PaperScissorsRock
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One of Those Days
Posted: 12-05-07 09:52am
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where I have no idea how I am going to
make it to night time. I feel so
frustrated and overwhelmed and hopeless.
I should be at school but Rowan hasn't
stopped screaming long enough for me to
get her ready, and she can't seem to be
contented at all today. Then she fell
asleep in her highchair while I was trying
to get her to eat something, and now I
wouldn't think of waking her up now that
she is content just to fight her into her
snowsuit and walk to school and sit
through class with my puffy-from-crying
eyeballs.
I just can't even think today. I'm so
tired, and feel like things are getting
too much for me. Rowan, school, the house
work, and trying to take care of myself is
getting to feel too much. I feel like I
can't keep up, and I'm tired.
I feel fat and disgusting and like I don't
want to go to school and have to be around
all those people. And I don't want to
talk to my friends or even to Nathan
today. I don't want to be around Rowan
either. I want to be by myself.
It's just a bad day today.
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Emma2
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Posted: 12-05-07 09:56am
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Awwe you are far from fat. Stop downing
yourself , you are gorgeous and ambitious!
We all have those days were we want to run
away from our lives and everything in it.
Chrsitian fights me everyday when its time
to dress and then even worse when i put
his snowsuit. You are not alone, they all
do this!!! Maybe Rowan is extra cranky
because she's teething?
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PaperScissorsRock
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Posted: 12-05-07 10:02am
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All babies do fight getting dressed, I
just don't have the energy for it now that
she's napping after screaming since she's
been up since about 6 20. She's just been
300 times more difficult in the last week
or so and it's starting to really wear at
me, to the point where I'm glad when she's
with one of her grandmothers, or where I'd
much rather be at school then home with
her.
thanks for the reply, maybe she is
teething.
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Emma2
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Posted: 12-05-07 10:08am
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wow 6:20 thats a good time compared to C
wakiung up everyday at 5:23! yes, 23!
it's clockwork!
i would also rather be at work some days
than to spend it with him when he's all
b&*(cy...... 
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Becky
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Posted: 12-05-07 10:12am
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aw hun I can only imagine what you are
going through. When I went back to school
(college) last year i only lasted 6 weeks
cause it was mega stressful being woken up
by the babies every night and getting them
both ready in the mornings by myself
etc...
I have alot of respect for you for making
something of your life and I know Rowan
will too.
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Emma2
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Posted: 12-05-07 10:15am
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I have alot of respect for you for making
something of your life and I know Rowan
will too.[/quote]
here, here!
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Ingi
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Posted: 12-05-07 10:16am
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That is totally 100% normal, normal,
normal to feel that way, Tanya. Honest.
Sometimes just getting away from the
screaming and crying and being a real
person, not just a mom, is the very best
feeling. If you are feeling guilty about
that at all, don't. I don't think it is a
feeling that ever really goes away.
Sometimes we feel defined by motherhood
(the house, school, taking care of
everything) and we need to have a time
where we can feel like us without
those things wrapped around us like
tentacles.
(((hugs)))
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PaperScissorsRock
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Posted: 12-05-07 10:18am
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I'm not complaining Nancy (okay I am), I
know people have it harder then me and I
should be thankful. I can deal with these
things normally, but today every little
thing is getting to me. I don't think
6:20 is a really horrible time for her to
be getting up, in fact that's about normal
for her (normally she's up betwen 6- 7 and
I get up at 5:30 most days to get myself
ready before her). It's the fact that she
has been crying and moaning since she got
up. It's just today that I feel like I
don't have the strength to deal with her,
and everything else.
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PaperScissorsRock
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Posted: 12-05-07 10:20am
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thanks nacy becky and ingi
Ingi, where does the time to be "us" come
from? I can't even keep up with all the
other things I have to do let alone find
spare time.
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Becky
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Posted: 12-05-07 10:22am
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When Rowan is with her Grandma make sure
you do something for YOU forget the
housework- you can do that when she is
asleep. Go out shopping, watch a film,
paint your nails, have a long relaxing
bath- just do something that makes you
happy.
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Ingi
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Posted: 12-05-07 10:31am
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This is one of the hardest parts of being
a mom, Tanya. Also, one of the things no
one can ever explain to someone who is
pregnant and about to have their first
baby. As that pregnant person, you keep
hearing people say, "Just wait. Everything
changes." It is one of those things you
never understand until you live it.
As for where the time comes from? I have
no clue. We eek it out where ever we can
get it. Do we still feel guilty about it?
Heck yes. Do we worry that we aren't
giving enough? Oh yeah. Does it come easy?
No. Despite how much it looks like someone
might have it made - it doesn't come easy
for any of us.
It hurts sometimes to be a mom. It is
hard. And I will be honest, sometimes it
sucks. You'll find your way through it.
You are a great mom. You are an amazing
person. You are talented and giving. I'm
always so proud of you! (((HUGS)))
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Amber*Marie
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Posted: 12-05-07 11:49am
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| Ingi
wrote: | This is one of the hardest
parts of being a mom, Tanya. Also, one of
the things no one can ever explain to
someone who is pregnant and about to have
their first baby. As that pregnant person,
you keep hearing people say, "Just wait.
Everything changes." It is one of those
things you never understand until you live
it.
As for where the time comes from? I have
no clue. We eek it out where ever we can
get it. Do we still feel guilty about it?
Heck yes. Do we worry that we aren't
giving enough? Oh yeah. Does it come easy?
No. Despite how much it looks like someone
might have it made - it doesn't come easy
for any of us.
It hurts sometimes to be a mom. It is
hard. And I will be honest, sometimes it
sucks. You'll find your way through it.
You are a great mom. You are an amazing
person. You are talented and giving. I'm
always so proud of you!
(((HUGS))) |
i totally agree with this!!
theres days where Amelias whines ALL day
and i break down! I have to put her in
her crib and just go outside and smoke. If
I lived in the country and I would go
outside and just scream at the top of my
lungs. I got to the point where I just get
so frustrated with her cries and just go
to a corner and cry my eyes out. Its so
hard to be a mom and noone understands
unless they are a mom themsleves. *hugs*
We all obviously been there!
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yellow ribbon
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Posted: 12-05-07 17:53pm
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ya i hated going to school before i was
pregnant theres no way i could get up get
ready and get a baby ready and then on top
WALK in the cold/snow. That alone deserves
respect then throw in your living
basically on your own and all the stuff
youve gone thru and your age you deserve
to have times where you can just say screw
it im staying home today. Your so awesome
Id be so proud to be your friend Rowans gunna be so
lucky to grow up with you as her mommy.
You should be like the spokes model on
being a teen mommy cuz you do it all and
manage to hold it together
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Bridget
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Posted: 12-05-07 18:40pm
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i agree with dani. you really are a great
role model!!
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Zanny
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Posted: 12-05-07 18:50pm
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I'm sorry you're having a rough day,
Tanya. It does sound like it could be
teething that's making Rowan grumpy..
Jenny acts the same way when her teeth are
bothering her. I hope tomorrow is a better
day for both of you.
I really admire you for being such an
amazing role model for your daughter.
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Posted: 12-05-07 19:14pm
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| ~dani~
wrote: | | ya i hated going to school
before i was pregnant theres no way i
could get up get ready and get a baby
ready and then on top WALK in the
cold/snow. That alone deserves respect
then throw in your living basically on
your own and all the stuff youve gone thru
and your age you deserve to have times
where you can just say screw it im staying
home today. Your so awesome Id be so proud
to be your friend Rowans gunna be so
lucky to grow up with you as her mommy.
You should be like the spokes model on
being a teen mommy cuz you do it all and
manage to hold it
together |
I second that!
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jessesgirl
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Posted: 12-05-07 20:58pm
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Anytime I feel like I'm overwhelmed with
things and I'm stressed and I feel like
there's no end in sight I always remember
that it'll only make me a stronger person.
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Mommy35
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Posted: 12-05-07 21:04pm
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I have great respect for all that you are
doing. There are a lot of women that
don't do half of what you do and it's
still too much for them.
You should do something really fun with
your time off. Housework can wait.
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