Bulimia Mixed With Insomnia! Posted: 10-30-07 07:07am
Hey I have joined many forums but just for
chit chats and nothing serious like
Well I guess I shall start today and now
I am 19 years of age and well gosh quiet
hard to say I am bulimic since age 13
But it really started when I was in year 9
and I am nearly 20 years of age am happy
married I got a supportive husband but
really he supports me with my insomnia but
I haven’t told him about my eating
habits, he has sensed that I got eating
issues as I don’t eat whenever we eat
together,
Its all started with my parents/family
problems. I have grown up with drug
addicts and alcoholic brothers which
turned out lives upside down, this include
constant arguing, violent encounters which
I got hurt in process stopping it. I even
look after a child full responsibility of
a child who got special needs whose the
son of my older brother and due to
circumstances he doesn’t have his mother
with him
I would of said so would other that I was
a strong person, I cooked cleaned stopped
fights, arguments (well tried and got
hurt) but I looked after this child whose
nearly 7 for 5 years as if he was my own.
But age 14 whilst fasting in the holy
month I just started to throw up. Quiet
ironic but yeah, so I woke up when sunrise
early morning at 5 am drank water. . .
Sunset fast opened at 5/6pm I ate. . .
Later I throw up
I was well am quiet slim and well this
habit lasted until now where I tried to
stop it but I cant I cry in the bathroom I
cry when my insomnia starts eating me up
I got a very very very supported sister I
told her this but I with her strong words
Im lying to her saying I stopped puking
out.
My husband was my choice very nice and
decent lad. Very respective and lovely I
thought getting married now would help me
move away from my depressing family but
really mentally am there and I cant.
Last year was a hard year I used to have
blackouts, I became animic but that
didn’t sop me now
I tried every consultation to help my
disorder along with my insomnia but I
cant, but I want to hear such things from
people that may have similar stories
Sorry if I got off topic but like I say
its nice to get feedback from people that
knows bits and bobs from you and really
you don’t know them as the people u
trust may hit it back when a relationship
is on the verge of breaking!
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niki123
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Joined: 26 Oct 2007 Posts: 5
Posted: 11-01-07 04:56am
hi
I have been reading everyones posts for
nearly a week now but havn't actually
posted anything myself, but your story
sounded very similar to mine so i'll tell
you mine.
I have some of the same family issues with
drug and alcohol addiction. I have a
couple addictions myself. I have very
close friends with pschycophrenia, one of
which has recently gone to a psych ward.
Which was really hard for me becuase she
was like a sister to me and we pretty much
lived together.
My mum, brothers and sister have moved
every 2 years of my life which is hard
becuase it's like starting over again
every time. My mum has re-married 5 years
ago, he used to be very abbusive,
esppecially to my brother. He hated mostly
my brothers which pulled our family
appart. Both my brothers have been forced
to move out.
I'm not sure if all this has anything to
do with my Bulimia/ Anorexia. But i have
had an ed for 3 years now. At the start i
would starve myself and then if i tryed
eating anything it would just come up
itself....thing esculated from
there....now my ed controls my life. I
also abuse alcohol and drugs, even though
i can see how bad it breaks families
appart...but i can't change things....i
don't know how
I also have insomnia...most nites i only
have 2 hours sleep ...no matter how tyred
i am i can't get to sleep....
That's my story!!!!!!!!!
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v00d00cita
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Re: Bulimia Mixed With Insomnia! Posted: 11-01-07 11:58am
Hi. Firstly, I want to welcome you to this
forum and to say that you are very strong
- sharing your problems is a very big deal
and a huge step.
I hope you get the help and the support
you need here - or, at least, part of it.
You must be aware of your roots and
influences, because you know what's your
weak point and those bad things will seem
to always hit you in that right spot.
Your eating habits influence your sleep,
specially bearing in mind that you have or
had an eating disorder. Do you have a
stressful life? Taking some time out
sometimes helps me.
-
Now I have some sleeping problems again,
because I'm always too stressed and tired.
And yes, I think about my eating a lot
again - I've been bulimic. But those
things acn't rule my life - nor yours.
Some foods are better to help you sleep:
milk, chicken, soup, cereals, etc.
And maybe you could talk to your husbund.
I don't mean that you need to tell him all
your problems and all your background, but
you could tell him that you don't feel so
good and so on.
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niki123
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Joined: 26 Oct 2007 Posts: 5
Posted: 11-01-07 15:54pm
yeah, i do have a very stressful life.
Some days are worse than others, it's
really noticable with eating habbits
getting worse on those worse days. Don't
you think?
What have you told your husband about your
experiences in life and your ed?
Is there any other ways of helping
insomnia?....is it true exercise before
bed helps?
thanks for your reply!!
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v00d00cita
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Posted: 11-01-07 18:59pm
Yes, I agree with you
I'm not married, I don't even have a
boyfriend now I've told some true
friends and people here. That helped a
lot!
About exercise, it helps - specially
before dinner, because it's not to close
to bedtime , and in the morning.
But reading helps too. You gotta find
things that help you, that make you feel
good. A good bath, a massage, etc
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niki123
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Joined: 26 Oct 2007 Posts: 5
Posted: 11-02-07 00:26am
sorry above you said "My husband was my
choice very nice and decent lad."...?????
so thats why i thought you were married...
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v00d00cita
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Posted: 11-02-07 07:50am
No, that was xanonx, not me...
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xanonx
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Joined: 30 Oct 2007 Posts: 8
Posted: 11-02-07 10:38am
niki123
wrote:
hi
I have been reading everyones posts for
nearly a week now but havn't actually
posted anything myself, but your story
sounded very similar to mine so i'll tell
you mine.
I have some of the same family issues with
drug and alcohol addiction. I have a
couple addictions myself. I have very
close friends with pschycophrenia, one of
which has recently gone to a psych ward.
Which was really hard for me becuase she
was like a sister to me and we pretty much
lived together.
My mum, brothers and sister have moved
every 2 years of my life which is hard
becuase it's like starting over again
every time. My mum has re-married 5 years
ago, he used to be very abbusive,
esppecially to my brother. He hated mostly
my brothers which pulled our family
appart. Both my brothers have been forced
to move out.
I'm not sure if all this has anything to
do with my Bulimia/ Anorexia. But i have
had an ed for 3 years now. At the start i
would starve myself and then if i tryed
eating anything it would just come up
itself....thing esculated from
there....now my ed controls my life. I
also abuse alcohol and drugs, even though
i can see how bad it breaks families
appart...but i can't change things....i
don't know how
I also have insomnia...most nites i only
have 2 hours sleep ...no matter how tyred
i am i can't get to sleep....
That's my
story!!!!!!!!!
aww im so sorry to hear that and do
relate!
like i say its nice to have some1 that has
a familiar problems and u knw listen to
one another shoulder to cry on!
but my story is just soo tiring im 19 and
im blooody tired!
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xanonx
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Joined: 30 Oct 2007 Posts: 8
Re: Bulimia Mixed With Insomnia! Posted: 11-02-07 10:40am
v00d00cita
wrote:
Hi. Firstly, I want to
welcome you to this forum and to say that
you are very strong - sharing your
problems is a very big deal and a huge
step.
I hope you get the help and the support
you need here - or, at least, part of it.
You must be aware of your roots and
influences, because you know what's your
weak point and those bad things will seem
to always hit you in that right spot.
Your eating habits influence your sleep,
specially bearing in mind that you have or
had an eating disorder. Do you have a
stressful life? Taking some time out
sometimes helps me.
-
Now I have some sleeping problems again,
because I'm always too stressed and tired.
And yes, I think about my eating a lot
again - I've been bulimic. But those
things acn't rule my life - nor yours.
Some foods are better to help you sleep:
milk, chicken, soup, cereals, etc.
And maybe you could talk to your husbund.
I don't mean that you need to tell him all
your problems and all your background, but
you could tell him that you don't feel so
good and so on.
yeah sleeping does relate to my eating
problem but its was from start before my
ed
i tried techniques that wud help me but no
luck!
and my husband i know im quiet evil i tend
to NOT say my ed problems to him i just
cant luk into his eyes and say "im blooody
bulimic have been for the last few years"
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xanonx
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Joined: 30 Oct 2007 Posts: 8
Posted: 11-02-07 10:43am
niki123
wrote:
sorry above you said "My
husband was my choice very nice and decent
lad."...?????
so thats why i thought you were
married...
ha yeah im married of my own choice!
his a decent guy its just me i cant bare
to tell him i havnt totaly opened to him
yet he knws about my family problems and
of cource my sleepin but not my eatin but
he notices i missed meals and think of my
body alot!
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jacomurillo
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Joined: 04 Nov 2007 Posts: 1
My Wife Is Bulimic, Any Suggestions? Posted: 11-04-07 11:39am
Hi,
My wife and I have known each other for 6
years and got married about 3 years ago.
During this time she has allways been
bulimic, and it has allways affected our
relationship. Lately, it causes us to
fight about once a week. Her feeling is
that I don't care and don't want to help
her through this. I feel that I really do
care and try desperately to help, but it
is really hard since I have a stresfull
job and can't allways figure things out or
catch them in time. Sometimes we will be
able to deal with the situation for 10
days, but then she will fall back into
binging but I will not realize it until we
fight again, point where she will tell me
that it is all my fault, and that I am a
lousy husband for not being able to detect
her changes. Im very confused and
deteriorated, I feel that I am a very good
person, and that most women would be happy
to have somebody like me with them... Why
is this not enough for my wife? Why does
she continuously blame me for bulimia, and
expects that I can completely pull her
through this disorder?
Help!
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v00d00cita
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Re: Bulimia Mixed With Insomnia! Posted: 11-08-07 05:00am
xanonx
wrote:
yeah sleeping does relate to
my eating problem but its was from start
before my ed
i tried techniques that wud help me but no
luck!
and my husband i know im quiet evil i tend
to NOT say my ed problems to him i just
cant luk into his eyes and say "im blooody
bulimic have been for the last few
years"
hmm, I understand that, I felt the same.
TRy
pilates or yoga. Ever tried?
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xanonx
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Joined: 30 Oct 2007 Posts: 8
Re: Bulimia Mixed With Insomnia! Posted: 11-17-07 10:26am
v00d00cita
wrote:
xanonx
wrote:
yeah sleeping does relate to
my eating problem but its was from start
before my ed
i tried techniques that wud help me but no
luck!
and my husband i know im quiet evil i tend
to NOT say my ed problems to him i just
cant luk into his eyes and say "im blooody
bulimic have been for the last few
years"
hmm, I understand that, I felt the same.
TRy
pilates or yoga. Ever tried?
yeah my lil bro a gym intructer and quiet
a body freak i used his yogo kit but
nope¬
now i work at schools i wake up early and
and even now dont go to sleep i be
knackered working with children
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gerlschaf
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Joined: 02 Dec 2007 Posts: 17
Posted: 12-09-07 01:07am
I'm not sure anyone but a therapist needs
to know about your bulimia right now.
It's enough that your husband knows about
your difficult life, because that's likely
what lead up to your ed. If he can
support you and help you have a new life,
you can work with someone else on your ed
right now. No wonder you're tired, you've
lived a 90 year life in 19 years. Hang in
there. Glad you're here.
TRy
pilates or yoga. Ever tried? 