Help! My Little Girl Is Being Bullied! Posted: 11-14-07 11:47am
Yesterday on the bus ride home 2 sixth
grade boys stole my daughter's backpack,
lunchbox and her necklace and wouldn't
give them back to her. i guess she tried
to use her words and then she got so
frustrated that she bit one of them-twice.
She
has never ever bitten anyone before. At
first I was appalled and mortified that
she did that, then I was so sad for her.
I can't even imagine how frustrated she
must have been to do that! I have called
the transportation office so that I can go
review the video myself. How the heck am
I supposed to deal with this?? I did not
discipline her yesterday because I didn't
know exactly what to do about it! I am
proud that she stood up for herself but
PO'd that she bit someone. I gues if I
were in her shoes I might've done the same
thing. She is such a sweet and kind
child, I don't want her to be bitter and
scarred by things like this. I know I
can't protect her forever, by any means,
but seriously! How tough do you have to
be as a sixth grader to steal a
kindergartner's stuff! I want those two
boys disciplined and OFF THE BUS. I just
don't know what to do! Advice??
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lonestarguy
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Posted: 11-14-07 12:04pm
Hey Silly:
I think you were right to wait until you
see the video and see how upset she was to
have bitten someone. I'm not condoning
biting, but that may have been the only
weapon she had against two much bigger
bullies. Only you know how sweet she
usually is, so maybe this time you only
discipline her a little to reinforce that
you never bite anyone else EVER. In
today's world, biting could be construed
as assault, but I hardly think anyone
would prosecute a young child for
defending herself.
I think you are right that the boys should
be disciplined too. After all, they
started this chain of events against a
much younger girl. I would push also for
the boys to be put off the bus so this
doesn't happen again. Also, alert the
school administration as to the situation
so that these same boys don't bother her
in school either.
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kaerbear
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Posted: 11-14-07 13:37pm
i don't know what i would do either. i
don't think i'd have the heart to get
upset at her. i remember being bullied as
a kid and how scary it was. my cousin and
i got beat up by some 6th graders when we
were in grade 1 and i remember how big and
scary they seemed to me then. one time i
was being teased by an older boy and i
just went off on him calling him every
swear word i knew only to turn around and
see a teacher standing behind me. i can't
remember if i got in trouble for it all i
remember is being completely mortified
that an adult had heard me say those words
that i never dared to say before. being
bullied really really sucks and i give
your little girl a lot of credit for being
brave enough to fight two big boys at all.
i just hope your school has some kind of
bullying policy and a principal who is
educated about that kind of thing. good
luck.
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sillyakchick
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Posted: 11-18-07 17:03pm
Well, it actually happened on school
grounds while she was waiting for the bus,
so no video was available. I can't figure
out why no teachers witnessed this event,
because they are supposed to be
supervising them. The principal didn't
really do anything but talk to Geneva
about the appropriate response she should
have had to the situation, ie telling an
adult. The boys will NTO be punished, and
I think that stinks. Both of the kids
have a history of discipline problems and
I think their principal is a giant
pushover. She has absolutely no
disciplinary control over that place at
all.
The next day was their Thanksgiving Feast
at school and I went to have lunch there
with Geneva ansd when I sat down this
little girl across from me looks at me and
says "Geneva is DISGUSTING!". I just
about choked. What a horrible thing to
say, and I told her so. It was all I
could do not to cry for my sweet loving
kid who never has a nasty thing to say
about anybody, even those kids who bullied
her! She actually wrote the one kid an
apology card. I hate her school, and I
hate the fac tthat she is there. I hate
the fact that these kids' parents can't
take the time to pull them aside and talk
about kindness, fairness, inclusion, and
instill a sense of character in them. I
realize that her school just happens to be
very diverse in its population and 60% of
the kids don't speak english, 12% of the
kids are homeless, 68% of the kids are
from single parent homes, and most of the
school serves neighborhoods where people
live below the poverty line, but
SERIOUSLY! You don't have to be wealthy
to be able to afford some manners and some
kindness! I can't wait to get her out of
that hellhole...
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ladylee70
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Posted: 11-18-07 17:38pm
Wow! I can't believe the other little girl
said that in front of you. If she said
that in front of you, it makes me wonder
how much of this is going on behind your
back. Did you mention your experience to
the principal. Obviously that type of
behavior is somewhat accepted at that
school if the child felt she could say
that right in front of you. Do you have
any other options?? I would not want her
in the school. I was picked on at my
school for the longest time and it really
did affect my self esteem for years to
come. I was always the runt of the school
and got harassed on a daily basis. I
begged my mom to pull me out and she never
did.
I would have just balled. I have already
started to cry with what is happening to
my son at daycare. He goes to preschool
and the kids are actually extremely nice
to him there. They make a point to say hi
and bye to him. Kids can be so cruel.
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She
has never ever bitten anyone before. At
first I was appalled and mortified that
she did that, then I was so sad for her.
I can't even imagine how frustrated she
must have been to do that! I have called
the transportation office so that I can go
review the video myself. How the heck am
I supposed to deal with this?? I did not
discipline her yesterday because I didn't
know exactly what to do about it! I am
proud that she stood up for herself but
PO'd that she bit someone. I gues if I
were in her shoes I might've done the same
thing. She is such a sweet and kind
child, I don't want her to be bitter and
scarred by things like this. I know I
can't protect her forever, by any means,
but seriously! How tough do you have to
be as a sixth grader to steal a
kindergartner's stuff! I want those two
boys disciplined and OFF THE BUS. I just
don't know what to do! Advice??
