He Says He Needs Passion...help

Can I ask, what exactly she did or said that made him say she is soooo passionate? Also what do u do in comparison? This information would give me a better insite into the situation, I can then respond accordingly/

milly

i dont know just how she responded to sex but i really dont know thats also a question for you too i quess

how does anybody show passion?

Did he actually express that he enjoyed his sex life more with her than with you? OR did you just infer that?

Anyway, sex with different people is ALWAYS way different. The only thing I can suggest is to show more initiative.

I agree wit Rosie H.
Everyone's definition of passion is different. Men tend to love a woman that moans [makes him feel his dick is big and can satisfy her]. They love to feel wanted and needed, just like us women.
Find out what he enjoys and likes sexually, then you decide on what you can and cannot do or give to him and your sex life.

It's a tuff one. sometimes some men get turned off with an agressive women.. Some get turned on.. sometimes you are damed if you do and damed if you don't. I feel for you,, that would hurt my feelings,, Don't try to be something you're not.. Don't compare yourself to her. He is with you!! It will only make things uncomfortable.. just be you! One thing if you feel like doing something do it! some times women get humm shy when it comes to sex.. Just let your feelings go.. That is a turn on to most men..

i am not shy in bed in fact i am very open to trying almost anything... he knows this... as for his dick lol it is about 7 inches and he knows it is big enough because we have to be careful to keep it from hitting my cervix... maybe i need to just put more effort into the relationship? so far i am really not into sex but yea i am thinking that that might be my birth control... i just dont have much of a sex drive lately...hell i dont even masterbate much lately when i used to do it almost daily... he doesnt want to hurt my feelings but i am pretty sure he enjoyed sex with her more (also i make him wear condoms with me and she didnt...) i am not shy with him and he loves it when i am aggressive...i am sorrta disappointed with sex so far i expected more of it ya know? do i just need to have more of it we have had sex probably about ten times... any tips or i deas would be great! thanks again

I'm having the problem in reverse! When we first got together, my boyfriend was all over me, to the point to where I would get aggravated. Our relationship is still too new to be "old", but he doesn't seem as interested into sex. I posted another bulletin about how something is making me bleed every day, and I know that this is a factor because it really is gross. But now, it's gotten to where even when I'm not bleeding, I can't get him interested. There's very little foreplay and it's gotten boring. A whole new meaning to "wham bam thank you maam". He's always telling me that he loves me and how attracted he is to me, so I'm not sure how toget that spark back, or even why it's gone.

lol i want to feel amazing sex like i hear other women talking about i just dont know how to get there...

To be perfectly honest, sex isn't all that amazing. It can be great, but it's not like you see in movies or anything. Just have fun with it!!

In fact, there's this game called Hot Date that helped spark my love life, it's really fun and by the end of the game you're dying to have sex together.

did you say you and him had only had sex about ten times? well no wonder! for me personally, sex gets better every time. the closer you are to somebody the easier it is to be open and to 'let go'.

i really dont think it's fair of him to put all the responsibility on *you* to be the passionate one and to put the spark into your relationship. if he wants sex between you to be passionate then why is he waiting for you to show passion rather than instigating it himself! and blaming his erection difficulties on you is just wrong.

That's a good point. The first few times I had sex I was like "Really? That's it?"

It gets better. Don't be afraid to play, have fun, experiment.

lol he has never said that his keeping it up difficulties was my fault but he sortta let it slip that he told his mom that he thinks the reason he has a hard time staying hard during sex is because i am not very passionate. it makes me nervous because i am very open too anything during sex. i am not afraid to play, have fun, or experiment. he thinks that he doesnt turn me on because he insists on orgasm DURING sex but i dont thin he understands that that will take some work. i dunno i am just confused right now.

we have only had sex in a bed once that was my first time and we were completly drunk... we really dont worry bout getting caught when we are having sex but its not exactly comfortable either. usually in my living room or in his moms office (in the woods once) could this maybe be it? i dont want to blame this because if its not this and we do have sex in a bedroom i will disapointed if it doesnt help...

heh... well there's some people who really get off on that "oh no! what if we get caught??" thing. i for one do not! i do consider myself to be open minded, but when it comes to sex i want a bed, a closed door and preferably an empty house! the fear of getting caught could be what is affecting his ability to keep an erection.

i think you just need to talk to him about things. tell him what you have told us.

i really dont think it is fair or right that he is comparing you to his ex like this! he needs to understand that you are a different person to his ex, and everybody is different. sallie, you behave whatever way feels NATURAL during sex, and don't feel pressured into acting for him, or competing to be like his ex. just be yourself!!

to be honest it sounds like you are pretty passionate anyway! i'm not sure what he wants off you. you say you are not shy and you are open to try anything... i mean you've only had sex ten times and one of those was in the woods and one was in his mom's office?? i've never done that! lol

it sounds like he has watched so much porn and thinks that all women during sex scream "oh yes! oh god, you're doing it me! your big throbbing penis is my tight vagina!!!! oh god yes!!!!" not everybody is like this!!! talk to him and find out exactly what he wants and then you can decide if he's being unreasonable or not, and hey, maybe you can throw in a couple of things *you* would like too! if he's being demanding, you can be demanding too lol.

it kinda sounds like he wants you to orgasm just so that he can boost his ego?? if you are finding it difficult to get really into sex it might be good is more attention was payed to foreplay and stuff. I'm thinking along the lines of a massage for you, followed by a nice healthy dose of cunnilingus you need to be relaxed and worry free to be able to get really into sex. if you are worrying about competing with his ex then it's never gonna happen! i'm guessing you guys dont have much opportunities to be alone together or something? do you both live with parents or something?

lol see thats the thing he isnt really demanding at all we have barely talked about this and we agreed then that it was probably my personality... and he really isnt the type to want a ego boost. i think it just hurts his feelings and frustrates him when i dont orgasm during sex...
an as for cunnilingus lol thats often what we resort to thats the only time i orgasm pretty much. i think maybe we need to try having sex somewhere where we wont be disturbed like in a bedroom, in a bed, behind closed doors, when nobody is home lol


i am really not being pressured to put on an act for him i just though that maybe since it isnt great for me yet maybe i would ask for some tips... ya know maybe try something new to spice it up for us both.... but i dont know what to do really

It could be that he is feeling bad that you aren't having orgasms. My guy always gets a huge boost when he's done his job well lol. Just try to reassure him that it isn't him, the two of you just need to practice more

ok, well maybe try goin out gettin some kinky underwear, like corset, suspenders and stuff! they tend to go down quite well with the guys in my experience! when you're having sex try sayin stuff like "awwh that feels amazing" or tell him how hard he is. take him by surprise maybe...? like just come into the room and pounce on him and order him to f'*k you. just some ideas... lol