hello, i am 18 years old and a virgin,
however, this is not the issue i am
concerned about. Recently i got a
girlfriend and i truly think she is very
attractive and sexy. The first problem i
want to adress is the fact that any time i
begin to snuggle with her or even get just
a little kiss, my hormones jump and i
begin to get an incredible erection. Now
if things were to stop there i would be
fine, but a couple weeks ago we were
making out and we began to dry hump a
little (i had a boner just from making
out). Once we started seriously dry
humping it took me about 10 seconds to
realize i was gonna come. At this point
there was nothing i could do about it and
so i came in my pants and played it off as
tho nothing happened.
- just to get things straight, this was
not my first time making out and dry
humping. In fact, in the past i hooked up
with a girl and felt no activity going on
in my pants at all and we were going at it
pretty intense. Granted i did not have any
plans of a relationship in mind; it was
kind of just a random hook up.
My question now is whether or not this
is/or should be a common experience... my
biggest fear is that these are signs of
premature ejaculation and i desperetly
don't want this to mean the end of me and
my girlfriends relationship. Recently we
were hooking up and i began to feel like i
was going to come again and this time, now
being aware of wat might happen, i had to
back off a little bit.
so, here we go... What's going on with me
getting so horny, just from a simple
kiss?
Does my situation sound like it would fit
the description of some one who suffers
from premature ejactulation?
I jack off about once every other day.
Could this habit play a role in what i am
experiencing?
When foreplay last for more than a half
hour (which it usually does for us), is it
normal that a simple dry hump or rub to
the crotch could set me off?
please post back, i am extremely curious
as to what people have to say about this.
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Georgia59
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Posted: 11-04-07 17:48pm
Hey stop worrying!! You're fine. It's
perfectly normal to get a boner just from
making out, especially at your age and
level of sexual experience. And guess
what- the first time (or few times) you
have sex it will probably not last long.
That's normal. It's just so exciting at
first that it happens. The good thing is,
you are really attracted to and excited
about your girlfriend. Lucky you! None of
this means you are going to have problems
down the road. As people have sex more
often, they get better at it (men and
women) and the amount of time you last
will increase. And as long as you are
giving the girl lots of foreplay and
oral/manual stimulation, she won't really
care how long you last.
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mystery user
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Posted: 11-05-07 22:21pm
thanks a lot georgia59... that sort of
puts my mind at ease. I just hope i don't
end up looking like a fool when she
finally gives me an hj or something and i
finish in a second or two...
once again though, thank you, however i'd
appreciate a second opinion from any one
else who reads this!!! so please... (no
offense georgia59)
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Georgia59
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Posted: 11-05-07 22:48pm
no prob
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Mikolas
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Posted: 11-06-07 01:08am
Since you are inexperienced in actual sex,
even if she gives you a handjob, you will
probably bust in a few, expect it, don't
sweat it. Don't set your standards high,
thinking you will last forever, expect to
pop quickly during your first couple of
sexual experiences. If you get too
concerned when they occur, you will
continue to think about it and likely
cause yourself to pop faster even in the
future due to the anxiety. If she gives
you a blowjob, expect even faster, like
something under a minute during your first
time. I'm not saying this is some sort of
an average for you to compare yourself to,
just that this way you won't be overly
concerned when the time comes up.
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mystery user
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Posted: 11-25-07 23:52pm
Thanks so
much both of you, i really appreciate what
you had to say. However, a lot of time
has past now and here is my next question.
And this is more of just curiosity as
opposed to a question regarding "sexual
guidence."
Back to me and my girlfriend... So, we
were together one night and we started
making out for quite some time and as
expected i got a raging boner(nothing
new). Nothing further than that happened,
but after we went out to dinner that
night, which took about 2 hours, we went
back to her house and began making out
again. Haha, kind of repetative, BUT this
time no erection what so ever. In fact, i
was feeling pretty damn confident. So
when the time came to give me a handjob
she started massaging my crotch a little
bit (pants were still on and her hand was
outside my pants still)... no major
activity happened downstairs. After a
good three minutes i was getting worried
as to where my boner went (lol this sounds
rediculous). Finally, i was able to get
enough of an erection that she was able to
"do the deed." To my dissappointment
though, i had very little sensation and i
was not nearly as erect as i know i can
get.
Did the fact that i had an erection
(including pre ejaculatory fluid) earlier
that night play a role in my lack of
performance later that night???
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majorjustin06
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Posted: 11-27-07 12:41pm
Maybe you were too worried about
ejaculating too quickly and this anxiety
made it difficult for you to obtain an
errection. Getting too anxious can make it
difficult to keep it up sometimes. Try to
just calm down and 'go with the flow'.
That should help you out quite a bit.
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Georgia59
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Posted: 11-27-07 17:01pm
I agree, go with the flow. It's not going
to be the same every time- your penis is
not a machine that just turns on or off
when you want it to. Just try not to
over-think it and worry too much. Next
time, if nothing is happening, start
working on your girl instead. She'll
appreciate it
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kyles123
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Posted: 11-28-07 18:37pm
have/had the same problem.
If i think to much about getting a boner i
wont get one.
If i think to much about cuming to fast, i
cum ever faster.
i just think way to much when im making
out with her ill be thinking(actually
worrying) about not getting a boner or
cuming to fast when i do get a boner.
Do any of you know how to over come this?
i told my girlfriend about my problem and
it has helped me alot, but i still have
this problem.
thanks in advance!
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Georgia59
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Posted: 11-28-07 22:57pm
I think that during sex, focusing on
foreplay and just enjoying the moment, not
orgasm. It will just create better sex
anyway.
Thanks so
much both of you, i really appreciate what
you had to say. However, a lot of time
has past now and here is my next question.
And this is more of just curiosity as
opposed to a question regarding "sexual
guidence."
