Im scared to death...im only 17..the guy
whos baby this is, is 23 and wants nothing
to do with me or my baby...what do i do?
im all alone...
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Tylanas
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Posted: 11-24-07 19:53pm
How far along are you? Is the baby already
born?
If you are under 20 weeks pregnant then
abortion may be a safe option for you that
won't ruin your life. If you're against
abortion then you could consider adoption.
Both options let you go back to your life
before the unwanted pregnancy began, which
for someone your age is often a good idea.
You still need to finish school and go to
college and get a strong career before
raising a child.
IF you plan to finish the pregnancy then
you must tell your parents. Hiding a baby
bump isn't easy, and you're going to need
transportation in order to get proper
pre-natal care so that the baby is born
healthy and can go to loving parents (or
possibly stay with you if you want to keep
it).
If you need sources for women's clinics I
can help you find some in your area, and
help you avoid false clinics that will try
to guilt you out of aborting if that's the
decision you want to make. You don't need
someone shoving their opinion down your
throat and making you feel worse: you need
someone who cares.
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young Girl
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Posted: 11-24-07 20:07pm
you have options
you need to talk to som,eone about this
abortion? adoption? if you CANt do this by
yourself then you do have options and you
can get help.
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dayiscoming2006
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Joined: 25 Nov 2007 Posts: 29 Location: Minnesota, USA
Posted: 11-25-07 20:55pm
Hey, I know you're scared. Have you told
your parents? If they offer to help you or
if someone else you are close to offers to
help that could bring you relief. Or you
could go with adoption. There are two
types of adoption. Closed adoption is when
you don't want future contact with the
baby. Open adoption would allow you to
visit the baby as they grow and see how
they are doing more easily. Google search
for an adoption agency in your area. They
provide services free of charge for you
and will sometimes pay any medical
expenses.
If you consider abortion, make sure you
are completely informed.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 11-25-07 21:36pm
Just a reminder to keep this from being a
debate: most women who fully make the
decision to abort by themselves and truly
know it is the right decision for them
never regret their abortion. 70% of all
women who abort never regret the decision.
However, if that's not what you feel in
your heart is the right decision, then it
may not be the best choice for you. In
which case, dayiscoming2006 has some
excellent advice about adoption.
The best advice I can give to you right
now is to avoid biased sites and clinics.
You need to make your own decision without
anyone trying to guilt you one way or the
other. You need the real facts.
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dayiscoming2006
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Posted: 11-25-07 22:11pm
I would say that every site/clinic is
biased. Many sites/clinics try not to be
but they are likely still biased. In my
honest opinion you should look at
sites/clinics from those who are both pro
life(baby) and pro choice to make the
right decision since then you will know
both sides of the fence.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 11-25-07 22:23pm
Pro-choice sites will only present facts.
Many pro-life sites have emotionalized
images - many of which are fake and/or
mislabeled. I deal daily with the lies
that are told on pro-life sites so I do
not consider them a reputable source.
Again, I urge the Original Poster to find
real information. Wikipedia would probably
be an excellent and unbiased source for
abortion.
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amethyst eyes
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Posted: 11-25-07 22:32pm
I agree with Eiri. The most bias sites i
have seen are those made by anti-choice
organizations.
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soldierswifey
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Posted: 11-26-07 01:06am
do what you feel is best for the baby and
you
and i completly agree with Eiri and
iridescent_opal
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dayiscoming2006
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Joined: 25 Nov 2007 Posts: 29 Location: Minnesota, USA
Posted: 11-26-07 10:08am
If you would like to talk more about your
situation or the decisions you need to
make, I would love to talk to you and give
you support in any way I can through my
words. Sometimes it helps to talk. I hope
for you the best.
Private message me any time if you want.
Another thing, my sis was 17 and in high
school when she got pregnant and my
parents are kind of scary I would say but
she told them and it was a little hard at
first but they accepted it and my sister
had her baby and kept it. Things will work
out one way or the other. If your parents
are not accepting, there may be other
friends or family that may be able to help
you and I believe government places are
out there to help people in your
situation.
Some churches might also be willing to
help.
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candy_sandy
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Joined: 28 Nov 2007 Posts: 3
Hello Posted: 11-28-07 15:48pm
hi i kinda know how you feel i was
pregnant but miscarried when i was 19 i
was so scared and the guy was horrible
about it.
(i can tell you more if you private
message me)
i know what its like to have no one to
talk to its very lonely and scary. if you
absolutely cant handle it abortion is best
as long as your willing to go through with
it. and adoption is always good. but if
you cant decide what to do your going to
have to tell someone.
