Recently, I have been in the position of
almost having a nervous breakdown. Between
my work and home, I am just to the point
of going insane. In the past two weeks, we
have had cascading system failures at the
office which has been all due to
mismanagement from the BOD in not allowing
for system upgrades for more than a
decade. Due to this, I have been working
15+ hour days since the 31st. That has
been so stressful on me because I am a one
person IT department and am working with
an outside vendor. With all this work, my
wife has been so mad over me working all
these long hours recently and complaining
that we never have time because of this.
She is mad because they never provided for
upgrades and has lead to this point of
failures. As I have tried to explain to
her, the company was going to permanently
close its doors this morning if the
systems weren't up today. She knows that I
am looking for a new position, but that
takes time. I felt like everything was
coming down on me because everyone's jobs
depended on me being able to get the
systems back up. We were finally able to
get them up this morning after 12 days of
being down.
What has added to this enormous stress has
been my wife nagging at me about it and
criticizing me over and over about trying.
This morning was almost my breaking point
when she called me on a problem with
locking the front dead bolt and that she
was only able to lock the lower lock. I
told her that I would come home as soon as
the new server was up and she responded
that I am no help to her at all and banged
the phone up on me as I was almost in the
office. I had a deadline to have it up by
9:00 am or the company would have to close
it's door permanently. With all the stress
I have had on the plant employees relying
on me to this issue this morning, I almost
just called it quits completely. I was in
my truck almost at the office when she had
called. After she banged the phone up, I
almost mashed the accelerator to the floor
to run into a telephone poll. I just felt
completely overwhelmed at that point. I
know that I need to go see a doctor about
this, but at this time with the systems
still in question, I don't know when I can
go. Any advice would be welcomed. Thanks.
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Tmddyan
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Joined: 13 Jun 2006 Posts: 4127 Location: post falls, id usa
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Posted: 11-13-07 14:12pm
please relax. stress is hard to deal with
but you have to try to relax. perhaps ask
your wife to stop nagging and tell her
that its just as hard for you to deal with
it. I do hope that things get better.
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Georgia59
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Joined: 11 Apr 2007 Posts: 5323 Location: Along the Mississippi, USA
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Posted: 11-16-07 23:37pm
I honestly suggest having a heart to heart
with your wife. She loves you, and that's
why she's frustrated. Just explain to her
what you need right now- that you need her
to be patient and understanding while you
search for a new job. Approach her in a
calm manner while she is also calm.
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