blondie_e
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Breaking up w/Controlling boyfriend
Posted: 11-04-07 19:18pm
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Me and my boyfriend of 10 months just
broke up.....
Im actually okay. I've been wanting to end
this for a long time. At the beggining he
treated me like a pricness and he was
amazing to me. But then he started getting
very controlling and treating me liek iw
as piece of crap. He would get mad at me
if i didnt want to kiss him at thtat very
moment or hold his hand or be all over
him. He expected me to like do everything
for him. He would get mad at me if i didnt
say i love you alll the time. And he wud
make fun of me in front of people and just
treat me like the biggest health forum.
ugh idk.....i feel like its for the
better. I cant deny taht i dont love him
anymore, and i dont think tis fair to me
to do so anyways.
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The Mrs
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Posted: 11-04-07 19:22pm
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Aww I'm sorry to hear that your
relationship ended, but it's good that you
know that you're worth more than that. I
broke up with my boyfriend who I was very
much in love with after three years of
being together because I felt like he took
me for granted and didn't respect me.
Never ever let your self worth suffer
because of love. It's really not supposed
to hurt after all 
I hope you're okay. Maybe your boyfriend
will realize how wrong he was and you two
can work things out at a later time?
Either way, it sounds like this was the
best thing for you.
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young Girl
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Posted: 11-04-07 19:24pm
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sorry
sometimes caca happens
it happened for a reason though
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blondie_e
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Posted: 11-04-07 19:25pm
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i dont know if i ever wanna get back
together with him. i just dont feel like
hes the right eprson for me anymore. And
he was my first but idk i feel better
without him ...
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young Girl
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Posted: 11-04-07 19:34pm
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then you dont need him
if he treated you that way in the first
place thats messed up and it wil prob be
best to let him go
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blondie_e
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Posted: 11-04-07 19:36pm
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yeah i know.And like everytime i told him
its not ok he wud be like omg im so sorry
baby! i love u !i will change but he never
did change....ugh idk Its hard.
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Mommy35
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Posted: 11-04-07 19:40pm
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Your better off finding someone who is
going to treat you right and respect you.
A man that treats you like dirt obviously
doesn't respect you and you don't deserve
that
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young Girl
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Posted: 11-04-07 19:40pm
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yeah
he knew he messed up and that he could say
those things and youd take him back and
forgive him
dont do it again
it will get worse and he will start
beathing the crap out of you
and then you really will get in too deep
trust me i used to be like you
i used to feel the same way
it never easy to walk away
but its even harder to stay? is that how
you feel?
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blondie_e
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Posted: 11-04-07 19:43pm
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yeah i dont think he would hit me. but u
never know
and i feel like its soooo hard to walk
away but i just cant stay anymore. I dont
feel like its worth it. he would always be
liek i treat u like a princess all my
friends think so and i would be like why
does it matter wat ur friends think? isnt
wat i think matter the most?
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Mommy35
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Posted: 11-04-07 20:11pm
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The only person worth making you cry never
will.
I agree with Suzy here. Abuse starts out
as calling names and emotional stuff.
Once it doesn't bother you anymore when
he's hateful he'll start doing other stuff
like threatening to break up with you if
you do the slightest thing wrong. Then
when that stops bothering you he'll up the
ante again and it could lead to physical
stuff. Hitting isn't the only physical
thing he can do. He could hold you
against your will, drive recklessly in a
car, or hit you "by accident".
I know it's hard to leave and I know it's
hard to let go, but you have to know you
deserve better than that. Cut your ties
before it's too late to do so
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young Girl
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Posted: 11-04-07 20:13pm
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| Mommy35
wrote: | The only person worth making
you cry never will.
I agree with Suzy here. Abuse starts out
as calling names and emotional stuff.
Once it doesn't bother you anymore when
he's hateful he'll start doing other stuff
like threatening to break up with you if
you do the slightest thing wrong. Then
when that stops bothering you he'll up the
ante again and it could lead to physical
stuff. Hitting isn't the only physical
thing he can do. He could hold you
against your will, drive recklessly in a
car, or hit you "by accident".
I know it's hard to leave and I know it's
hard to let go, but you have to know you
deserve better than that. Cut your ties
before it's too late to do
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exactly
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young Girl
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Posted: 11-04-07 20:13pm
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| blondie_e
wrote: | yeah i dont think he would
hit me. but u never know
and i feel like its soooo hard to walk
away but i just cant stay anymore. I dont
feel like its worth it. he would always be
liek i treat u like a princess all my
friends think so and i would be like why
does it matter wat ur friends think? isnt
wat i think matter the
most? |
screw what his friends think! they arent
you and they dont really know the
relationship you two have
you do!
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blondie_e
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Posted: 11-04-07 20:18pm
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he always drives crazy in the car when he
gets mad or like hits me supposebly
playingly or w.e. and like before he wud
be like ima go kill myself.
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young Girl
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Posted: 11-04-07 20:18pm
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| blondie_e
wrote: | | he always drives crazy in
the car when he gets mad or like hits me
supposebly playingly or w.e. and like
before he wud be like ima go kill
myself. |
hes a psyco
stay the hell away from him
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blondie_e
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Posted: 11-04-07 20:20pm
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ugh..... i wish it was that easy. like im
okay not crying or anything but my heart
hurts.
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young Girl
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Posted: 11-04-07 20:24pm
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i know it does
but think of it this way
your heart will heal
dont go back to him and let him hurt you
to the point you wont heal
like drive wreckless and get in a car
crash and you could get paralyzed...or
even killed
dont let him hit you and bruise you
dont let him tear up your self esteeme
you know me and you may not like each
other at all and we may argue but it still
angers me off that some jerk treats you
like that
no one should ever feel that way
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blondie_e
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Posted: 11-04-07 20:27pm
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he never bruised me but i would smack him
and he wouldlike seriously smack me bak
not hard but like playingly supposebly.
and like he never felt theneed to tell me
anything. Like he went to this girl's work
and didnt even tell me until like the next
day. I was like wth? and yeah ...... it
angers me 2
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young Girl
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Posted: 11-04-07 20:31pm
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| blondie_e
wrote: | he never bruised me but i
would smack him and he wouldlike seriously
smack me bak not hard but like playingly
supposebly.
and like he never felt theneed to tell me
anything. Like he went to this girl's work
and didnt even tell me until like the next
day. I was like wth? and yeah ...... it
angers me 2 |
he never bruised you YET
but things would lead to that
once the verbal attacks stopped working
and you became immune to that
he would do other things because he feels
the need to hurt you to make himself feel
better
which is wrong
IMO he doesnt love you. for serious. he
doesnt
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blondie_e
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Posted: 11-04-07 20:35pm
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=[ ugh its hard to think of it that way.
he started off as being sucha nice guy.
idk.... he always did everything for me.
but then he like started making fun of me
and like being all scary when he got mad
and stuff. i dont know. i really hope i
wont liek slip and call him and get bak
together with him
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blondie_e
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Posted: 11-04-07 20:56pm
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i feel so miserable right now. he keeps
texting me and writing our like favorite
song in the texts....its making me want to
cry.
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