First Time Poster Needs Help With a Few Things Posted: 04-06-04 09:19am
Hi there, just to start off, im a 21 year
old male who just started having any type
of encounters with females. Like I mean I
had never kissed a girl before a few weeks
ago. Anyways, me and a girl have been
messing around and if she touches my penis
I ejaculate almost immediately. She
doesnt know this because I always pull her
away, and we have never done anything
without my underwear on atleast, but I can
tell she is getting frustrated though, and
I dont blame her. Why does this happen so
soon, and what can I do about it. I mean
I end whatever we're doing as soon as it
happens because I imagine girls would
think that was disgusting going in your
own underwear wouldnt they? What could I
do if I knew this was going to happen, and
more importantly how can I stop this from
happening. This isnt just premature, its
like ahead of its time. I dont know. Im
frustrated, shes frustrated, any help
would be appreciated.. Especially from
anyone who has suffered from premature
ejaculation or anything similar in the
past..
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mstasik
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Apr 2004 Posts: 2 Location: san diego
Posted: 04-06-04 09:26am
I heard you can get medication for
premature ejaculation. I also think
maybe you should see her more often, and
have intercouse with her regularly, or
with any other girl. I think that man
who start their sex life late are prone to
having such problems.
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 04-07-04 15:30pm
I though I responded to this one already,
but it is not here anymore. Look under
the other posts for premature ejaculation
and lasting longer. There is some advice
there. But, I would also ask your
doctor, because it really is a serious
problem.
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ms_chatz
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Mar 2004 Posts: 23 Location: Houston, TX
Posted: 04-08-04 18:39pm
I personally don't think you need to go
see a doc just yet. Since you say you
just started doing anything with girls
just recently, it sounds like you're just
anxious and nervous.
When she touches your penis, try not to
think about what she's doing. Sometimes
just thinking about the pleasure and stuff
is enough to make a guy ejaculate.
Also, don't know what you guys are doing,
but maybe you should try to get her to do
other things than just grabbing for your
penis. Try kissing more, more hugging,
more touching, etc. Usually, if a guy is
aroused longer, it takes him a little
longer to ejaculate.
Relax. If you're with her and she's
about to touch you, don't stress about
whether or not you're going to do it too
fast because that could make you do it.
If you have any other questions, pm me.
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 04-09-04 07:07am
Well yeah, but if she and you are both
getting frustrated to a point where it
could put a damper on the relationship,
then I would see a doctor. It is your
choice, but probably well worth it. I am
sure you have tried not to "think" about
what is going on and it obviously has not
worked.
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scope
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Apr 2004 Posts: 27 Location: uk
Posted: 04-19-04 02:39am
Hey dude im in the same boat as you same
age aswell but this isnt my first
experience with sex but when a girl rubs
my penis outside my trousers for less than
a minute I cum but when I cum its like
goin for a pee so dont think she knows and
I pull away afterwards to save meself the
embarassement more or less dont want her
puttin her hand down and its soakin lol
most people say see a doctor but I dont
want some man touchin my bits Or
could be worse could be a woman doctor and
ill get a hardon lol im still looking for
answers if you find any let me know...
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 04-19-04 11:56am
I think going to the doctor whether male
or female will be less embarassing then
not being able to please your woman.
Also, most likely no one is going to touch
you.
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Void
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 May 2004 Posts: 18
Posted: 06-01-04 01:56am
Well basically, it is all down to nerves,
and u r not that late at dong sexual
things so dont think its bad, I respect u
completly.
My boyfreind only just had sex with me and
he is 24 and it was his first time, so
firstly dont worry about that.
Secondly don't push yourself into having
sex with her, take it slowly, u need to
feel comfortable around her on a emotional
level, and the only way to ensure that is
time.
If she is the right girl for you then she
wil wait, have u told her u r a virgin?
Because if u keep that from her it will
make things 10 times worse.
She wil understand if she is the right
girl for u.
I have heard of a technique which may help
you, so maybe try this too:
u basically have to mastabate in the
shower or bath (its easiest apparantly)
but dont let ypurself cum even if u want
to, when u r about to put a wet flanel
over the head of your penis, it is
supposed to increase stamina, but also it
is supposed to let you learn when u know u
r about to cum, and give u mental strength
to hold it back.
Just concentrate on foreplay to get used
to each others bodies, dont rush into
having intercourse, I am sure u really
want it but take your time.
And no a caring girl wouldnt find it
disgusting if it happened to bf I would
support him and look after him.
Maybe tell her you want to take thigs
slowly coz u respect her
trust me most girls wil dig this even if
she is horny for u
hope I helped
xx
Or
could be worse could be a woman doctor and
ill get a hardon lol im still looking for
answers if you find any let me know...