Confusion With My New Best Friend... Posted: 11-05-07 23:46pm
Hi, this is kind of awkward to talk about,
but I need to. About a month ago my best
friend (a girl) started going out with
this guy who I barely knew. So, over the
past month, I’ve gotten to him well.
He’s told me a lot, such as how he was
formerly suicidal and why he didn’t have
hardly any guy friends. I’ve told him
virtually everything I’ve got to tell
(save my bisexuality). Well, we had a
photography field trip (we’re high
school freshmen, btw) and a whole big
group of us were talking about putting
ranch on each others tacos (yeah, we’re
immature, I know). Well, afterwards we
were texting and we got on the subject of
masturbation after joking around about the
taco thing. This sounds really dumb and
kiddy but it does have meaningful points
so here’s the conversation we had
word-for-word:
(Note: My friend will be known as Devin.
TJ is just basically one of our VERY
straight, kind-of-good friends who tells
us his penis is big a lot (he’s one of
those guys) and whose penis I saw once.)
DEVIN:
Haha yeah. I used to do it every day. Lol
back then. Now usually every other dayday
at the most. I sound like a perv. Haha
ME:
No, I was WAY worse than once a day! I
feel gross now that I think about it. But
it was good at the time I guess. Lol.
DEVIN:
haha. Yeah. There’s nothing wrong with
it. Have you ever done it with another
guy? This one guy from New Mexico did it
with his best friend all the time. It
was… weird. Lol.
ME:
No, that’s something I definitely
haven’t done. But tj’s told me he and
his friend jack had done it quite a few
times in the same room at the same time
but they never “looked at eachother
DEVIN:
Yeah that’s basically what I meant. I
did it once. But that was a long time
ago.
ME:
Are you for real? There’s no way I think
I could, honestly.
DEVIN:
Yeah. It was like the third grade.
ME:
For real? In third grade?? I don’t think
I could even try to comprehending doing
that in the third grade, let alone
actually doing it.
DEVIN:
Yeah that was a long time ago.
ME:
Yeah I bet. Lol.
DEVIN:
Haha. It’s kinda gay. But I guess Todd
doesn’t think that lol
ME:
Lol. Not really if you were in the third
grade. But with todd it seems slightly
different.
DEVIN: Yeah I know. Well, if you aren’t
doing it WITH another person, but doing it
by yourself, I guess you could think of it
differently.
ME:
Yeah, that sound right, Lol.
DEVIN:
And todd’s dick jokes are kinda wrong..
He’s prolly the same size as everyone
else. -Yeah. Doing it around another guy
is different than doing it WITH another
guy.
ME:
Yeah, this is top secret (obviously), but
I saw it on complete accident one time,
and its honestly nothing special. (and I
agree with the last part, too.)
DEVIN:
Haha yeah. I know mine isn’t lol. But
yeah. I guess it isn’t gay if you look
at his junk.
ME:
It was such a weird accident. And he
doesn’t know either.
DEVIN:
Oh wow. High self-esteem I guess. Lol.
ME:
Id say. Lol. I don’t really know if
mines that special or not. I don’t have
much to compare it to so im not really
sure to tell you the truth. Lol.
DEVIN:
Yeah. Haha. I’m a loser. I measured mine
once. Haha. Yeah. I would prolly do it
around another guy but only if we were
BEST friends. Haha. And if promised not to
look. Haha.
ME:
Lol. Ive measured, too. I don’t quite
remember how much it was, though. And I
would probably do the same if the
situation came up, now that I think about
it.
DEVIN:
Yeah. It’s not as bad as long as nobody
knew. It’s not that bad of a thing. Ppl
just think it’s bad
ME:
Yeah, I know. I really don’t see why its
so disgraceful, because everyone does it.
DEVIN:
Yeah I know, this prolly makes me sound
like a perv, but I like it. Haha.
ME:
So do I man. It’s a real great thing.
DEVIN:
Yeah. Haha. You’re the onloy one ive
felt comfortable enough to talk about this
to. Lmao.
ME:
Same here, man. Lol. I mean, I get talked
to about it by like kirk and todd but ive
never really talked about myself. Lol.
DEVIN:
Haha yeah. Some people just immediately
think youre gay. When they do it
themselves.
ME:
Yeah, I know what you mean. Lol. Its
annoying.
DEVIN:
Yeah. Obviously im not gay haha. I just
like doing it.
ME:
Me too. As long as youre not like obsessed
with it, its perfectly fine in my
opinion.
DEVIN:
Yeah. Its just something you do.
ME:
And something EVERYONE does. So there’s
obviously nothing wrong with it.
DEVIN:
Yeah! It’s something everyone does. Like
you just said.
ME:
Modef. Lol.
DEVIN:
Haha good talk.
Now, I have SO many thoughts running
through my mind. Because first of all,
I’ve been crushing on this kid for
weeks, and I know we’re best friend.
Secondly, the fact that we’re best
friend now allows me to masturbate near
him, and just makes me feel awesome. All
day I’ve had the feel surging through my
body. It starts in my crotch, and radiates
throughout my entire body.
I also have a sneaking suspension that
he’s also bisexual, mainly because of my
own imagination. He never has told me what
his suicidal tendencies were the cause of,
and I can’t help but to assume it may do
with bisexuality. (But then again, this is
probably all my imagination).
I just need someone to advise me on
this—because I’m really not sure how
to take my thoughts and feelings and
everything else. So, please just tell me
what you think about the whole situation.
It would be greatly appreciated.
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yogahoneybunny
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Posted: 11-07-07 04:08am
To be honest, he doesn't seem bisexual.
And it's a pretty delicate topic, but you
might have to risk it after your
friendship develops, and let him know
about your sexuality. This is the only
way to know if your feelings are
reciprocated. But, the thing you are
risking is the friendship so beware.
Seems safe to just observe at this point
... but watch the fantasizing. This can
influence the way you act around him!
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marvel
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Posted: 11-09-07 12:56pm
Hmm.
I don't know. A lot of straight guys don't
mind talking about this to other guys.
Throw your bisexuality in there, and it
might shake things up a bit. I would talk
to him about what he thinks about
homo/bisexuality. It seems as though you
two have a good relationship to talk about
at least that much. If he thinks it's
gross and wrong, you might be in
trouble... if you tell him you're
bisexual, he might think you betrayed his
trust. On the other hand, you may find out
he's open to many things.... including the
same gender. You just never know until you
talk about it!
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 02-07-08 14:09pm
Well, you never know! He said at first he
wouldn't do it and then got comfy with you
and said he would. This could go either
way and honestly if he is this comfortable
with you it could happen! Maybe you could
ask him why he attempted suicide.
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homerx
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Posted: 02-08-08 18:44pm
marvel
wrote:
Hmm.
I don't know. A lot of straight guys don't
mind talking about this to other guys.
Throw your bisexuality in there, and it
might shake things up a bit. I would talk
to him about what he thinks about
homo/bisexuality. It seems as though you
two have a good relationship to talk about
at least that much. If he thinks it's
gross and wrong, you might be in
trouble... if you tell him you're
bisexual, he might think you betrayed his
trust. On the other hand, you may find out
he's open to many things.... including the
same gender. You just never know until you
talk about
it!
Take marvels advise and talk about it.
Relationships are built on being real and
honest and open with each other. If you
cant or he cant be honest and talk about
this then you 2 may be doomed already...
TALK...no lies when
it comes to sex cuz that is a deal breaker
2.good luck.
TALK...no lies when
it comes to sex cuz that is a deal breaker
2.good luck.