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Self Confidence in Public Posted: 11-18-07 01:14am
Yesterday I went to the mall to get some
stationary there was the girl who bumped
into me without saying excuse me before
she bump into me or sorry afterwards, to
make the matter worst her mom did the same
thing to me too I was dumbfounded by what
happened part of me wanted to tell off the
duo part of me didn't, at last I let the
matter rest but now it seems to bother me
as I 'don't mind' arguing with person that
I'm comfortable with like my family but
not with outsider I seems to lost my
self-confident; self-esteem please tell me
what to do? Thanks.
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young Girl
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Posted: 11-18-07 01:15am
you avoided confrontation
thats not a bad thing
people are rude
if that would have happened to me i
probably would have said something
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Maddie34
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Posted: 11-18-07 01:37am
I don't really think its a self confidence
issue.
I would have done the same thing, then
vented to someone about it later on.
I hate confrontation, and a rude mom and
her snotty daughter abren't really worth
it anyways...
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Tylanas
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Posted: 11-18-07 01:56am
I automatically say "excuse me" when I
bump into people or even when they bump
into me! It sometimes catches their
attention that yes, you are actually a
human being and yes, you have feelings. I
normally get a "sorry" back. It's a really
polite way to make yourself noticed.
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Birch
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Posted: 11-18-07 13:55pm
I've given up; I just avoid the mall
altogether. There's a mentality of "me
first" and "gotta get" and excessiveness
that makes me vomit.
I admit am not very nice to actively,
knowingly rude people in my presence. My
patience does not extend this far.
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 11-18-07 15:07pm
I always say sorry even if i know that
they walked into me, although when all the
annoying cocky 11 year olds come out of
school and try to make me walk on the road
while pushing my daughter i get mad, i
just keep on going and if they get in my
way then they get run over with the
stroller
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Lion79
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Posted: 11-18-07 18:34pm
If that happened to me I wouldn't shout
back and call them bad names, but I would
loudly grumble about it, like if they
bashed into me I will clearly say 'OW' or
mumble 'get out my way' or something lol.
oh, I was walking from uni the other week
and some charv (if you know what they are)
was coming at me in opposite direction on
his teeny bike (even though he was like
16) and I knew he was gonna deliberately
make a beeline for me and he did and I had
to quickly jump out the way but I really
felt like kicking his wheels as he passed
and then he'd go flying onto the road.
I've also noticed that recently people are
starting to just walk out into the road
without looking, and just amble across so
you have to slow down for them in your
car. anyone else get this?? My bf revs
when it happens, and we missed one by
inches one time.
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Maddie34
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Posted: 11-18-07 18:46pm
I don't stop for cars when I'm on campus.
I look and if there's no way for them to
slow down then I obviously don't go but if
they have room to comfortably stop or slow
down then I'm going. If I'm in the cross
walk they have to stop for me. And I'm not
about to RUN across that crosswalk either.
If you're driving on campus I think its
your job to be overly careful. You should
never be getting within inches of someone
in a cross walk anywhere either.
And when I drive, I just let people go if
they are standing by a cross walk. It
takes forever but I only drive on campus
when I'm going home or coming back
anyways.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 11-18-07 19:50pm
Yeah, when I'm at an obvious cross walk on
a non-busy street I force myself to have
the right-away, and make angry annoyed
faces at cars when they don't stop.
Especially where there is a stop sign
coming out of a parking lot!! People seem
to forget that you're supposed to stop at
the SIGN, and the thick white line right
next to it, which is always
before the cross walk!!
Re: Self Confidence In Public Posted: 11-19-07 11:09am
Hart74
wrote:
Yesterday I went to the mall
to get some stationary there was the girl
who bumped into me without saying excuse
me before she bump into me or sorry
afterwards, to make the matter worst her
mom did the same thing to me too I was
dumbfounded by what happened part of me
wanted to tell off the duo part of me
didn't, at last I let the matter rest but
now it seems to bother me as I 'don't
mind' arguing with person that I'm
comfortable with like my family but not
with outsider I seems to lost my
self-confident; self-esteem please tell me
what to do?
Thanks.
I avoid confrontation also, there are
always rude ppl out there to anoy me but I
just ignore it anymore. I don't want to
say anything because in turn I don't wanna
hear a snappy comment back. I just give
off a look of "do you have any sense or
decency" and walk off. If I'm approached
tho, I will speak my mind.
