Me And My Boyfriend Have to Different Views On Things.... Posted: 10-31-07 12:08pm
ok .i feel really pressured by my
boyfriend to have sex with out a condom or
some kind of protection.he wants me to get
pregnant from him he tells me this
everyday.im only 16 im not ready for a
baby.i wanna finish school and go to
college to be a crime scene
investigator.right now im sorta feeling
bad cause im leading him on to think that
we are going to have a baby right after i
finish high school.but i am scared that he
will leave him if i tell him that he has
to wait much longer than that.i love him
too much please help...!!
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Ingi
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Posted: 10-31-07 12:11pm
Don't have unprotected sex. No matter how
much you love him, a baby will be with you
the rest of your life. It will come in the
way of college, high school, and
everything else.
If he would leave you over wearing a
rubber - a THIN peice of LATEX! - that
seems a health forum, doesn't it? What
does he want for his future?
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very-confused
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Posted: 10-31-07 13:00pm
he doesnt really talk about his future.all
he talks about is our future me,him,and
the baby.and now where in that does he
tell me what he wants to do for a
living.he trys to convince me that if he
wears a condom that will take out all the
feeling but i know WAY better than
that....
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Ingi
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Posted: 10-31-07 13:35pm
It is your future too. Let him be
responsible for his own future before you
add a little baby in there. Babies are full
time, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. No
sleeping in. No staying out late. No free
fun college days where you get to live in
a dorm. More like pacing the floor of your
apartment with a crabby teething baby who
has an ear infection. And, true, those
times aren't all the time. But they are
often enough not to want to jump into it
too soon.
Have you considered getting on Birth
Control pills? Visit planned parenthood,
you may be able to get them for FREE. You
be in control of your own fertility! You
decide when you want to have kids.
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Becky
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Posted: 10-31-07 14:16pm
Ingi is completely correct what she says.
I understand that at the moment you don't
want him to leave you so I would highly
recommend going on the pill. Take it every
morning before you see him and he'll be
none the wiser. It's not to decieve him as
such it's just I'm worried he may decieve
you by putting a hole in the condom or
something.
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LadyKitten
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Posted: 10-31-07 14:24pm
I wouldn't lie to him though. I agree
with both Ingi and beckster, go on some
sort of birth control. But don't lie to
him about it. That could only make it
worse if he did find out. How old is your
bf? If he's only 16 too, he can't
honestly be ready for a baby as well?
Babies cost a lot of money and you have to
be able to afford a roof over his/her
head, plus food and all the necessities.
Unless he's some sort of millionaire at a
young age, I can't see him being ready.
Yeah babies are cute and all, but like
Ingi said, they are a LOT of work. Would
you rather be an at-home mom, not making
any money or persuing your ideal career,
just to make one guy happy? I wouldn't.
Really think this through. Talk with your
man, and don't lie. Just be prepared for
what he might say...expect the worst.
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Ingi
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Posted: 10-31-07 15:01pm
No one ever said she should lie. In
fact, I said she should be the one in
control of her own fertility. And Beckster
said it isn't to deceive him. She she be a
strong, proud woman who has her destiny at
her own feet. Not the feet of a man.
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very-confused
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Joined: 31 Oct 2007 Posts: 38 Location: ,
Posted: 11-02-07 09:27am
my boyfriend is 18 years old todayis his
birthday.and i dont wanna go behind his
back so i think that i`ll just talk to him
about the pill.and i know that he will not
like it but he will grow to like it.if he
loves me like he says then he will
understand that i wanna persue my dream
career.like kitten said ill just hold
tight and expect the worst.i hope he
understand.......ill get back too you guys
and let you know how it went..
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browngirl
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Joined: 06 Oct 2007 Posts: 188 Location: Oklahoma City, Ok USA
Posted: 11-02-07 09:48am
Just put it to him that you want to get on
the pill to protect yourself. If it is
meant for you to be pregnant then it is
still possible to get pregnant even on
birth control. We all know it isnt on 100%
effective. Good luck. I hope he is
understanding.
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browngirl
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Joined: 06 Oct 2007 Posts: 188 Location: Oklahoma City, Ok USA
Posted: 11-02-07 10:05am
Just put it to him that you want to get on
the pill to protect yourself. If it is
meant for you to be pregnant then it is
still possible to get pregnant even on
birth control. We all know it isnt on 100%
effective. Good luck. I hope he is
understanding.
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Real Deal
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Manipulated Posted: 11-04-07 16:09pm
Do you have parents? Would you dare to
ask them for advice on this important
matter?
Probably, you would say you don't want to
talk to a parent now. So let's say you
look at it as if YOU'RE the parent...of a
16 year old girl in this situation you're
in.
What would you want your daughter to do?
Get pregnant at 16, and ditch a promising
future (that would include a proper family
life) for a baby NOW? What is the
hurry??
You are being manipulated by your bf, who
is looking out for his own bizarre
interests...not yours. You might love
him, but he only loves himself. The
remedy? Dump him...just that simple. Say
goodbye and don't look back.
You will have plenty of other gentlemen
taking an interest in you...and I suggest
you stick to your education for now, and
find a fine gentleman in a few years who
can support you and the family you'll
likely have.
Meanwhile, the guy you're with now is a
disaster waiting to happen...for you...and
he'll just walk out on you if things get
tough.
So cut that emotional rope that's tying
you to him... You can do it. He'll ruin
your future...a future which is still in
your hands, until you get pregnant by
him.
Meanwhile, if you do this thing...you're
asking to be a grandmother at 35...cause
your kid will justify HER behaviour 16
years from now, by your own behavior now.
Take charge, kid. You are barely old
enough to grasp the concept...but
sometimes teenagers can show amazing
mettle by doing just that... Getting in
the driver's seat and steering away from
trouble.
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Babies are full
time, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. No
sleeping in. No staying out late. No free
fun college days where you get to live in
a dorm. More like pacing the floor of your
apartment with a crabby teething baby who
has an ear infection. And, true, those
times aren't all the time. But they are
often enough not to want to jump into it
too soon.
