Virgin - Erection Loss Before Possible Sex Encounter ...help! Posted: 11-23-07 04:20am
Im new here and i really need help , I
have had this in my mind and its upseting
me ...
Im 23 year old virgin , Ive been so close
to having sex but right before the deed i
cant keep my erection, im not shure if i
might be overthinking things ,or might be
over masturbating, its happened to me
twice first time i was pretty drunk and
though i had drank too much . I have an
erection while clothes are on , kissing
and touching is involved but when clothes
start to come off and its time to go in
,the erection starts to loose and i cant
do it, this happened to me for the second
time about a week ago , i had an erection
while i was kissing the girl and caressing
but as soon as she went to give me a hand
job i could feel me loosing the erection,
i tried keeping it up, but it was not hard
as penis should of been.
I did not end up having sex that time, the
girl thought i was playing hard to get,
but she wants to see me again and im
pretty shure sex is expected .
Things i should mention are:
-Have had anxiety attack in the past
-Tend to be impatient at times
-Masturbate maybe once a day or every
other day
-Stressed out at times
-Drink alot of coffee and energy drinks
-Taking hydroxycut hardcore
-Work out at least 4 times a week
-Felt depressed couple of times this
month
i need some advice , i dont know if im
ready to have sex mentally ..physically i
should be able to , im fit and relatively
healthy..please help!
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marvel
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Posted: 11-23-07 09:38am
it's called performance anxiety. It
happens to the best of us.
Just make sure you're having sex with
someone you trust. That would be my
suggestion. Take is slow if you have to.
It's definitely a mental thing that can be
overcome!
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blue2dead
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Sep 2007 Posts: 3
Posted: 11-25-07 09:23am
yeah it can be overcome i had the same
problem. my girlfriend was understanding.
i slowly worked my way up id orally please
her and get in the mood. take my time if
needed aroused myself. and i guess after a
couple of weeks i became comfortable with
making love to her so whenever i wanted
her i was able to just take her. hopefully
some of this helps just take it slow. the
more confident you are in your partner the
more confident youll be in the bedroom.
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kyles123
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Nov 2007 Posts: 9
Posted: 11-25-07 13:35pm
I have/had the same problem.
i have been going out with my girlfriend
for three months now and i used to always
get hard (really hard) just from making
out / touching. Three weeks into our
relationship we where about to had sex for
the first time. i was hard but right as i
put the condom on and about to preform i
instantly lost my boner ( realized few
weeks ago it was from anxiety).
One thing that has helped me a lot is
start slow, don't go straight to sex try
going slowly as possible to be comfortable
with her (telling her your problem WILL
help you overcome this faster).
Also i used to drink 2-5 coffee's a day, I
completely stopped when ever i have the
urge to drink a coffee i just grab a
bottle of water.
hope this helps its been working for me.
PS: i also had the same experience as you
i was loaded (drunk) at a party few months
before my girlfriend, same thing happened
to me I couldn't get my boner up and when
i did it did not last long (did notcum
just lost it). My story was a bit worse
though...... she was really drunk as well
and she was walking home as a cop drove by
and noticed she was drunk, she told the
officer i sexually assaulted her and i
went to jail for the night. they found out
she was lieing since i had hickies allover
my body so obviously i cant fours someone
to do that.
anyways good luck again!
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si12j12
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Nov 2007 Posts: 5
Posted: 11-28-07 23:12pm
wow thanx for the responce people, now i
know im not alone....but i have bad news,
it happened again i was about to go in ,
and well just lost it ... she was teasing
me for the longest time and all through
the teasing i had an erection. By the time
all it was time could get hard , the weird
part is that my stomach and testicles were
hurting , i actually had pain and could
not continue . Long story short i just
couldnt ..
Honestly im getting upset over this and
makes me start thinking to just stop going
out and going back to being passive guy
,focus on different things ...
