I Don't Know What to Do!!! Posted: 04-15-04 23:31pm
I'm 17 years old and I am pregnant. My
"friend" who would be the father is 17
also and he is a big football player who
has dreams and aspirations of becoming an
nfl player. I have strong feelings for
him, but the feelings aren't returned, and
if we were to have this child we need to
get along and i'm not sure that we would.
Him and his family are christian, and
don't believe in sex before marriage
really. I'm worried about him and what
having a child will do to his career and
his family...I'm considering abortion very
strongly right now, but my heart knows
that I want my baby but I have to consider
the other half. Please help I can't just
disregard what he feels and says.
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insurancegirl
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Joined: 25 Sep 2003 Posts: 5286
Posted: 04-15-04 23:52pm
Last edited by insurancegirl on 10-18-04 12:40pm; edited 1 time in total
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JillMarie
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Joined: 24 Dec 2003 Posts: 3022 Location: Iowa
Posted: 04-15-04 23:56pm
You should do what you want. Not what he
wants. He knew that you could get
pregnant but he had sex with you anyways
and he must not care about his beliefs too
much otherwise he wouldnt have had sex
with you. Many girls raise babies alone
and lets face it he is only 17 and he
probably wont take the responsibility the
way it sounds so the decision should be
yours not his. After all you will be the
one up with a sick baby and changing
diapers.
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ERICA83
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Mar 2004 Posts: 738 Location: clinton twp, MI
Posted: 04-15-04 23:59pm
All I can tell you is if you want to keep
your child, that is your perogotive and
yes do consider him and his feelings he is
only the father. Donot let his family or
other people influence your decision. If
he walks away from this then thats on him.
Dont feel that you cant do this alone
because you can if you really want to. I
would just tell him what's up and however
he deals with it is however he deals with
it. You cant make someone love you or
change their life. Only they can make
that decision. And he can still fufill
his dreams just because he will be having
a child doesnt mean his life will be over.
I am 20 and expecting my first baby which
is a boy in august. When I first found
out I was so scared of what everyone in
the "family" would think almost everyone
tried to throw money at me to get an
abortion and I told myself, this isnt what
I want its what they want and its my life.
Yes having a child is a difficult task
but the benefits outweigh the
disadvantages. God gave you this child
for a reason. It is a blessing and you
need to count your blessings. Now I am
feeling my lil one kick and I know all
this may sound corny and all but I love it
and I love the fact that I am soon going
to be a mother. My family wouldnt even
talk to me at first and now they wanna see
u/s pics and ask about names and debate on
who he will look like ect ect. Yes the
father and I r together but we r not
married. He is only 21 himself. There is
no guarrantee that we will be together 10
years from now but that is a risk I am
willing to take. You have to make the
best of things and do what is best for
you. Let your heart speak. Dont do
something you think you may end up
regreting. The hardest thing for me was
to tell my dad. I didnt even tell him
till like almost 3 weeks ago and im in my
5th month. I got what I feared an angry
reaction. He went off on me and I told
him look this is what im doing, either
accept it or ya dont. It sounds harsh but
did anyone in your family consult you when
they were faced with a difficult decision?
Noone in mine did. Anyway ill end this
now lol cuz I could go on forever. Just
really think about this. ~ erica.
