Is BF Lying? Is this behavior OK? Posted: 11-05-07 05:07am
Hi,
My boyfriend recently went out to the pubs
n i stayed home because iam 16 i cannot
go out, while he was out he would not
answer his phone and turned it off, he got
home at 4am meanwhile i sat at home alone
untill then, this was about a month ago. i
just found photos on his mates facebook
acount of that night, he is in about 10
photo's with different chicks with his arm
around all of them, in one photos he has
his fone in his hand but yet he didnt get
my calls. also his actually touching heads
with one girl that a few days ago he told
me he had no idea who she is, do you guys
think this is wrong?
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Mikolas
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Posted: 11-05-07 10:42am
I do not think there is anything wrong
with meeting other girls. Just because
somebody is in a relationship, they
shouldn't suddenly shun themselves to all
members of the opposite sex. However,
obviously they shouldn't be intimately
flirting or cheating on their partner with
the people they meet. It is also wrong if
not strange that he shut off his phone. If
he just didn't pick it up, possible,
because the clubs can be a very loud
place. Shutting it off.... strange. How
old is he compared to you?
However, I still don't condone his actions
in terms of being a "good boyfriend". Both
the lady and the man do need to have their
alone time and hang out with their friends
without the significant other, but this
should be in moderation. If he does this
often, and leaving you at home alone all
the time, he isn't a good boyfriend.
yeah i didnt see the problem in t i just
needed some1 elses opinion. he is 21 and
iam 16
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Mikolas
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Posted: 11-06-07 01:22am
Honestly, I just want to let you know,
relationships where the male is in college
while the girl is still in high school
tend to be a bad outcome. That age is
associated with partying and meeting
people (college girls) due to events held
at college and all, while the 16 year old
does not have the option to do much else
but underaged things. Be wary of your
heart little lady, do not expect too much,
I've known several male 18-22/female 16
year old couples and they broke apart
because the guy was cheating on her or
playing around too much. Good luck
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littlemus
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Joined: 07 Nov 2007 Posts: 58 Location: Southern California,
Posted: 11-08-07 02:39am
i know i get jealous when i see my
boyfriend flirting with other girls, and a
lot of people ask me why i just let him do
that. simply because i find no need to
control him. he is his own person and i
trust him completely (with everything
minus one.)
he is a great guy and though i know he
likes to flirt openly with other girls,
even when he is right next to me, i know
he loves me and wouldn't cheat on me.
though only you can discern his actions
and come out with your answer. if you feel
that it was just harmless flirting and
nothing at all... then no need to worry.
though if it bothers you dont let it sit
there. i'm sure it will happen again and
if you don't talk to him about it... it
will eat you up inside and then tons of
problems ensue.
there is nothing wrong with having friends
and meeting people of the opposite sex.
also talk to him let him know what kind of
relationship you want to be in and find
out if he wants the same. if he wants to
be in an open relationship let him know
your feelings on that, and if your in an
exclusive relationship then talk to him
and let him know that you were just
curious by his actions....
do what feels right to you and act
appropriately on it. your the one that
knows him best here and can decide what
his actions mean...
