Little Red Dress... Boyfriend Gets Angry Posted: 10-28-07 20:43pm
My parents wedding is coming up and I
asked my boyfriend "what colors do you
think I should wear for the wedding?"
He said red. Then it hit me. At his moms
house there is a pic of him and his
babymomma at a ball. He.s wearing black
tux and she's wearing a red dress lol when
I had first seen the pic I got emotional,
but the worst thing was that his lil
sister compared me to her and that hurt.
It wasn't the lil girls fault so I didn't
get mad.
Now I laugh about it cause I glance at it
and I say to myself "atleast I look better
than her." lol harmless jealous girlfriend
feelings lol when he said red I told him
how about red and black cause I wouldn't
want to wear something similar to what she
was wearing. He flew off the hook... He
got mad, called me childish and dumb for
thinking that way. What hurt was instead
of saying something like don't worry baby
forget her
you.ll look great he goes and lashes out
at me. Do you guys think I did wrong by
telling him that I didn't want to wear
what she was wearing? I know he.s a guy
and wouldn't try to understand how I felt.
Cause he.s stubborn anyways. I need a
guys point of view too please !!
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lonestarguy
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Posted: 10-28-07 20:54pm
Lady....I'm a guy and I don't think I
would have cared what color dress you
chose. If you asked him, he might not have
even thought about the connection of red
with his ex. He probably wouldn't have
said anything if you'd not mentioned the
connection.
That being said, he was a little snippy
about it, especially if he knew how you
felt about the color and why. I don't
think you were childish or dumb just
because you didn't want to wear red like
her. The worst thing though was his
refusing to understand how you felt.
You sure you can handle a guy who treats
you with a lack of understanding about
your feelings?
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Maddie34
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Posted: 10-28-07 21:04pm
Has the topic of your ex came up before? I
know both myself and my bf get annoyed
when talk about ex's now mostly because
we've been up and down that conversation
more than enough. Yet at the same time we
both can't help teasing eachother once in
awhile. Why we do it I haven't a clue.
If you've been over the topic of "the ex"
before then he might just be annoyed
because he thought you were over it.
I agree with lonestarguy though, he
probably wasn't even thinking of his ex.
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ladyT02
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Posted: 10-29-07 12:46pm
Well he lied to me for 4mNths after we got
together that he had a kid wit his ex (the
one I'm talking about) I had asked him on
the first date and he said no. 4mnths
later presto!lol he was scared I.d look at
him differently after that. Its the first
time that's happened to me so it hurt a
lot. I.ve gotten over it and I don't care
anymore cause that's his kid not mine.
Maybe I did over react but I just didn't
wanna wear red and it reminded him of her.
And the ex has gotten in our way. Jus a
month ago she was sending txt and pictures
etc like 2am 3am in the morning lol and It
caused some tension between him and I. And
it was causing him stress cause she was
annoying him constantly. Suddenly it
stopped so I guess he told her to cut back
a bit.
But over all its been great and last night
he didn't say anything..he just extended
his arms and held me. I know he doesn't
say he.s sorry verbally but he shows it so
everything is ok. It doesn't matter what I
wear cause he won't be able to make it
anyways. He threw that in my face when he
got mad that hurt too. But its alrite now.
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