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Husband is depressed, feels failure b/c of Infertility Posted: 11-12-07 09:55am
What do you do when your husband feels
that he has failed because you aren't
pregnant yet? We have been trying for
three years, since I lost the first baby 4
years ago. He always lays besides me and
rubs my stomach and tells me that he can't
wait until something is finally in there.
I know that he wants it a lot and so do I,
but it's a little depressing for me too,
because I want it just as much as he
does.
I have been taking Ovulex for the past
three weeks, hoping that I will see a
change, because my husband is so different
now. He wants this child so much, that it
is all he thinks about and he cries
sometimes because he feels like it's his
fault in some way.
I don't feel that it is, because my
periods have always been irregular, which
is why I am taking Ovulex, so that I can
kinda' get it regular and see if we can't
have a baby. Someone tell me what you
think I can do to cheer him up and do you
think I am making the right choice by
taking Ovulex. Sometimes, I think I should
just pray and wait on God.
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Ingi
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Posted: 11-12-07 09:57am
Have you visited a fertility specialist?
That should be your next step.
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yogahoneybunny
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Posted: 11-15-07 02:42am
Agreed. You'll need to identify the cause
of the difficulty before seeking
treatment. The cause of the infertility
could be located in your body, in his or
in both of your bodies...
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2much4ya
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Joined: 31 Oct 2007 Posts: 7 Location: Savannah, Georgia, U.S.A.
Posted: 11-19-07 10:22am
Well, I have gone to the doctor and they
really can't find a reason. Everything
seems to be normal. It is just harder to
conceive for me. I was pregnant about 3
years ago and at 5 months I lost the baby,
so we are trying again. He hasn't gone to
the doctor yet though, so I want him to go
and have his sperm count checked, but I am
taking a fertility drug. It's called
Ovulex. I know you've probably heard of
it. I went ahead and purchased it and took
it to my doctor. She said that it seemed
to be perfectly safe and the she wanted me
to start taking it the day after my
menstrual cycle to see if it regulates me,
because I was really irregular. I have
been taking it now for one month and I was
right on time this month, so it seems to
be working. Hopefully this will make a
difference and I will become pregnant
soon. As for my husband, he still seems to
be depressed sometimes, but we are hoping
for the best with this new pill that I am
taking. I guess we will just have to wait
and see, but waiting is the hard part.
As far as any problems, I don't see any,
but we will see what happens with Ovulex..
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yogahoneybunny
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Posted: 11-20-07 08:08am
Right. It seems reasonable to ask him to
get his sperm counted. In fact, doctors
recommend that when exploring fertility,
the man get tested first b/c it's so
straight forward.
Glad to hear you're regulated. Let us
know what's happening!
What do you do when your husband feels
that he has failed because you aren't
pregnant yet? We have been trying for
three years, since I lost the first baby 4
years ago. He always lays besides me and
rubs my stomach and tells me that he can't
wait until something is finally in there.
I know that he wants it a lot and so do I,
but it's a little depressing for me too,
because I want it just as much as he
does.
