I've been having sex with my current
boyfriend for about a month now. I was a
virgin before I met him. We both enjoy sex
but I'm uncomfortable going down on him.
Like oral sex and even giving him a hang
job. I just can't get over it. I don't
want to hurt him and I don't know how to
go about doing it...Does anyone have any
pointers for me to get over this? I'm not
like grossed out or anything, I just don't
know how..
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lightweight
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Take Your Time Posted: 11-26-07 14:31pm
I know how you feel, I was a virgin when i
met my current bf, and oral sex seemed
awkward and gross to me. If he cares, he
will be patient with you and wait until
you are ready to try, b/c uncomfortable
oral is not good oral. You won't be into
it and it will be harder for him to get
into it.
You have to start with a handjob first to
work your way up to oral. Develop a "love"
for the penis. lol or you will always
think it's disgusting. Don't think too
hard about, "oh, I'm touching his penis"
but rather focusing on giving him pleasure
and turning him on. You shouldn't be
touching it b/c u think you should. It
should be about expressing intimate love.
If you make yourselves really horny, it
will be easier b/c you'll practically be
in the mood to try anything. :p
When you finally decide to try oral, just
treat it like a lollipop and think of how
you like to be pleasured. and make sure he
has showered...lol And pick up a Cosmo for
other oral tips, they have a lot of advice
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PenguinsRus
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Posted: 11-26-07 16:10pm
I agree with everything that lightweight
says.
Also, if you can't seem to figure it out,
maybe watching a porn or two will help you
become more comfortable with it and see
some techniques. However, not all guys
like the same thing, so after you try it
once or twice try asking him what feels
good to him, and what he likes and doesn't
like as much about it.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 11-26-07 22:30pm
Once you build up the courage for oral,
here are a few tips:
1. Don't deep-throat. Don't even try. Why
gag for no reason? Men get stimulation
from envelopment and your mouth on the
head of their penis. Use your hands to
encompass the rest of his shaft and focus
your sucking power on the head!
2. Use LOTS of spit. Oral is not a clean
pretty act; it's rather messy and slimy.
3. Pay attention to HIM. Try all sorts of
things; suck harder, use more spit, flick
your tongue, switch to hands. A newbie at
oral who actually pays attention to the
guy will actually give a better blow job
than a girl who thinks she knows what
she's doing and ignores the man's
responses!
4. Swallow. Just a personal thing;
obviously if it's just disgusting tasting
then spit. However, I've swallowed every
single time I've ever given oral, even the
first time.
5. Punch him in his privates if he dares
to try and force your head down or tries
to force you to deep throat! [edit] Or better
yet, BITE him!
6. On the subject of biting, some guys do
actually like a bit of teeth. Ask, or
hopefully, he'll tell you.
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strawberrywine
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Nov 2007 Posts: 6
Posted: 11-26-07 22:54pm
Thanks for the replies! Eiri yours made me
laugh. You were all very helpful.
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