Ok so my bf and I have been together for
about 2 years. We were togehter 3 months
before we actually lived in the same area.
He lived 8hrs away from here. He left his
family to be here with me and I love him
so much for that and so thankful that he
did that for me...
Things were a little rocky at first when
he came here, I had guy friends whom he
didn't want me talking to, which okay he
came before some guy friends anways. And
then bam I found out I was pregnant
December 11th of last year. A few months
after he came here...
My whole entire pregnancy we argued * A
LOT * he packed his things and left at
least 10 times. I admit I was a grouchy
hormonal pregnant lady sometimes but hey
we have every right to be. Dallas was born
and everything has been fine but we have
been arguing a lot lately.
Saturday night we were at my dad's and
when we got home he started calling me a
sl*t and a bad mom and that really hit a
spot in my heart. And he said you are so
immature and that's why we aren't engaged
yet. First of all, I do EVERYTHING for my
baby and secondly he had drinken a few
drinks and I didn't so he is using that as
his excuse...no excuse, he wasn't drunk
Fast forward to tonight. We were at my
dad's again, there was a movie on TV that
NO ONE was watching besides me, yes *me*,
and I asked if I could change it. He got
sooo mad because I'm immature because no
one else wanted me to turn it?? Ok excuse
me but no one was watching it. He gets mad
slams the bedroom door and the front door
*while dallas is sleeping* and starts
walking. He texts my mom and feeds her
some bs and then has her all mad at
me..now he is asleep with dallas...
I don't know what to do, I love him so
much, he is the father of my son but I
absolutely can't take the heart break
anymore..ladies??
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amethyst eyes
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Nov 2006 Posts: 1339
Posted: 11-05-07 22:20pm
Leave him. If he has been this way for
that long I doubt he respects you or is
willing to change. You can find someone
better. Do you want that as an example
for your child to grow up with?
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mommy_2_dallas0813
Supporter
Joined: 26 Oct 2007 Posts: 412 Location: Ohio,
Posted: 11-05-07 22:23pm
No I don't want that. He tells my mom
though how much he loves my son & I
and he is scared because I threatened to
leave him tonight. He cried the next
morning to me after he called me a bad
mother and such but I can forgive but I
can't forget.
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number game
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Jun 2007 Posts: 1212 Location: Charlotte, NC,
Posted: 11-05-07 22:27pm
Girl I've been in a relationship like this
but minus the child. I could have never
stayed in that relationship. You need
someone who loves and respects you. Do the
cons out weigh the Pros? If so then loose
him. Just because you love someone dosen't
mean you have someone who loves you back
they way that you deserve to be loved! You
have to do what's right for you and your
baby. Love comes and goes hun. You're
still fairly young too. I got married at
17 and it was the worst mistake I could
have ever made. I was too young to even
know who I was. ( I'm not with him
anymore) People like this usually never
change! I wish you luck in what ever
happens.
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mommy_2_dallas0813
Supporter
Joined: 26 Oct 2007 Posts: 412 Location: Ohio,
Posted: 11-05-07 22:29pm
I want to talk to him but I don't know
what to say. I am just at complete loss
for words. I need a hug.
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blackcat34
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Oct 2007 Posts: 448 Location: Brownsville, Texas U.S. of A.
Posted: 11-05-07 23:11pm
Ok... wow were to start... well first of
all I don't see why you couldnt hang
around with your guy friends, sounds a
little over possessive to me. Second....
calling you a bad mom and well that other
word....well that was totally uncalled
for, drinking is not and excuse for
this.... in my experience drinking brings
out ones true personality more..... (I
drink and have partied alot in the
past...I am a mellow person...and get
really mellow when I drink) I have drank
with others who well...are kind of $4it
sticks...and when they drink it just
amplifies this. He is using that immature
excuse to cover up for his not wanting to
completely commit. Next.... getting mad
because you wanted to change the
channel...well that is really petty.... if
no one but you was watching it..sure
change it.. it shouldnt bother anyone...
I dont know what he told your mom... but
calling her and telling her what ever he
told her is immature within itself....
I read what the other ladies have put... I
agree, do what is best for your child,
your child deserves a good environment to
grow up in..and your bf doesnt seem like
he can provide that or is willing to. He
may love Dallas but, with the way he
treats you (and Dallas will see this),
your son will grow up not respecting
women.... I have seen this personally...
my ex gf's sister is in a relationship
like that... her husbands dad is a serious
jerk...he treats his wife badly...and his
3 sons do too...they treat their
gf's/wifes the same.
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sick_mama17
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Jun 2007 Posts: 960 Location: , England
Posted: 11-06-07 05:54am
If hes using alcohol as an excuse, could
you try saying dont drink anymore then. No
more excuses for him to speak to you like
that.
