Both Sisters Having Ed, How Do I Help Without Being Trapped? Posted: 10-25-07 13:39pm
My younger sister has had a lot of issues
over the years - manipulative friends, bad
boyfriends and it seems she just gave in
to those people. She became bulimic and
takes anti-depressants and also sleeping
pills.
I thought she had stopped being bulimic
until her problems got worse and cut those
manipulative people out of her life.
My oldest sister and a year ago broke up
with her boyfriendof 8 years. She was the
larger of the 3 of us but not too
overweight. Now she is just as tiny as my
other sister and I'm afraid she has fallen
into the same trap as the younger one.
It's hard for me because I know this is
going on, and every time the younger
sister talks about how fat she is and how
much food she is eating and look at how
much more food I am eating than you.. it
makes ME feel horrible. My oldest sister
told me this even one time and now I think
that it has taken its toll on her.
I too 4 yrs ago had trouble with this
because of my younger sister. I thought I
was fat (cause I was way bigger than her)
so I started writing down everything I
ate, how much, and if it was too much I
would throw it up.
I am a healthy girl who exercises
constantly because of sports teams, and
have realized that way of counting food
was ridiculous, so I eat whatever I want
now... because really before... I wasn't
fat... I was just made to think I was.
The thing is, every time my younger sister
says "I'm fat, look how much food I'm
eating and you're not etc etc" I get
extremely ANGRY with her and yell at her
which probably doesn't make her feel
better. But it gets annoying especially
when I have told her I'm there for her and
know about her problems but it doesn't
help..
Can anyone help me??? I know this is hard
on my 2 sisters.. but it's killing me
too....
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glynnis
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Oct 2007 Posts: 33 Location: , london
Posted: 10-26-07 04:36am
it sounds like hell, how old r ur sisters?
try and take some time out, do activities
that u all enjoy and conect on u shud prob
get ur sisters to see a doctor or tlk to
someone outside of the three of u as this
is putting an enormous strange on each of
u.
the most important thing is to stay strong
and make sure u dnt get sucked in
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Sunshine333
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Oct 2007 Posts: 35
Posted: 10-26-07 09:39am
We are all between 21 and 26...
Ya the thing is we started working out
together as an activity - bad idea!!
Everyone just complains on "How many more
reps did you do"... it's not good!
It sucks too because we are all good
friends and this just tears us apart!
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glynnis
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Oct 2007 Posts: 33 Location: , london
Posted: 10-26-07 13:32pm
thats a shame sometimes activities like
that cn really bring u together. not
surprised it's tearing u apart, are there
no other activities u cn conect on or do
together?
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Sunshine333
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Oct 2007 Posts: 35
Posted: 10-26-07 15:59pm
Ya, I'll try doing other activities with
them... something that won't make them
think of their bodies or food.... hmmm
that'll be a hard one.
Thanks for the advice tho!
