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zaaaraahh
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17 & Pregnant & I Honestly Dont Know What to Do.....
Posted: 11-05-07 00:50am
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i`m 17, i turn 18 in January next
year....i honestly dont know how far down
i am, but i doubt im more than a month.
i`m sooo scared ryt now because i dont
even know what to do at this point...i
feel so lost right now...apart of me wants
to keep it, but the other part doesnt. my
boyfriend has been nothing but supportive
of me & i love him sooo much for
that....he doesnt want to abort this baby
& i understand his part on that...he's
willing to work two jobs & do
everything that he can jus to raise this
baby. i guess what`s really holding me
back ryt now is the fact that i dont know
how my parents are going to react, most
especially my mom & my older sister. i
had soo much going for me, i had so many
plans & i dont want to throw it all
away just lyk that, but then again i made
that decision to do what i did, and now
this is the consequences i get for it. i
don't want to abort this baby, but i just
dont know what to do. i dont have anyone
to talk to, anyone to help me get thru
this, so if anyone could jus please give
me some advice on what to do, then i would
greatly appreciate that. thank you
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tiamccoy819
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Posted: 11-05-07 06:43am
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If your worried about your parents....they
will yell scream and prolly call you ever
name in that book...but if you can get
through that then eventually they will get
over it. It's going to be hard work, but
like you said thats the consequence of
sleeping together.
Have you already missed your preiod..??
Did you take a home pregnancy test..??
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mzLiLi
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Posted: 11-05-07 15:41pm
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Just to let you know you do not have to
throw out all of your plans, you just have
to figure out a different way to get
achieve them. If you are pregnant your
baby will now come first in your life but
I know too many people that have had
children young and still completed college
and can afford a good size house. and this
was a single parent. You can do but it's
going to take a lil bit more work. No i'm
not a parent but my mother and my aunties
are the people that i am talking about
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Verizon-y
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Posted: 11-05-07 15:47pm
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I was in your situation. I didn't think
twice. I had an abortion, finished
college, got a fun career, met my husband,
got married, and now we have a little
girl.
I wouldn't change a thing.
But that's me.
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 11-05-07 15:50pm
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You don't have tp stop all your plans,
i've applied to go to college next year
when my daughter will be 14 months old and
she'll stay in the college nursery while
i'm in class
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mzLiLi
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Posted: 11-05-07 15:55pm
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getting an abortion would be killing your
own flesh and blood. If you dont want to
have kids dont have unprotected sex. and
if you made a mistake then find away to
still have a good life with you and your
child
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Verizon-y
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Posted: 11-05-07 15:58pm
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An early abortion involves an embryo which
has no flesh and blood yet.
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mzLiLi
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Posted: 11-05-07 16:05pm
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but still its something you laided down
and made if you aint want a baby then you
shouldn't have had sex
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Verizon-y
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Posted: 11-05-07 16:40pm
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People do not have sex just to get
pregnant. In fact, the vast majority of
times people have sex, there is no
pregnancy. Now, if you were to say, if
you don't want a baby you should use birth
control, then I agree with you.
61% of women having an abortion already
have a child or children.
Married women also have abortions.
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Bridget
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Posted: 11-05-07 16:55pm
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this is a teen pregnancy support forum. if
you'd like to discuss abortion, there are
separate forums for that.
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zaaaraahh
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Posted: 11-05-07 18:23pm
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i havent gotten my period at all &
it's been over a month already.
i took a home pregnancy test, but it
showed that it was negative,
im supposed to be going to a clinic
tomorrow morning, but i still don't know
what to expect. what else can it be?!
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Posted: 11-05-07 18:48pm
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Why will your mom and sister react so
badly?
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prettygirlygirl
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Posted: 11-06-07 02:03am
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Zaaaraahh, have you been under a lot of
stress with school and stuff? A lot of
things can affect ovulation (likes stress,
illness, lack of sleep, change in diet,
whatever) and that can really throw off
your period.
If you've got a negative test, try taking
another one and popping into the doctor
for a blood test. If all of that is
negative, stop worrying and be more
careful next time.
While you're at the doctor please discuss
more reliable forms of birth control,
there's a lot out there!
Good luck!
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Posted: 11-06-07 07:46am
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| mzLiLi
wrote: | | getting an abortion would be
killing your own flesh and blood. If you
dont want to have kids dont have
unprotected sex. and if you made a mistake
then find away to still have a good life
with you and your
child |
That's not helpful, if you wish to share
your opinions then go to the abortion
debate forum. 
To the OP I appreciate you're scared but
you do not need to rush to make any
decision, you do have time. firstly you
need to know if you are actually pregnant
so have the test done and look at your
options from there
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jessamyn
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Posted: 11-06-07 11:09am
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Yes youre parents most likely will be
pissssseddd and deman to know what you
plan of action is. They may not even be
supportive. However it will ultimately be
your decision whether you deal with
pressure from them or not..
You will NOT have to throw your "plans"
away. You will just have to work harder.
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mzLiLi
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Posted: 11-06-07 12:22pm
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| jessamyn
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You will NOT have to throw your "plans"
away. You will just have to work
harder. |
I completely agree
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Posted: 11-06-07 16:05pm
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| mzLiLi
wrote: | | jessamyn
wrote: |
You will NOT have to throw your "plans"
away. You will just have to work
harder. |
I completely
agree |
It's one thing to have gotten into this
predicament by mistake, but another one
entirely to do it on purpose.
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Saragirl
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Posted: 11-09-07 20:45pm
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| futureshock
wrote: | | mzLiLi
wrote: | | jessamyn
wrote: |
You will NOT have to throw your "plans"
away. You will just have to work
harder. |
I completely
agree |
It's one thing to have gotten into this
predicament by mistake, but another one
entirely to do it on
purpose. |
She didn't say anything about it being on
purpose though.
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Verizon-y
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Posted: 11-09-07 21:55pm
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Which she do you mean? I was answering
and referring to mzLiLi. Next time I'll
be more specific.
As far as telling your parents, telling
them that you made a mistake and got
pregnant is a lot different than telling
them you got pregnant on purpose.
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Re: 17 & Pregnant & I Honestly Dont Know What to Do.
Posted: 11-09-07 22:14pm
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| zaaaraahh
wrote: | | i`m 17, i turn 18 in January
next year....i honestly dont know how far
down i am, but i doubt im more than a
month. i`m sooo scared ryt now because i
dont even know what to do at this
point...i feel so lost right now...apart
of me wants to keep it, but the other part
doesnt. my boyfriend has been nothing but
supportive of me & i love him sooo
much for that....he doesnt want to abort
this baby & i understand his part on
that...he's willing to work two jobs &
do everything that he can jus to raise
this baby. i guess what`s really holding
me back ryt now is the fact that i dont
know how my parents are going to react,
most especially my mom & my older
sister. i had soo much going for me, i had
so many plans & i dont want to throw
it all away just lyk that, but then again
i made that decision to do what i did, and
now this is the consequences i get for it.
i don't want to abort this baby, but i
just dont know what to do. i dont have
anyone to talk to, anyone to help me get
thru this, so if anyone could jus please
give me some advice on what to do, then i
would greatly appreciate that. thank
you |
Have you ever heard of adoption?
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