I've been with my boyfriend for almost 21
months (it will be 2 years in March). We
knew eachother for about a week before we
started dating (seems a little crazy). We
have been living together for 16 months.
Early in the relationship before we moved
out together, we went to the mall, and he
wanted to look at engagement rings, I was
ecstatic to see that he was serious about
our relationship (I had never even
mentioned getting married before the first
time he wanted to look at rings). Anyways,
the relationship went on, and we moved in
together. We continued looking at rings
together, he always initiated going into
the jewlery stores. He even got the
employee to write down style numbers and
my ring size! So last Christmas, he
insisted that we exchange gifts at my
parents house on Christmas morning instead
of at our apartment. So I was anticipating
that he would pop the question at my
parents. He didnt.. Then it came
Valentines and my birthday (theyre on the
same day), and I was again expecting that
he would pop the question, and he didnt.
We don't look at jewlery stores anymore,
but every now and then he talks about "our
wedding" when we watch those wedding
shows. I feel like I was misled by him. I
now think that at the start of our
relationship he wanted to seem like he had
lots of money in order to impress me. Now
when I ask him about marriage he says that
hes not ready, and asks me where I got the
idea that he was interested in marriage. I
told him that when he had me trying on
engagement rings, it gave me the idea that
he was ready. He replied and said that he
just liked to look at the "ring designs".
**I don't want to push him into
marriage!** However, I hope that we get
engaged in the near future, and married in
a couple of years. I don't want to push
him into anything, but my goal is to be
married some day, and if thats not his
goal, then we have some big decisions to
make.
1) Do you think that he wanted to marry me
before, but now hes not sure?
OR
2) Do you think that he never wanted to
get married, he just wanted it to seem
like he had lots of money?
Can I have your opinions please?
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ladyT02
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Posted: 11-25-07 23:31pm
It sounds iffy to me, maybe he wanted to
but his friends changed his mind? Maybe
he.s really not married? There's tons of
reasons. Its like my boyfriend of 1year
did the same. He would talk bout if we had
kids etc, he would talk about what our
futur would be like, what type of house,
dog etc lol we would have but now he.s jus
acts like he hates kids etc. So I jus
don't believe him and move on to the more
important things
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amethyst eyes
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Nov 2006 Posts: 1339
Posted: 11-25-07 23:38pm
You need to talk to him about this. We
are just people on the internet and have
no way of knowing what is going on in his
head.
You need to discuss your future. If you
do not have the same idea then you need to
contemplate where you relationship is
heading
