Advice On No Ejaculation On oral sex Posted: 12-04-07 05:37am
Hi there
I've posted this on the Men's forum too,
apologies, but was hoping for both points
of view. Just wondered if anyone has
encountered this and any tips- thank you v
much.
I've been seeing my boyfriend for about 6
weeks now. He gets an erection very
quickly and whilst at the beginning he'd
climax v quickly when I'd hardly touched
him, now it seems to take a while. I am
not v experienced at sex and we have not
full intercourse which I know he wants but
he has agreed that we take our time. I
give him oral sex and enjoy doing it, but
dont think I do it very well since it
takes a while for him to climax. I am
trying to read more about what he would
like. It might sound a silly question, but
is it normal for him to take a while to
climax? Does it mean he's turned on enough
to get hard but not enough to climax? I
really like this guy and want to please
him. He is a generous and sweet lover to
me and I want to be able to please him the
same.
Many thanks
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Rosie H
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Posted: 12-04-07 12:57pm
My boyfriend can take 20 minutes to climax
with oral sex and other times only 5
minutes. I think its perfectly normal.
Ask him what he likes. I can tell you
what my guy likes but your boyfriend could
like something totally different.
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bedfor
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Posted: 12-04-07 16:58pm
Hi there
Thanks Rosie H for your response which
reassured me. Although I know my bf might
like different things which I am in the
process of finding out, I'd appreciate any
tips you have on what you do...
Many thanks
xxxx
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Rosie H
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Posted: 12-04-07 17:45pm
Honestly, I watched porn. I would see
what they did and then I would do that to
my hubby. There were some things that he
didnt like and others he went crazy for.
You can tell by his body language and the
noises he makes. Try to be open and not
too shy. I looked him right in the eye
and went down on him. After I was done I
asked him if he liked what I just did. I
literally did things to him and asked him
questions. I think the trick is to
explore and do what you think feels good.
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haille
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Joined: 15 Nov 2007 Posts: 81
Well Said Posted: 12-06-07 00:08am
Rosie H
wrote:
My boyfriend can take 20
minutes to climax with oral sex and other
times only 5 minutes. I think its
perfectly normal. Ask him what he likes.
I can tell you what my guy likes but your
boyfriend could like something totally
different.
Excellent suggestion...I couldn't have
said it better myself.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 12-06-07 12:10pm
Many men take a long time to orgasm from
oral sex; my ex did too. 30 minutes
sometimes!!!
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haille
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Joined: 15 Nov 2007 Posts: 81
Get Out of Dodge! Posted: 12-09-07 12:27pm
Eiri
wrote:
Many men take a long time to
orgasm from oral sex; my ex did too. 30
minutes
sometimes!!!
Personally, I not very into oral sex. I
do it, upon request, I tend to go for
other methods of stimulation. For me,
oral sex is played out.
However, 30 minutes...how do you do it! I
would get lock jaw.
You got skills.
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Tylanas
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Re: Get Out of Dodge! Posted: 12-09-07 13:29pm
haille
wrote:
Eiri
wrote:
Many men take a long time to
orgasm from oral sex; my ex did too. 30
minutes
sometimes!!!
Personally, I not very into oral sex. I
do it, upon request, I tend to go for
other methods of stimulation. For me,
oral sex is played out.
However, 30 minutes...how do you do it! I
would get lock jaw.
You got skills.
Lol. My biggest pain was always in my
neck. I don't deepthroat so I don' really
have to worry about that, and I use a
combination of hand stimulation and oral
so it's not always mouth-on lol.
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bedfor
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Joined: 30 Jul 2006 Posts: 16 Location: London
Progress! Posted: 12-12-07 08:13am
Hi guys
Thanks for your posts which reassured me
that it was not just that I was completely
rubbish at it! I think I've worked it out
a bit re hand and oral at the same time
etc...my bf is very happy...just took some
practice...He is very sweet to me.
One more Q though, i think he'd like me to
put my finger in his anus...not sure if I
like that idea...is it ok to that?
Many thanks
x
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haille
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Joined: 15 Nov 2007 Posts: 81
Even Better Posted: 12-14-07 10:11am
Rosie H
wrote:
Honestly, I watched porn. I
would see what they did and then I would
do that to my hubby. There were some
things that he didnt like and others he
went crazy for. You can tell by his body
language and the noises he makes. Try to
be open and not too shy. I looked him
right in the eye and went down on him.
After I was done I asked him if he liked
what I just did. I literally did things
to him and asked him questions. I think
the trick is to explore and do what you
think feels good.
How could anyone not understand the
simplicity of your response. This is
exactly my personal motto, explore and
discover what feels good. This is the
only way to know. The good thing is
sometimes you discover things that you
would have never imagined nor known had
you not chosen to let go of your
inhibitions and explore, pay attention to
feelings, body language, and your entire
environment. Soon, people will be asking
you for advice. These suggestions are
great give them a shot. Then, let us know
of your success
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haille
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Joined: 15 Nov 2007 Posts: 81
Re: Get Out of Dodge! Posted: 12-14-07 10:16am
Eiri
wrote:
haille
wrote:
Eiri
wrote:
Many men take a long time to
orgasm from oral sex; my ex did too. 30
minutes
sometimes!!!
Personally, I not very into oral sex. I
do it, upon request, I tend to go for
other methods of stimulation. For me,
oral sex is played out.
However, 30 minutes...how do you do it! I
would get lock jaw.
You got skills.
Lol. My biggest pain was always in my
neck. I don't deepthroat so I don' really
have to worry about that, and I use a
combination of hand stimulation and oral
so it's not always mouth-on
lol.
There are two words you used that I would
like to address specifically, deep throat
and stimulation. These words are exactly
why I don't really go for the oral sex.
Any attempt to deep throat encourages a
gag stimulation. For me, there's not much
that is sexy about that.
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