Although, I have to say I
think it's kind of weird when someone
won't stop watching it or can't give it
up. I think it's harmless, but for many
many men it can be a harmful addiction.
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Fairy*Godmother
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Hi
Posted: 08-24-07 12:46pm
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Victoria, YOu could make your own porn
movies, but remember ,its kinda like
putting something in writing. It might
could be used against you one day. Eiri is
right, it is a nataurl thing because it is
a MALE thing to do. Men are going to look.
Some just make it more obvious than
others. I myself feel like you do and have
most of my life, but I do not have a
problem with it anymore because I feel
secure in my relationship. I totally
understand how you are feeling because you
are so young and you are in a different
type of relationship. There is all kinds
of porn and there will always be other
women for him to look at. BUT.....it is
your choice...you have that right whether
you are into it or not. And, not all of us
are....This does not change who you
are....I would sit down and face to face
talk honestly before you continue this
relationship though. COuld make a lot of
difference.
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victoria16
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Re: Hi
Posted: 08-24-07 12:58pm
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| Fairy*Godmother
wrote: | | Victoria, YOu could make
your own porn movies, but remember ,its
kinda like putting something in writing.
It might could be used against you one
day. Eiri is right, it is a nataurl thing
because it is a MALE thing to do. Men are
going to look. Some just make it more
obvious than others. I myself feel like
you do and have most of my life, but I do
not have a problem with it anymore because
I feel secure in my relationship. I
totally understand how you are feeling
because you are so young and you are in a
different type of relationship. There is
all kinds of porn and there will always be
other women for him to look at. BUT.....it
is your choice...you have that right
whether you are into it or not. And, not
all of us are....This does not change who
you are....I would sit down and face to
face talk honestly before you continue
this relationship though. COuld make a lot
of
difference. |
Very true, I wouldnt want it used against
me but I also know chas would never do
that to me. Hes coming over tonight we
will talk then.
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lil_jessie
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Posted: 08-30-07 07:20am
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hey ya! i don't think theres anythink rong
with porn i think it's ok as long as it
dose not tack over from ur sex life
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Laura77
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Posted: 09-02-07 18:57pm
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Only my view but i will not be with any
man who doesnt knock porn on the head...
Yes i do think its a self esteem issue
with me but i also have the romantic in
me. I just feel that if he is looking at a
woman that personally he might aswel go do
it with her. Your with a partner to
experience each other that way and no one
else.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 09-02-07 20:21pm
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Well, I'm going to keep watching gay porn
people. I don't have a wee wee and I never
will, so the best I can do is to watch to
men go at it! What's wrong with that? I
like watching other people being happy!
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victoria16
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Posted: 09-03-07 00:47am
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| Laura77
wrote: | | Only my view but i will not
be with any man who doesnt knock porn on
the head... Yes i do think its a self
esteem issue with me but i also have the
romantic in me. I just feel that if he is
looking at a woman that personally he
might aswel go do it with her. Your with a
partner to experience each other that way
and no one
else. |
I agrea 100%
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Jules
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Posted: 09-03-07 05:48am
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| Eiri
wrote: | | Well, I'm going to keep
watching gay porn people. I don't have a
wee wee and I never will, so the best I
can do is to watch to men go at it! What's
wrong with that? I like watching other
people being
happy! |
Ha ha - I had to read that twice because
to me a 'wee wee' is a vagina!
I have no problem with my husband watching
porn and I enjoy watching it too - I like
the anime stuff too.
If you're bothered by porn then it
suggests you are not secure in yourself or
your relationship.
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Georgia59
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Posted: 09-04-07 12:02pm
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I used to be really insecure about it, I
used to freak out and feel bad about
myself and stuff.
It took us having a heart to heart and him
making an effort to assure me that i was
beautiful for me to get over it.
Plus a couple years in a trusting
relationship where I grew to realize he
would love me for lots of things, even
though I'm not a blonde bimbo. (Ok, but I
am blonde...)
We watch it together sometimes now.... Not
so bad.
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Posted: 09-04-07 16:19pm
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You say that you are a model, and I
realize you probably aren't a nude model,
but you have to realize that young boys
love to jerk off to the Macy's catalog and
other things just as much as older guys
like to jerk off to porn. Maybe somebody
is jerking off to you right now. Did you
ever think that maybe your modeling has
your finacee a little bit insecure as
well? If you are a model people are
looking at you all the time. think about
it...
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victoria16
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Posted: 09-04-07 20:36pm
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| sillyakchick
wrote: | | You say that you are a
model, and I realize you probably aren't a
nude model, but you have to realize that
young boys love to jerk off to the Macy's
catalog and other things just as much as
older guys like to jerk off to porn.
Maybe somebody is jerking off to you right
now. Did you ever think that maybe your
modeling has your finacee a little bit
insecure as well? If you are a model
people are looking at you all the time.
think about
it... |
lol No Im not a nude model. BUT OHH THATS
CREAPY!!!!!!! I never actually thought
about people looking at me. I never
thought of it that way. I mean I know chas
has some insecurtites he gets jelouse when
I talk to guys even if he knows I'm not
interested.
...I feel really bad though becuase people
have strait up told him to his face "how
did you get a girl like that!?" I feel so
bad I love him so much. I would never want
him to feel unworthy because hes not
unworthy.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 09-04-07 20:37pm
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Well, maybe that will help you see the
other side of the coin 
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victoria16
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Posted: 09-04-07 20:49pm
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| Eiri
wrote: | | Well, maybe that will help
you see the other side of the coin |
LOL Never heard that one before. But yah I
suppose your rite.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 09-04-07 20:53pm
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| victoria16
wrote: | | Eiri
wrote: | | Well, maybe that will help
you see the other side of the coin |
LOL Never heard that one before. But yah I
suppose your
rite. |
I'm mixing my euphanisms! But I'm very
tired XD
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victoria16
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Posted: 09-04-07 21:25pm
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| Eiri
wrote: | | victoria16
wrote: | | Eiri
wrote: | | Well, maybe that will help
you see the other side of the coin |
LOL Never heard that one before. But yah I
suppose your
rite. |
I'm mixing my euphanisms! But I'm very
tired XD |
LOL its ok I got what you meant.
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