Difficulty Reaching Orgasm With Partner Posted: 11-08-07 22:28pm
Hey Everyone. This is my first post and
am looking for some insight here. I'm a
37 year old male and did not have any
sexual partners until I was about 35.
Prior to that, I masturbated daily on
average to porn, magazines, or my
imagination.
When alone, I have no problem masturbating
to orgasm. However, when I'm with a
partner, It proves to be extremely
difficult.
I am always quite erect as we begin. The
problem is that as time goes by, and the
more precum that seems to be released, I
am unable to eventually reach orgasm.
This makes me feel bad because I'm afraid
my partner thinks I'm not attracted. I
still remain fairly erect while making
out, oral, etc. But when it's time to
finish the job, it just doesn't seem to
happen. Sometimes if my partner leaves
the room for a bit, I can quickly
masturbate and ejaculate normally. Again,
I feel horrible about this and I'm sure my
partner thinks it's their fault.
It's almost as if I need to fully
concentrate on getting to orgasm and this
isn't possible with someone touching and
trying to pleasure me. I want to be able
to reach an orgasm with my partner so bad,
but it's almost like I'm putting so much
pressure on myself to do it, that it won't
happen.
Any thoughts or suggestions would be
appreciated. Is this at all common?And
just to reiterate, I am very attracted to
my partner. There is no doubt about that
at all.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 11-08-07 23:01pm
Can you perhaps practice by masturbating
with her in the room first? Ignore her if
you must; but become accoustomed to her
presence in relation to orgasm.
Step two would be to masturbate to orgasm
with her next to you.
You could insert step 2.5 involving her
touching you while you masturbate to
orgasm.
Step three would be to masturbate almost
to orgasm, and try to let her finish you
off; or, let her go as far as possible and
then take over for her.
Basically, I think you have a mental block
from being abstinent for so long. Your
body and mind think that orgasm is a
purely private thing that can't happen
with someone else around. You need to
break that.
