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My Gf Is Moody Beyond Belief. Urgent Help Please

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futuredaddy

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My Gf Is Moody Beyond Belief. Urgent Help Please Posted: 11-05-07 20:25pm


she's about 5 weeks pregnant. ever since she found out she was pregnant which was 4 or 5 days ago, her mood has been through the roof. it's gotten to the point where i don't even wana be with her. she tells me because she thinks im gonna leave her or something.. i dont believe that one bit. seems like she just hates me and wants me out of her life. she hits me, and we got into a big fight and was like " i hate you, i dont want you anymore anyway".. 3 seconds later, she called back and appoligized. what's going on with her??? she gives everyone better treatment BUT me.. what did I do?? why is she like this towards me?

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Posted: 11-05-07 20:31pm


She feels safest with you, and you are probably the only person she can vent these feelings in front of. Plus her hormones are going wild, so please be patient with her. I don't know anything about your situation, is she terrified, or was this a wanted pregnancy? How old are you both? Fill in some details so we can better assist you.

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Posted: 11-05-07 20:34pm


We're both 16 years old right now. We've been trying to get her pregnant. We both admit that we bit off more than we can chew, because of the whole hormones. She keeps crying asking me why she keeps makeing these outburst. Something tells me she's saying that to make an excuse . I really don't know. I feel so emotionally drained from putting up with this. When I bottle up my emotions, it gets rough and I get really angry. And that's what i've been doing with her for the past couple days. She said she's scared and she doesn't want the baby to die .

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Posted: 11-05-07 20:38pm


Being pregnant, even under ideal circumstances, is scary. I was afraid for my baby's life the whole 9 months. Why did you and your girlfriend want to have a baby before you: finished school live together or get married have good jobs and can afford it?

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Posted: 11-05-07 20:40pm


We thought we could finish school, move in together and get jobs, but we were in over our head big time. I just don't know how to deal with all these outburst she is making. it's tearing me apart and i don't know how much of this I can take until I just leave her

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Posted: 11-05-07 20:43pm

futuredaddy wrote:

We're both 16 years old right now.
We've been trying to get her pregnant. We both admit that we bit off more than we can chew, because of the whole hormones.

What did she (and you) think being pregnant would be like?

futuredaddy wrote:

She keeps crying asking me why she keeps makeing these outburst. Something tells me she's saying that to make an excuse . I really don't know.

She is telling the truth, from my experience.

futuredaddy wrote:

I feel so emotionally drained from putting up with this. When I bottle up my emotions, it gets rough and I get really angry. And that's what i've been doing with her for the past couple days.

Do you have anyone to help you through this? What do your parents and your gf parents think of all this?

Don't wprry, your gf's hormones won't be like this all 9 monthso

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Posted: 11-05-07 20:45pm

futuredaddy wrote:

We thought we could finish school, move in together and get jobs, but we were in over our head big time.

I just don't know how to deal with all these outburst she is making. it's tearing me apart and i don't know how much of this I can take until I just leave her

This will not go on forever. You wouldn't just be leaving her, remember, you'd be leaving your future child.

Maybe you guys should think of adoption?

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Posted: 11-05-07 20:46pm


We were only thinking of the positives of pregnancy ( obviously ). We really didn't think of the other things. My parents are supportive of me and my gf. It's hard to tell wheather her parents are supportive or not. Sometimes it seems like they are and other times, it seems like they aren't. How long did these hormone changes occur with you?

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Posted: 11-05-07 20:48pm


Less than a month. Maybe you could talk to your gf in a nice way and tell her how hurtful she is being? Maybe ask her if there is something else wrong besides the hormones and her being scared?

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Posted: 11-05-07 20:52pm


I ask her and she makes outburst to me. And I ask her if theres anything that's on her mind and all she says "oh your denying it" " you act like you didnt want this kid ever since i told you i was pregnant"

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Posted: 11-05-07 20:58pm


It sounds like projecting, have you ever heard of this? It is when you accuse someone else of something that you are actually doing. Like if you are lying to someone, you would accuse the person you are lying to of lying. Maybe she doesn't want to be pregnant ever since she found out she was, and is projecting that feeling onto you? I'm sure you both know it is still early enough to abort this pregnancy, if things get much worse and neither of you can handle it. Has she had any morning sickness yet? Wait until she feels nauseous and throws up all day. My husband had to take time off from work for two weeks to take care of me, I was so sick. P.S. not ALL women get that sick, so don't panic.

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Posted: 11-05-07 21:02pm

futuredaddy wrote:

I ask her and she makes outburst to me.
And I ask her if theres anything that's on her mind and all she says "oh your denying it" " you act like you didnt want this kid ever since i told you i was pregnant"

Also, she might just be so terrified that what you guys have talked about (getting pregnant) is actually happening, and she is terrified that you will leave her.

If this is what she is really feeling, and you really want to stay with her and have this baby, you could go get her an engagement ring (whatever you can afford) and propose to her. You could just get engaged to make her feel more secure about everything, and have a long engagement.

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Posted: 11-05-07 21:02pm


Yeah she has had morning sickness. She also thinks all the stress in school is really makeing her like this I keep telling her if abortion is what she wants then i'm all for it, but she says "NO WE"RE HAVING THIS KID" Her parents are makeing her go to school regardless on how sick she is. She has been sick for the past 3 or 4 weeks. Is going to school like this healthy? Anyways, I just want to get to the bottom of why she's being like this. She claims that she doesn't know why she's doing it and that she's sorry. But after she appoligizes, she goes and does it again. It must have to do with me, otherwise she would of been doing it to everyone

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Posted: 11-05-07 21:04pm


I have to go for a while but I will be back. Also, other people will jump in and start posting with you soon, I'm sure. They are all probably just lurking right now. You sound like a great guy. winks and waves at lurkers

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Posted: 11-05-07 21:04pm

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futuredaddy wrote:

I have an engagement ring and i considered the option. Friends are telling me that I shouldn't get engaged just to keep her from being moody, instead I should do it when I am ready.

But i feel like I AM ready, but how do I know if she is? When she says she hates me and doesn't want me, i really take that to heart.

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Posted: 11-05-07 21:05pm

futureshock wrote:

I have to go for a while but I will be back.
Also, other people will jump in and start posting with you soon, I'm sure. They are all probably just lurking right now.

You sound like a great guy.

*winks and waves at lurkers*

Alright, thanks for all the help. COMEBACK SOON. lol i need the help

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Posted: 11-05-07 21:05pm

futuredaddy wrote:

Yeah she has had morning sickness.
She also thinks all the stress in school is really makeing her like this
I keep telling her if abortion is what she wants then i'm all for it, but she says "NO WE"RE HAVING THIS KID"

Her parents are makeing her go to school regardless on how sick she is. She has been sick for the past 3 or 4 weeks. Is going to school like this healthy?

Anyways, I just want to get to the bottom of why she's being like this. She claims that she doesn't know why she's doing it and that she's sorry. But after she appoligizes, she goes and does it again. It must have to do with me, otherwise she would of been doing it to everyone

OMG!!!! That is HORRIBLE!!! I cannot believe they are making her go to school feeling like that! I could not even get out of bed. That is cruel beyond words. OMG!!!!!

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Posted: 11-05-07 21:08pm


Yeap and when she doesn't get out of bed, her dad whoops her. Sad, but true

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Posted: 11-05-07 22:57pm

futuredaddy wrote:

futureshock wrote:

futuredaddy wrote:

Honestly? If you want the child to be born, give her the ring. You already decided you were "ready" when you made a baby on purpose. Do you see how this is all backwards?

futuredaddy wrote:

Yeap and when she doesn't get out of bed, her dad whoops her. Sad, but true

OK, with all of the info, I am shocked you don't understand what is wrong with your gf.

She is being tortured. Her parents should be shot. Can't you just imagine being whipped and forced to go to school WHILE you are nauseous and throwing up?

Also, there is no way her parents are happy about this situation at all. They are FURIOUS. That is why they are PUNISHING your gf.

I cannot understand for the life of me why she wants to go through with this. The only thing I can think is she thought by getting pregnant she could escape her home life.

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Posted: 11-06-07 01:40am


Well, this is certainly a thread for all of the teens out there trying to TTC. Surprise surprise! Teen pregnancy and parenting isn't all love, cuddles and smiles! Futuredaddy, I'm so sorry that you're having a rough time with everything. Pregnancy can be hard on everyone. You may be having a rough time dealing with your moody girlfriend, but have you taken the time to consider what she's going through? She's young, just found out she's pregnant. She sounds like she's sick as a dog, her parents seem pretty crappy, to top it all off she probably so tired she can barely function and a boyfriend who wants to leave her while she's newly knocked up. Poor thing is having a rough time and probably terrified. Fortunately, the mood swings don't last forever. The second trimester is an easy one, most pregnancy symptoms (morning sickness, exhaustion, moodiness etc) lessen or go away completely (for most women, not all. It could last through the whole pregnancy). The third trimester gets tough again (for everyone) and back comes the moodiness and exhaustion, not to mention the incredible discomfort that comes with being a million months pregnant (okay, slight exageration, but by 7 months it does feel that way). Once the pregnancy is over the hormones come back, no one's getting any sleep and everyone is covered in baby poop or vomit. Then you're dealing with a willfull toddler (wooo tantrums!), childhood, puberty, etc. It's a lot of work, and at times can seem very unrewarding. I hate to sound down on the whole pregnancy/parenting thing (I'm not, I promise. I have a daughter I would not trade for the world), but it's not all fun and games. It's a hard road, but especially considering you were actually trying for this baby, you really need to step up and take full responsibility for that decision.