My Best Friend Had a Miscarriage... Purposely... I Think Posted: 10-29-07 17:52pm
Ok, here's the scoop. About four months
ago my bestest friend Ashley got pregnant.
I got really, really mad at her and told
the school councilor about what happened,
but truthfully, I did it out of love not
because I was mad at her. Meanwhile,
Ashley broke the news to her parents. They
were ok with it, but her Grandmother took
her out of her will blah blah blah words
and words and stuff.
She had the option to have an abortion but
she didn't take it. She didn't tell me why
but it was written on her face. She wanted
her boyfriends baby! He's 13 and she's
14!!!!! Time passes and stuff, about two
weeks.
The real problem is this though, she lives
in this really, really old house with this
big, lovely carved staircase in the foyer.
I slept over that night at her hosue when
I heard her crying. I woke up and
discovered she wasn't there so I ran
around the house looking for her and where
do I find her? At the bottom of the stairs
sitting in a pool of her own blood, she
was a little over five months, I think but
I'm not sure. I asked her what happened
and she said she tripped down teh stairs
while coming down for some coffee, but I
know for a fact that she hates coffee, at
first I thought it was one of those weird
cravings you get, but then I realized that
maybe she threw herself down the stairs...
a miscarriage.
I really, really don't know what to tell
her. She looks up to me like a little
sister, (Although we're only about a month
apart,) and I want to help her, but I
don't know what to say.
What should she do? Where can she go for
help? Should I be mad at her? Does she
need any surgery? Ash isn't hurting or
anything, but her period stopped, and she
occasionally feels serging pains creeping
up and down her back like a, 'clothsline'
she says.
Any advise would be appreciated but
please, let me know if there's anything I
can do! I know there might not be much,
but still if I can hold up some emotional
support, what should I say?
Thanks for reading!!!
Love, kittykute
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Tylanas
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Posted: 10-29-07 19:49pm
I would have taken her to a hospital
immediately!! This is serious, especially
since she was five months along. I can't
believe you didn't call 911
As for blaming her and all that, don't.
Whether she fell on purpose or not is none
of your business. She is in pain now and
needs to be looked at immediately by a
doctor to make sure all of the pregnancy
is gone.
Hasn't she told her parents and bf!? This
is an extremely serious situation that you
cannot hide from them. Why do you think
she threw herself down the stairs if she
wanted this child?
Your friend could be in serious danger.
Tell an adult NOW what happened. Just the
truth: she feel down the stairs. That's
all you know.
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kaiteo
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Posted: 10-29-07 21:12pm
She needs to see a doctor. Seriously. If
your story is accurate, that is.
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kittykute
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Posted: 10-29-07 21:14pm
she is in the hospital now of course!!
(Why i didn't say that is a bloody
mystery!) She's ok and her boyfriend knows
and he bailed
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Tylanas
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Posted: 10-29-07 21:24pm
He's bailed? Like he dumped her? Why? I'm
very glad she's in the hospital.
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Verizon-y
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Posted: 10-30-07 20:48pm
Why are you asking US if YOU should be mad
at her? You either are or are not mad at
her.
This is not a situation in which "telling
on someone" is appropriate.
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kittykute
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Posted: 11-01-07 23:43pm
look, i'm not 'telling' on anyone. my best
friencd had a misscarriage and i don't
know how to react! is that a crime? I
don't know how to feel or what to do and i
have nobody to tell because nobody would
listen! give me a break, would you?
And he bailed because he simply didn't
want a child. personally, i think he was
onto in the relationship for the sex but I
could be wrong.
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Verizon-y
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Posted: 11-02-07 07:02am
kittykute
wrote:
look, i'm not 'telling' on
anyone. my best friencd had a misscarriage
and i don't know how to react! is that a
crime? I don't know how to feel or what to
do and i have nobody to tell because
nobody would listen! give me a break,
would you?
Who says you have to react at all?
kittykute
wrote:
And he bailed because he simply didn't
want a child. personally, i think he was
onto in the relationship for the sex but I
could be
wrong.
I would have to say you are right, if I
had to guess.
