GF not meeting my sexual needs ( oral and anal sex ) Posted: 11-05-07 22:33pm
my gr seems to think its a joke when I
tell her my sexual needs are not being
met... she hates to preform oral sex on
me, but I perform it on her every time we
have sex. " she can orgasm easy that way.
she won't try anal sex. I'm at my wits
end, and am thinking about ending the
relationship. I love her, and in her
strange way I know she loves me. just
tired of not getting what I want.
everything else in our relationship is
fine.
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Maddie34
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Posted: 11-05-07 22:45pm
Ever ask why she's not really digging oral
sex?
Things got better with my boyfriend and I
when we talked things over.
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Mikolas
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Posted: 11-06-07 00:54am
I'm all about equality, I don't think its
right that you would go down on her but
she won't give you oral. Give her the best
oral you possibly can, and then never give
it to her again. Let her feel what she
lost! Then explain if she ever asks why
you stopped, just tell her you just don't
believe its very fair at all that you
would do all this for her, but she won't
even try to pass her limits for you. If
she still won't budge, and you really
can't take it, then I guess you have to
move on.
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Rosie H
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Posted: 11-06-07 08:38am
I agree with Maddie, try and talk to her
to see why she doesnt like doing those
things. There may be a very good reason,
maybe its a pyscological issue. She could
be afraid of some reason. You really just
need to know why. But it isnt fair for
her to laugh at you or throw it in your
face. In a relationship the other should
want to or at least be willing to please
the other.
I couldnt give oral sex either. Something
happened to me as a child that just messed
me up. My boyfriend now never pressured
me into doing that if I didnt feel ok
about it. I finally went to therapy to
overcome those fears and I learned to get
over it. I enjoy oral sex now. So if its
something like this you really shouldnt
hold it against her. Instead work with
her and try to help he through it.
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Giftie
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Posted: 11-08-07 05:23am
Some girls, actually A LOT of girls, are
timid about those things. there are a few
things that could harm you in anal sex,
because we are trying to put something in
us when originally it was meant for things
to come out of. But i will admit, it
shouldn't be too much of a hassle as long
as you do it carefully. Oral on the other
hand, some girls are also scared that they
may not be good at it and that's why they
shy away from it. They say they don't like
it just so you can stop asking them to do
it. But also, if she doesn't like it, it's
wrong to pressure her into those things.
If she doesn't want to, she doesn't want
to. Just reassure her that if she's never
done it before then you'll make sure yo
won't judge her and you'll help her out
until she's able to do it without your
help. But if she has done it before, then
obviously she has her reasons why she
doesn't like it and you should respect
that.
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sarah_bunny
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If You Do "love" Her - Dont Pressure Her. Posted: 11-08-07 09:35am
i would have a talk with her. sit down
together and be honest. if there is a
problem (bad gag reflex, taste, lock jaw)
then those can be fixed. if she is not
very experienced then it just might be
that she isnt comportable just yet.
i would talk to her first then decide
together what to do.
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PenguinsRus
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Posted: 11-08-07 10:47am
I agree with everyone. I would talk to
her first and see whats up. It is not
fair to dump her without giving her a
chance to explain why, but at the same
time its not fair that you satisfy her and
she doesn't do the same for you. Don't
pressure her into anything she doesn't
want to do. Maybe she doesn't like anal?
Imagine if SHE broke up with YOU because
you wouldn't let her stick something up
your butt. It isn't always fun for all
girls; if anything it feels better for
males because of their anatomy/prostate.
But anyways, I'd give her a chance to talk
to you and explain why she doesn't like
these things, and if in the end you really
aren't compatible, then I would think
about maybe letting her go. Relationships
aren't all about sex, although it is a
very important component.
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