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Just Curious - ok to have crush while dating someone else? Posted: 12-06-07 14:28pm
Do you think it is wrong to B N a serious
relationship, and have a crush on some1
else????????
I don't c anythin wrong w/ it as long as
it's juz a crush, and u don't try to get
up w/ that person or anything...... Now
if your n a relationship, and u like sum1
else, and u try to get w/ that person,
yea, i do think that is wrong. I always
say "u can look, but not touch!!!"
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Maddie34
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Posted: 12-06-07 14:40pm
How serious is this relationship? And
whats your definition of crush?
If you're in a serious relationship with
someone then I don't really see why you
would have a crush on someone else? I
guess to me it just doesn't follow. I
don't really think it is right or wrong,
but if you were really into your
relationship then why on earth would you
spend time thinking about someone else? If
you were in a relationship with someone
that you weren't really serious about then
I could see how this would come about
though and I suppose its fine as long as
the relationship is all around casual to
begin with. In my current relationship I
don't think I'd be too pleased to know if
my guy had a "crush" on another girl.
With a crush do you mean you recognize
that the person is nice and you could be
physically attratched to them or what?
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Jude-Love
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Posted: 12-06-07 14:47pm
A harmless crush is probably okay. To me,
a harmless crush is someone you are
physically attracted to and nothing more.
If you have romantic feelings for someone
else, that is bad.
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Rosie H
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Posted: 12-06-07 23:39pm
if this guy is starting to take up your
mental space then that is a problem. It
is ok to be attracted to a man. We are
only human right? But be careful.
This happened to me before. My boyfriend
and I have gone through a lot lately and
it started when he lost his job (injury at
work) and I had to pay for everything. He
turned into this lazy guy who didnt help
me at all. He regained his teenager
traits and just was not the same person.
There was this older man at work that was
very handsome. I started seeing things in
him that used to be in my hubby. I started
to think about him outside of work. Once
this happened I completely stopped talking
to him and stopped being around him. It
was easy as that. My hubby means more to
me to even think about liking another man.
So yeah, definately put a stop to this
infatuation. If you love someone enough it
wontbe a hard thing to do....
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lonestarguy
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Posted: 12-06-07 23:53pm
Rosie H
wrote:
if this guy is starting to
take up your mental space then that is a
problem. It is ok to be attracted to a
man. We are only human right? But be
careful.
This happened to me before. My boyfriend
and I have gone through a lot lately and
it started when he lost his job (injury at
work) and I had to pay for everything. He
turned into this lazy guy who didnt help
me at all. He regained his teenager
traits and just was not the same person.
There was this older man at work that was
very handsome. I started seeing things in
him that used to be in my hubby. I started
to think about him outside of work. Once
this happened I completely stopped talking
to him and stopped being around him. It
was easy as that. My hubby means more to
me to even think about liking another man.
So yeah, definately put a stop to this
infatuation. If you love someone enough it
wontbe a hard thing to
do....
Rosie,
Did your hubby finally straighten out his
life after the injury?
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Maddie34
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Posted: 12-07-07 00:07am
Ah I remember that!
He hurt his knee right?
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Rosie H
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Posted: 12-07-07 09:42am
Yeah things did work out. He started work
yesterday. I kicked out his buddy from
our apartment a couple of weeks ago. Its
only him and I now. Once his friend left
(he was living w/us for 3 months) he
totally changed. He became for
considerate and when I asked him to help
out he didnt hesitate. He has done a
total turn around without his buddy there.
I think his buddy was his way out of
responsibility. I think he got a little
scared because we have gotten so serious
in our relationship. Doug was his way of
escaping the reality and becoming a
pre-teen again. LOL. But it was really
bumpy and we worked it out. His actions
are starting to back up what he promised
me. So for now, thats enough for me.
Thanks guys for rememberin and caring to
ask.
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PixieKat
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Posted: 12-07-07 18:10pm
As long as you dont act on it, your fine..
a crush is just that a crush.. its not
like your cheating on your bf.. i think
its only natural to find other ppl
attractive, even if u have your soulmate.
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Mikolas
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Posted: 12-09-07 17:18pm
I think that probably anybody that feels
it is ok to be in a "serious"
relationship, and have a emotional
attraction with somebody else, probably
feels that way because they either are, or
have been in that situation already. It
seems like a contradiction, how can one be
in a Serious relationship, and feel things
for another at the same time? It makes
about as much sense as the term married
bachelor, or kind of pregnant, pretty
ugly, yadda yadda, whatever those kind of
terminologies are called.
If it is a physical crush because one
think he/she is hot, no biggie, if
somebody is attractive, there is no
denying it.
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Aunt WeeWee
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Thanks Posted: 12-10-07 14:00pm
Thanks U guys. I was juz curious bout
other people opinions....
