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Don't Know What to Do.... Posted: 11-17-07 03:51am
I really don't know what I am doing with
my life anymore. I had everything set out
that I was going to have another baby and
marry Robbie but now that he is away
doubts are setting in. I have established
a routine now without him around and i
honestly don't know if I want him back.
The kids have been waking up every night
4-5 times and I am emotionally exhausted
but some how I feel happy that my home is
MINE and i have a routine that isn't
interuppted by someone throwing their
clothes on the floor or laeaving their
laptop lying around.
The worst part is that I get so lonely. My
friends work during the day so I have no
one to talk to. I love my kids so much but
they can't offer me adult conversation. I
feel like I am stuck in a rut of doing the
same thing day in, day out.
I feel like I'd like to get a job that
isn't from home. Logan will be joining
Layla in nursery in January and i'm
wondering if now is the right time. When I
think of having another baby I have doubts
and they say if you have doubts then you
shouldn't do it.
I hate the evenings when i put the kids to
bed cause then i just sit there. I am
bored with the internet (although I love
you girls) and there is never anything on
television so it really sinks in that I am
all alone.
I really don't know what to do. I know
that I feel released from not having
Robbie living here and the truth is, I'm
not missing him like I thought I would.
Sorry this is so long.
Any replies would be greatly appreciated.
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sick_mama17
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Joined: 22 Jun 2007 Posts: 960 Location: , England
Posted: 11-17-07 04:50am
I know what you mean, I feel like that
sometimes, like im stuck and dont know
what to do or how to change things, or
even what exactly I want to change.
Tbh I dont think you should have another
child right now, soon logan and layla will
both be in nursery so it will be easier
for you to go after something for
yourself. Didnt you want to be a widwife?
You should go for it! I know it will be
hard because you have been a mum for a
while and not done studying, so its going
to be difficult to get used to it again,
but you'll meet people there who are
interested in the same things you are. So
you'll have more friends, be studying
something you enjoy, gaining
qualifications for your future and will
end up doing a job you love that pays
well. You will have acomplished something
for yourself and that will make you feel
good.
Having another child will tie you down
even more. Do something for YOU instead,
it will be interesting and different.
You're young, you can have more kids later
if you want them.
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Becky
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Posted: 11-17-07 05:06am
thanks. i really appreciate your advise. I
have decided to get my coil put back in. i
really wish i'd never had it out in t e
first place. I will have to go to my GP
now to have it back in which will take a
few weeks.
I wanted to do midwifery but it's too long
hours and it wouldn't be fair on the kids.
I think I'm just going to look for a job
within my field. It'll be scary though
actually being face to face with a team
and employer
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sick_mama17
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Joined: 22 Jun 2007 Posts: 960 Location: , England
Posted: 11-17-07 05:10am
Yeah but everything in life is scary, you
have to try to face it or you never get
anywhere...I need to take that advice too
lol
Whats your field of work?
Might be good to work in a school because
then you will be home most of the time
your kids are, and you get all the school
holidays off to be with them too.
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Becky
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Posted: 11-17-07 05:12am
I am work in Digital Media, I create
adverts for local magazines. I would love
to work in a school but I don't know how
i'd go about getting qualified or applying
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Emma2
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Posted: 11-17-07 07:28am
You know what dear, you need to be back
the BC. I don't think you should anything
at the moment. You are having some serious
doubts and sometimes those are usually a
great hint.
take your time with robbie , you have two
small children and there is absolutely no
rush to have another, you are young,
successful and gorgeous. There is plenty
of time for another later . take care of
your wants and needs before .
You should definitely get on bc, and then
do some major soul searching.
Don't make any life changing decisions,
until you figure out what you really want
out of life.
I think you just want to have a baby, that
it's not really that you want to have
Robbies baby.
I understand about liking when he's gone.
I'm pretty introverted. I like my
friends, and I like to be with people
sometimes, but I find I tire of company
fast and I need to refuel myself by being
alone. I love being alone! Sometimes I
miss Thompson and being in an apartment
just me when I was pregnant, and just me
and Rowan after I had her. I miss having
just my stuff, and my thoughts, and my
daughter, and being by myself. I just
really like that feeling.
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sick_mama17
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Joined: 22 Jun 2007 Posts: 960 Location: , England
Posted: 11-17-07 10:57am
tanyaface
wrote:
I understand about liking
when he's gone. I'm pretty introverted.
I like my friends, and I like to be with
people sometimes, but I find I tire of
company fast and I need to refuel myself
by being alone. I love being alone!
Sometimes I miss Thompson and being in an
apartment just me when I was pregnant, and
just me and Rowan after I had her. I miss
having just my stuff, and my thoughts, and
my daughter, and being by myself. I just
really like that
feeling.
Im like that too. I honestly love it being
just me and Jay (and Laney ofcourse) in
here. It would be nice to have a guy
around for some things and I would like to
be in a relationship, but I wouldnt want
to live with the guy for a long while. I
like having no one to answer to, no guy
telling me what I should or should not be
doing. I like being in control and having
my own space. Men make loads of mess,
expect you to do everything for them, try
to take over, and moan all the time. I
have a few friends who are married, they
almost constantly complain to me about
their partners, makes me think "thank god
im not married!"
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Becky
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Posted: 11-17-07 13:31pm
thanks girls
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yellow ribbon
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Posted: 11-17-07 13:39pm
aaahhh this freaking post wouldnt open. it
has seriously taken me about an hour of
going on and off the forum to get to read
this!!
My friend recently got a job at the sears
portrait here and all i get to here about
is her work. I miss my job so much but I
know with three kids theres no way for me
to work a minimum wage job. Plus I dont
want an odd # of kids. I think you should
wait. two is hard enough and adult
converstation is just gunna get farther
away the more kids you have to take care
of. Plus you dont want to have a baby with
someone that you cant see as a part of
your life for the rest of your life. maybe
you could b a part time midwife at a
midwife place and only have a few clients
at a time? I dont really know how that
thing works
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sick_mama17
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Joined: 22 Jun 2007 Posts: 960 Location: , England
Posted: 11-18-07 03:35am
beckster
wrote:
I would love to work in a
school but I don't know how i'd go about
getting qualified or
applying
Its easy to find out all that stuff, you
just need to make some phone calls, or
arrange to have whats called a "work
focused interview" at the job centre. You
can ask them who you need to talk to about
becoming a teacher. Or just look online do
a search for it. Get the number of a
university and ask them what you need to
do to become a teacher, or you could ask
at a college. Phone these places up and
enquire about it. Its easy.
