Teen Pregnancy Forum - Teen Pregnancy Negative Impact On Parents

This post is taken from: I Got 2 Lines!!! Im Preger.

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Posted: 11-23-07 2:34am
futureshock wrote:

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This whole thread makes me sad. I really worry about many of these kids.

I m shocked at how little thought goes into "baby-making".

If you are going to depend on your parents for food and shelter, insurance, babysitting, etc. , the least you could do would be to ask their permission before you "ttc".

How could a person have a baby on purpose while she's not old enough to drive or make her own doctor's appointment (as this OP stated on page 1)? How are you going to make phone calls and doctor's appt's for YOUR CHILD? How will you get your child to the doctor and/or the emrgency room if need be?

Unreal.

prettygirlygirl wrote:

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Hear Hear.

I agree with all of this, 110%. I had a child when I was far too young, my daughter was totally unplanned and I was properly terrified. Given the chance to have my daughter 10 years (hell, 20 years) later, I'd take it in a heartbeat. My life has been much harder than it needed to be.

I also wanted to address futureshock's comment about asking your parents for permission. A) if you still have to ask your parents permission for ANYTHING you're too young to have a child, and B) If you're so immature that you're under the impression that you're going to have to have a life with your (current) SO independant from your parents based on the wage of a job that pays by the hour, you're too young to have a child.

When I became pregnant I seriously thought having a baby would be all sweet baby smiles and cuddles and I was enough of a grownup to deal with all the financial, emotional and physical aspects that come with raising a child. Boy was I bloody wrong! As a consequence of my (mis)behaviour, my mother has quit her job to help me take care of my daughter so I can finish my education (I obviously can't afford child care), my dad had hoped to retire around this time, but we're such a drain it will take him many more years, and I know that they won't get to have the retired life they were looking forward to until they're confident I'm on my feet. That's not fair. Their lives have changed drastically as a result of my actions.

My life has been, and will continue to be incredibly hard. That's fine, I made my bed, I'll lie in it. I love my daughter and will give her everything I can (though, she'd have had a much better life had she come alone in another decade), however, my parents didn't plan on another kid and now their stuck helping raise one. All of their careful planning and life work went out the window when I brought a kid home.

It is refreshing to hear a person realize the impact they've had on their parents. I wish more teens would understnd everything you've said in this post. Thanks for writing it.