I have a headache. A migraine one at that.
I need to clean but its hard to do when
Im thinking to much. My sister is addicted
to pills. My BIL left her but then went
back after 2 nights. She promised she will
get help and quit. She has made no effort.
we tried to get her an appt with a mental
health facility to refer her to a
phsyciatrist. Im a little ashamed of her.
She has a daughter who I think is either
13 or 14, lol cant keep up. Shes been
having sex since 12. Let her date guys
that ar 24!! Her "momma" got her bc pills
saying its to regulate her. Yeah right.
She buys cigarattes for her. Lets them cus
her out and doing anything in the world.
She has 2 other children, a boy thats 11
and another girl that just turned 4. All
three are by different men. Her boy hates
her for what she is doing. Begged her to
get help. He hates his dad for he is
addicted to crystal. He asked his step-dad
to adopt him. He said ok if it was alright
with his father. He called and asked and
the answer was "yes". My BIL just called.
upset. because she still lying. she lied
about paying the bills. took the money and
bought pills. they are behind on rent 4
months!! he just found all this out. He
drives an 18 wheeler so he on the road
alot. He actually just switched jobs where
he can drive but come home at night. Her
son plays football. 2 saturdays ago he got
hurt while playing. bruised his whole back
and sat out fot the rest of the game. This
past saturday he got tackled and hurt his
bac. His mom gave him a half of her pill.
then told him to the get the medical
answer back out there. and said "and you
wonder why your daddy dont come to watch
you play, because your a medical answer
pu$$" That upset me terribly! No child
needs to hear that. This is really been
bugging me. When I was pregnant with
Amelia, My sis says she cant wait to have
a niece. And she was going to spoil her
and blah blah blah. She has only came to
my apt 2 times since Amelia was born.
Seen her a total of 5 times. i miss my old
sister. she used to be so nice and use to
punish her children for the bad things
they do. now she just cheers them on. Im
rambling. I need to vent some about this.
I guess this is another reason Im so
stressed. i thank i typed everything. i
dont know im just tired
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number game
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Jun 2007 Posts: 1212 Location: Charlotte, NC,
Posted: 11-02-07 21:35pm
oh I'm sorry to hear this. I know it's
hard my mom and her yonger sister are
going through something similar. Does SHE
want to get help?
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Sandbox Party
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Jul 2006 Posts: 7276
Posted: 11-02-07 21:37pm
thats sucks, Amber...
why are there so many crappy moms out
there!?
i just wanna adopt all those poor kids..
give them a life they deserve.
people need to stop bailing her out and
giving in to her.. if they did she'd
learn.
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Amber*Marie
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Feb 2007 Posts: 1430
Posted: 11-02-07 21:42pm
~~rachel~~
wrote:
oh I'm sorry to hear this. I
know it's hard my mom and her yonger
sister are going through something
similar. Does SHE want to get
help?
she said she wanted to but then after my
mom and dad started feeling sorry for her,
i guess she thought she didnt have to. I
dont know.
See my parents are their landlord. My mom
never told my BIL about the rent because
she didnt want them to get into it because
she made them go in debt last year and was
put in jail for a bad check. He told her
if she ever did that again he will be
leaving. She got hooked on pills right
before Amelia was born so since then my
mom has been having to beg her for rent so
my mom dont get in trouble because they
are still paying for the place under their
name. Last month my mom called to and told
her she needs to be paying it before they
sue her for whats owned on it. She told my
mom to nevver call back and she will never
see the kids again. Then she came crying
when BIL left her. Now they are talking
and my mom is falling for everything she
says
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number game
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Jun 2007 Posts: 1212 Location: Charlotte, NC,
Posted: 11-02-07 21:47pm
Well by your parents being their landlord
it is enabling her behaviors. Maybe they
should turn the renting responsibility
over to a realator and then they would be
REQUIRED to be more responsible. Talk to
your mom about the situation. If you allow
behaviors intentionally or not the
behaviors never stop until then enabling
stops, whatever it may be!
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Amber*Marie
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Feb 2007 Posts: 1430
Posted: 11-02-07 21:59pm
~~rachel~~
wrote:
Well by your parents being
their landlord it is enabling her
behaviors. Maybe they should turn the
renting responsibility over to a realator
and then they would be REQUIRED to be more
responsible. Talk to your mom about the
situation. If you allow behaviors
intentionally or not the behaviors never
stop until then enabling stops, whatever
it may be!
they tried. My mother even told hem they
will give them the land if they will just
get it swapped to their name. she keeps
saying she will but its already been over
2 years and she wont do it. I told my mom
to kick em out because they have somewhere
to go. My mom said she cant do that. That
place was BEAUTIFUL before they moved in.
I lived there up until I was 16. That
place was pratically brand new wehn my
parents decided to move closer to work.
Now they have horses pratically on their
back porch! Wouldnt use the other part of
the land. Just the back yard. My sister
totally trashed that house. Carpet is
nasty never cleans it. Kids dont clean
their room or bathroom. She wont clean up
the dog piss out of their carpet. she used
to be a neat freak! Shes sooo beautiful
and them pills are making her face look
different. dragging like. i wish life had
no bad turns
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number game
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Jun 2007 Posts: 1212 Location: Charlotte, NC,
Posted: 11-02-07 22:07pm
I know life can be hard. And when someone
is addicted to something it CONTROLS their
life. Many people suffer addiction of
different things for years even after they
are sober. They usually still have wants
and desire even years after getting clean.
It's a tough long battle. I hope she soon
can take hold of her life again. I'm SURE
she wants too as well. It's probably just
hard, and it'll probably happen one day.
I'll definatley keep her in my thoughts
and prayers.
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Amber*Marie
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Feb 2007 Posts: 1430
Posted: 11-02-07 22:27pm
~~rachel~~
wrote:
I know life can be hard. And
when someone is addicted to something it
CONTROLS their life. Many people suffer
addiction of different things for years
even after they are sober. They usually
still have wants and desire even years
after getting clean. It's a tough long
battle. I hope she soon can take hold of
her life again. I'm SURE she wants too as
well. It's probably just hard, and it'll
probably happen one day. I'll definatley
keep her in my thoughts and
prayers.
thank you!! I hope she can do this! Its
wrecking our family
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number game
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Jun 2007 Posts: 1212 Location: Charlotte, NC,
Posted: 11-02-07 22:41pm
Just keep trying to encourage her! It'll
happen in time!
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Amber*Marie
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Feb 2007 Posts: 1430
Posted: 11-02-07 22:48pm
~~rachel~~
wrote:
Just keep trying to
encourage her! It'll happen in
time!
I hope! We are trying she just tells us to
butt out
